can i be proud of being black but not...

can i be proud of being black but not attracted to black guys??

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Since: Oct 07

United States

#1 Oct 10, 2007
obviously im jusdt seeing what ppl think - i already know how i feel about it. i think its because ive grown up around different people and cultures so ive never felt like i HAVE to like black guys. so i kind of just grew up not being attracted in that way to black guys.
i know a black guy like that he is kind of a friend...sort of. and we were talking about it one day and he said he didnt like the way most black girls look. like he hates dark skin. i thin kblack girls are gorgeous but im not homosexual so yeah. im aatracted to every other race though its weird. im only 18 but ive been this way for as long as i can remember. most of my bfs have been hispanic/latinos and i dated like 1 asian guy lol white guys are hot too but i havent dated any just danced with them, made out - just small stuff.

anyone else here like that?

Since: Oct 07

United States

#2 Oct 10, 2007
good god - the typos lol

“PEACE !!!”

Since: Oct 07

why

#3 Oct 10, 2007
Not me, I like men with a little color, black, asian, indian, native american, hispanic, even middle eastern. Whites are cute, but my preference is darker. But I dont knock you for what you like, thats you. Peace.
help out

Lincoln, NE

#4 Oct 10, 2007
evilbunnyme08 wrote:
obviously im jusdt seeing what ppl think - i already know how i feel about it. i think its because ive grown up around different people and cultures so ive never felt like i HAVE to like black guys. so i kind of just grew up not being attracted in that way to black guys.
i know a black guy like that he is kind of a friend...sort of. and we were talking about it one day and he said he didnt like the way most black girls look. like he hates dark skin. i thin kblack girls are gorgeous but im not homosexual so yeah. im aatracted to every other race though its weird. im only 18 but ive been this way for as long as i can remember. most of my bfs have been hispanic/latinos and i dated like 1 asian guy lol white guys are hot too but i havent dated any just danced with them, made out - just small stuff.
anyone else here like that?
You can't be a black woman and not date black men. the race belongs to the male and not the woman, because the black male created the black culture,and the black music. when the world think of the black race,they see the black male.

“"im also a part of you"”

Since: Feb 07

belohorizonte, Brasil

#5 Oct 10, 2007
Its fine, no one should ever feel like they have to be attracted to thier own race. As long as you arent putting down your race, which i know you arent then youre good. My little brother is reaching the age where he is starting to notice girls, and he thinks that spanish/hispanic girl are the bomb but he will turn around and be like, that black girl is fly too! lol
everyone has a preference.
Willing Thinker

Walnut Creek, OH

#6 Oct 10, 2007
More power to you I guess, though I might be a little hurt/jealous witnessing this.
Carribean

Palm Bay, FL

#7 Oct 13, 2007
evilbunnyme08 wrote:
obviously im jusdt seeing what ppl think - i already know how i feel about it. i think its because ive grown up around different people and cultures so ive never felt like i HAVE to like black guys. so i kind of just grew up not being attracted in that way to black guys.
i know a black guy like that he is kind of a friend...sort of. and we were talking about it one day and he said he didnt like the way most black girls look. like he hates dark skin. i thin kblack girls are gorgeous but im not homosexual so yeah. im aatracted to every other race though its weird. im only 18 but ive been this way for as long as i can remember. most of my bfs have been hispanic/latinos and i dated like 1 asian guy lol white guys are hot too but i havent dated any just danced with them, made out - just small stuff.
anyone else here like that?
Yo i really think i was alone.I mean i love black man and all cause i have black ucles and aunts and stuff. but i'm not attracted to black man. I find them cute, sexy and some even charming. but i cant ever image myself kissing one or even marrying one. but i have many black guy friends. i dont like spanish guys much either. and i find that weird i'm half black and spanish. I'm around those kinds of people all the time.
WXman

AOL

#8 Oct 14, 2007
If that's your preference, you are certainly entitled to it, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Atraction isn't something you can turn on and off as if it were a light switch, so if black men don't do it for you, then check out whomever does.

The point being, like who you like, just don't say things like "it's because all black men are __________".

Best wishes.

Since: Oct 07

United States

#9 Oct 14, 2007
Carribean wrote:
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Yo i really think i was alone.I mean i love black man and all cause i have black ucles and aunts and stuff. but i'm not attracted to black man. I find them cute, sexy and some even charming. but i cant ever image myself kissing one or even marrying one. but i have many black guy friends. i dont like spanish guys much either. and i find that weird i'm half black and spanish. I'm around those kinds of people all the time.
i think thats just how some people are - like "opposites attract types". i thin kthats why im that way. most people are attracted to whats safe and familiar- at least thats what pciety teaches us is the "right" way to go.
Carribean

Palm Bay, FL

#10 Oct 14, 2007
I think its beacuse i'm still young. I hope i grow up to give everyone a chance if they respect me.

