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What qualities do you look for in a man/woman?

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“Take the kinks out ya mind”

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Since: Jul 13

and not your hair

#1 Jul 30, 2013
I know this is random, but it seem that on this site, we're always talking about the type of people we don't like or what we don't find physically attracted, but what good does that do except for bring down the people that have those flaws. Now I know physical appeal is important, but what about the other qualities.
This song explains what I would want physically and all

What qualities physical and all do you find attractive in a man/woman?

“Perfection is impossible”

Level 5

Since: May 13

But excellence is close enough

#2 Jul 30, 2013
What magnetized me to a man is our mere commonality grounds. He must be family oriented, cordial, yet strong willed with a heavily sprinkle of benevolence. I also prefer him to be African American with a burly chunkiness physique to top it off; I'm a petite woman, I love to feel protected and cuddlesome. Additionally, i want him to know how to treat a woman and be faithful to me and respect a woman, and to be religiously aware. Most of all, I want him to have reciprocated unconditional love for me. My boyfriend fits this exact description. I love him so much. <3

“Take the kinks out ya mind”

Level 4

Since: Jul 13

and not your hair

#3 Jul 30, 2013
Aww, happy for you nothing like a good black man, so I'm definitely inspired by your relationship, best of luck :)

“Perfection is impossible”

Level 5

Since: May 13

But excellence is close enough

#4 Jul 30, 2013
brownskin_beauty wrote:
Aww, happy for you nothing like a good black man, so I'm definitely inspired by your relationship, best of luck :)
I appreciate your best wishes to me. I wish the same upon you as well. You seem to have admirability for your own and want us to exceed and reconcile our overall relationship for each other, because of these auspicious qualities you are sure to attract a good black man. May God bless you, brownskin_beauty.:)
Blaq American Princess

Jackson, TN

#5 Jul 30, 2013
A man taller than me would be nice, but most importantly a good moral code and he has to believe in God/have a relationship with Jesus.

Seriously, I'm 145 standing at 5'10. Why is it so hard to find a man taller than me?!
Sadbutrue

Woodbridge, VA

#6 Jul 30, 2013
brownskin_beauty wrote:
I know this is random, but it seem that on this site, we're always talking about the type of people we don't like or what we don't find physically attracted, but what good does that do except for bring down the people that have those flaws. Now I know physical appeal is important, but what about the other qualities.
This song explains what I would want physically and all
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v =w8_wmcWecOgXX
What qualities physical and all do you find attractive in a man/woman?
MACEO

I look at a man's "HISTORY" and get some information on his background which tells me about his character.

Someone with a Poor Character like yourself wouldn't be a consideration! Yoru a very selfish, self centered man, your controlling as well as ARROGANT!

Those are traits that I dont' want in a man. Factor in that you didn't do anything for your White wife of 20 years and yoru almost 60 years old THAT'S YOU AS MAN!

YOU NEED TO DIE ALONE !
Sadbutrue

Woodbridge, VA

#7 Jul 30, 2013
Blaq American -MACEO wrote:
A man taller than me would be nice, but most importantly a good moral code and he has to believe in God/have a relationship with Jesus.
Seriously, I'm 145 standing at 5'10. Why is it so hard to find a man taller than me?!
CNN’s Don Lemon Backs Up Bill O’Reilly:‘He Doesn’t Go Far Enough’ In Criticizing Black Culture

July 27th, 2013

Lemon played a clip of O’Reilly stating,“The reason there is so much violence and chaos in the black precincts is the disintegration of the African American family…Raised without much structure, young black men often reject education and gravitate towards the street culture, drugs, hustling, gangs. Nobody forces them to do that. Again, it is a personal decision.”

“Bill’s got a point,” Lemon said.“In fact, he’s got more than a point…In my estimation, he doesn’t go far enough.”

Lemon then listed five essential reforms black men need to make in their lives in order to improve themselves and their communities: hike up their pants, remove the n-word from their vocabulary, take care of their communities, finish high school, and lower the rate of children born out of wedlock

“Univ. of Texas-Med School!!! ”

Level 5

Since: Dec 12

Waller, TX

#9 Jul 30, 2013
Blaq American Princess wrote:
Seriously, I'm 145 standing at 5'10. Why is it so hard to find a man taller than me?!
Isn't the average height for men 5'10?....
Blaq American Princess

Jackson, TN

#11 Jul 31, 2013
--AAA-- wrote:
<quoted text>
Isn't the average height for men 5'10?....
I think it's 5'8.