Since: Sep 07

Centereach, NY

#12 Oct 14, 2007
Many people are into the whole "opposites attract" thing. It's something they feel, it's a part of them, don't think they can help it. I think your fine, as long as your not putting down Black men as an excuse for your preference. You recognize and accept your preference and that's something more people need to do.
Get a life

Lincoln, NE

#13 Oct 14, 2007
Carribean wrote:
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Yo i really think i was alone.I mean i love black man and all cause i have black ucles and aunts and stuff. but i'm not attracted to black man. I find them cute, sexy and some even charming. but i cant ever image myself kissing one or even marrying one. but i have many black guy friends. i dont like spanish guys much either. and i find that weird i'm half black and spanish. I'm around those kinds of people all the time.
who cares what you can't or can image yourself doing. remember this, the race belongs to the male. besides most if not allof advancement were done by the black male. we create the music and the black culture, and it's the black male physical strength that brings the world attention to the black race. we as black people have enough to deal without a fake black running her nasty mouth. you have what you want-you are out of the black race. now leave us black people along, so we can talk about problems that affect us.
Anna

United States

#15 Oct 15, 2007
evilbunnyme08 wrote:
obviously im jusdt seeing what ppl think - i already know how i feel about it. i think its because ive grown up around different people and cultures so ive never felt like i HAVE to like black guys. so i kind of just grew up not being attracted in that way to black guys.
i know a black guy like that he is kind of a friend...sort of. and we were talking about it one day and he said he didnt like the way most black girls look. like he hates dark skin. i thin kblack girls are gorgeous but im not homosexual so yeah. im aatracted to every other race though its weird. im only 18 but ive been this way for as long as i can remember. most of my bfs have been hispanic/latinos and i dated like 1 asian guy lol white guys are hot too but i havent dated any just danced with them, made out - just small stuff.
anyone else here like that?
NO - there is no way possible you can be proud to be black and not be interested in the men of your own race. It's your choice whom you choose to date, but just keep it real. You are not attracted to black men for a reason and visa versa. I must admit, I have always held the believe that black men and women who choose not to date within their race are not attracted to the way in which that individual looks. Looks, skin color and hair lenght are a big issue within the black community. That's just the way of the world. We all have got to learn to get in where we fit in.

Since: Oct 07

Baltimore, MD

#16 Oct 15, 2007
Carribean wrote:
I think its beacuse i'm still young. I hope i grow up to give everyone a chance if they respect me.
well i dunno i have older friends that are like that in college, im 18 and going to college and one of my 40 year old aunts is like that. maybe its a phase for you i dunno. but for me i thinkits just the way i am and i dont see it as a problem.

Since: Oct 07

Baltimore, MD

#17 Oct 15, 2007
Broom wrote:
Many people are into the whole "opposites attract" thing. It's something they feel, it's a part of them, don't think they can help it. I think your fine, as long as your not putting down Black men as an excuse for your preference. You recognize and accept your preference and that's something more people need to do.
no i totally agree. i do recognize that there are huge problems within the black community and the fact that 70 percent of black homes are run by single mothers etc. but i hate when women use that as an excuse not to date black men. someone said a black man would never treat a black girl as well as a non black guy would. i was pissed because i have plenty of positive role models in my family who are just fine in their relationships. stereotyping is a form of racism end of story. im attracted to other guys physically and i dont stereotype guys based on race. there are shitty ones in every color : P

Since: Oct 07

Baltimore, MD

#18 Oct 15, 2007
Anna wrote:
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NO - there is no way possible you can be proud to be black and not be interested in the men of your own race. It's your choice whom you choose to date, but just keep it real. You are not attracted to black men for a reason and visa versa. I must admit, I have always held the believe that black men and women who choose not to date within their race are not attracted to the way in which that individual looks. Looks, skin color and hair lenght are a big issue within the black community. That's just the way of the world. We all have got to learn to get in where we fit in.
thats the most narrow minded bullshit ever. "get in where we fit in"? im an intelligent well rounded yuong girl - ill get in anywhere i damn well please. im not letting race dictate who im supposed to be attracted to. and no you dont choose who youre attracted to - if you do then youre living a pretty pathetic life.

Since: Oct 07

Baltimore, MD

#19 Oct 15, 2007
Anna wrote:
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NO - there is no way possible you can be proud to be black and not be interested in the men of your own race. It's your choice whom you choose to date, but just keep it real. You are not attracted to black men for a reason and visa versa. I must admit, I have always held the believe that black men and women who choose not to date within their race are not attracted to the way in which that individual looks. Looks, skin color and hair lenght are a big issue within the black community. That's just the way of the world. We all have got to learn to get in where we fit in.
and im fully aware of the white influence over beauty but i dont think that has anything to do with it for me because ive always deliberately defied it. i think black girls are absolutely gorgeous without all the extensions and make up etc. but im not a homosexual so that doesnt exactly help me...
Carribean

Palm Bay, FL

#20 Oct 15, 2007
evilbunnyme08 wrote:
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well i dunno i have older friends that are like that in college, im 18 and going to college and one of my 40 year old aunts is like that. maybe its a phase for you i dunno. but for me i thinkits just the way i am and i dont see it as a problem.
I'm also 18.

LA_Texas

“If you dont like don't look!”

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Since: Sep 07

Canton, Texas

#21 Oct 15, 2007
Yes you can because I am a black Hispanic yet not really attracted to Black girls in general..there are a few I think are super hot but overall I like Hispanics and Asians to be Honest..
Anna

United States

#22 Oct 15, 2007
evilbunnyme08 wrote:
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thats the most narrow minded bullshit ever. "get in where we fit in"? im an intelligent well rounded yuong girl - ill get in anywhere i damn well please. im not letting race dictate who im supposed to be attracted to. and no you dont choose who youre attracted to - if you do then youre living a pretty pathetic life.
Hey, that's YOUR opinion. Once again, GET IN WHERE YOU FIT IN. Stop trying to get people to like you. It is not about dictating who you are attracted to, but rather associating yourself with an inividual who feels the same way about you as you do about them. It is obvious from your posting that you are the typical angry "black women." Get over yourself and get in where you fit in.

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