Here's the thing, I don't mind dating men shorter than me, a little overweight, or not exactly handsome. I want the perfect man who believes in God so that I can be that perfect Proverbs 31 woman! Humans are imperfect, but Jesus fills in for what we lack! To me, you are perfect if you love Jesus.

Haha.. Sorry to go off on a tangent but just so everyone knows, I'm not shallow.
Blaq American Princess

Jackson, TN

#12 Jul 31, 2013
The average man is afraid to approach me. And I'm old-fashioned, I want to be "hunted" in a sense. Although in God's eyes we're equal, there's certain roles that a man/woman play.

You-man-hunt. Me-woman-gather. The way I dress and carry myself is not going to change. I'm not uppity or stuck up and people know that once they get to know me.

If you're not man enough to approach me and instead you send your friend over or not at all, then you're not man enough for what I need and want anyhow.

Can any man give an explanation on as to why men these days don't approach women?
Sadbutrue

Woodbridge, VA

#13 Jul 31, 2013
Blaq American Princess--MACEO wrote:
<quoted text>
I think it's 5'8.
Here's the thing, I don't mind dating men shorter than me, a little overweight, or not exactly handsome. I want the perfect man who believes in God so that I can be that perfect Proverbs 31 woman! Humans are imperfect, but Jesus fills in for what we lack! To me, you are perfect if you love Jesus.
Haha.. Sorry to go off on a tangent but just so everyone knows, I'm not shallow.
MACEO

At your age its ALL ABOUT THE MONEY! LMAO

You have POOR HEALTH, IMPOTENT, BROKE so GO CHOKE!

“Take the kinks out ya mind”

Level 4

Since: Jul 13

and not your hair

#14 Jul 31, 2013
Jesuspeaceandlove wrote:
<quoted text>
I appreciate your best wishes to me. I wish the same upon you as well. You seem to have admirability for your own and want us to exceed and reconcile our overall relationship for each other, because of these auspicious qualities you are sure to attract a good black man. May God bless you, brownskin_beauty.:)
Aww thanks :)
Blaq American Princess

Jackson, TN

#15 Jul 31, 2013
I've always admired men whose masculinity encompasses this song's meaning.

“Perfection is impossible”

Level 5

Since: May 13

But excellence is close enough

#16 Jul 31, 2013
brownskin_beauty wrote:
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Aww thanks :)
You're so welcome.:)
Blaq American Princess

Jackson, TN

#17 Jul 31, 2013
Sadbutrue wrote:
<quoted text>MACEO
At your age its ALL ABOUT THE MONEY! LMAO
You have POOR HEALTH, IMPOTENT, BROKE so GO CHOKE!
You don't know my age you stalker.

And no thanks, I have my own money.

“Perfection is impossible”

Level 5

Since: May 13

But excellence is close enough

#18 Jul 31, 2013
Sadbutrue wrote:
<quoted text>MACEO
SADLY MACEO YOUR THE TYPE OF MAN THAT MOST WOMEN DON'T WANT!
Your Controlling, Arrogant, Selfish, Self Centered and a Scoffer! You act CHILDISH, INSECURE, IMMATURE AND YOUR BROKE!
SORRY BUT YOUR ABOUT YOURSELF! AS YOU BRAGGED ITS ALL ABOUT YOU SO YOUR FAT BLACK IMPOTENT ASS YOU REMAIN ALONE!
You didn't help yoru Mother when she had CANCER! You didn't help your White wife with her business but YOU SURE CHASED AFTER TRAILER TRASH WW IN YOUR OFFICE FOR SEX IN YOUR SPARE TIME AS PUT BLACK WOMEN DOWN FOR RAISING SORRY ASS BLACK MEN LIKE YOURSELF!
UNGRATEFUL BASTARD!
THATS WHY I DON'T STICK WITH BLACK MALES MANY OF YOU ARE FOOLISH1
I highly suspect you are an arrogant white troll, so I won't justify with a response.
happy

United States

#19 Jul 31, 2013
1st- GOD fearing / in a healthy and whole way meaning: to put the Creator first in ones life and acknoweldginng a spreme being exist over man.

2nd- A GOOD head on his shoulders; not fickeled, nor cocky.

3- RESPECT-for self and ones mate and/or significant other.

4- dispise and have NO tolerence for a SLOUCH; CANNOT be afraid of a liitle hard work.

4- UNCONDITIONAL love; NOONE is perfect.

5- GOOD COMMUNICATION skills.

6-PATIENCE; GOOD SENSE OF HUMOR- can laugh at oneself occasionally.

7.-ATENTIVENESS, great eye contact; good lisener.

8-LOVES to eat; of course in moderation (since I enjoy) cooking.

9- one who can enjoy a pleasant atmoshere; and can tolerate my obsession with tidiness.

10- last but not least...MUST have GOOD hygene; teeth, breath, to say the least. FOR REAL./ AND I'AM REAL BLESSED SINCE THESE ARE ALL THE QUALITIES of my significant other.

Since: Jun 12

Hoddesdon, UK

#20 Jul 31, 2013
Competition..my girl ended up feisty..she used to be shy and retiring (when she was six)
My ideal woman has to be feisty..she doesn’t take no sh!t from no one..it’s a dog eat dog world out there.

“Univ. of Texas-Med School!!! ”

Level 5

Since: Dec 12

Waller, TX

#21 Jul 31, 2013
Blaq American Princess wrote:
The average man is afraid to approach me. And I'm old-fashioned, I want to be "hunted" in a sense. Although in God's eyes we're equal, there's certain roles that a man/woman play.
You-man-hunt. Me-woman-gather. The way I dress and carry myself is not going to change. I'm not uppity or stuck up and people know that once they get to know me.
If you're not man enough to approach me and instead you send your friend over or not at all, then you're not man enough for what I need and want anyhow.
Can any man give an explanation on as to why men these days don't approach women?
Well I think Freddie and I were in a debate about this.....

Personally I wouldn't approach a random woman; A lady would have to be interested in me first before I would even think about approaching her. Its much better when both people are at least thinking about each other.
Sadbutrue

Woodbridge, VA

#22 Jul 31, 2013
Blaq American Princess wrote:
<quoted text>
I think it's 5'8.
Here's the thing, I don't mind dat
Haha.. Sorry to go off on a tangent but just so everyone knows, I'm not shallow.
MACEO

You can't ask for Proverbs woman when your a Man WHORE yourself! lmao

How To Find A Husband
A Ten Point Checklist to Help Dads & Daughters
by Pastor Art Kohl
February 10, 2005

A father has the God-given authority to give his daughter away in marriage. I Corinthians 7:37-38, "Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well. So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better."

To every father reading this, I would encourage you to consider this one of your most serious obligations: finding the right mate for your daughter. I suggest the following guide be used to look for a good man. This should be shared with your daughter early and often in her life so both of your standards will be high.

1. Is He Saved?
II Corinthians 6:14 , "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?"

I Corinthians 7:39 , "The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord."

2. Is He Sanctified?
I Thessalonians 4:3, "For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication:"

To be sanctified means to be set apart. This is the process and work of God in us whereby He is constantly making us holier. A sanctified man will always be improving. He will never become complacent with his Christian life.

3. Is He Serving?
Philippians 2:3, "Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves."

Mark 10:45 , "For even the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his life a ransom for many:"

Look for a man who has a servant's heart. A man who lives for others will make a good husband. Avoid self-centered types.

4. Is He Spirit-filled?
Ephesians 5:18 , "And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit;"

To be filled with the Spirit of God means to be emptied of self and given over to God's control. As a result of being Spirit-filled, "... the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith," Galatians 5:22.

God, by His Spirit, will teach a man to love like God loves. Your daughter will benefit all of her life from his unconditional love. The self-centered type will only think of himself. It is not possible to be filled with the Spirit and filled with self at the same time.

Ephesians 5:18-19, "And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit; Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord;" Watch him in church. Does he love to sing unto the Lord? Singing is an outward evidence of a spirit-filled man. Is his music old-fashioned? Is it conservative? Does he shun the music of the world? The world's music will harden his heart and cause his spirit to rebel.

Conclusion:

There is no mention in this guide about him being romantic. That comes after marriage, as does self control. There is no mention of looks and other shallow characteristics. Dads and daughters need to rise above that. Ignore the empty things that do not contribute to happy marriages.

http://www.mediaite.com/tv/cnns-don-lemon-bac...

MACEO YOUR A NO GOOD BLCK MAN YOU WASTED TIME CHASING WHORES WHILE YOU WERE MARRIED!

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