What's up with Butch/Thug/Stud Lesbia...

“the answer to 1984 is 1776”

Level 1

Since: Jan 08

cali girl born & raised

#64 Jun 30, 2008
tommy aka batman wrote:
<quoted text>great role modle for junior
tsk tsk tsk.

is that the best you can do? lol well obviously it is lest you would have already done better by now.

and thank you, i am a great role model for my son.

he's openminded, kind, good-natured, he's 7 years old and entering 3rd grade in september, he speaks 3 languages fluently and working on learning a 4th.

yeah, i'd say i'm doing a rather exemplary job.

so what does me being a freak have to do with my ability to rear a child?

he's not in my bedroom (or even at home) when i get busy. what goes on in my bedroom is between me, my man and whomever we invite to join us.

worry more about your no-p*ssy gettin self and i'll worry about me, my well-adjusted son and my fabulous sex life.

do i have to help you step up your insult game too?

“the answer to 1984 is 1776”

Level 1

Since: Jan 08

cali girl born & raised

#65 Jun 30, 2008
freeradical wrote:
<quoted text>
tommy, you need to up your comebacks, BCM is killing ya, this fight is getting kinda boring
tommy needs to leave me alone.

i ignore him and then he will end up on a thread JUST to talk sh*t to me.

i think he's so fascinated by me because he's a freak too just a closet freak.

because he likes receiving his daily verbal spankings a little too much.

“check my footwork........ ..”

Since: May 07

you aint got these ;p

#66 Jun 30, 2008
there are everywhere.

BCM your tail is funny as all get out:)
hi bi

Selden, NY

#67 Jul 2, 2008
I'm a very feminine (in appearance and personality) bi black women and I'm only attracted to other femme women like myself. Not all of us are into butch women. I like my men masculine (as in a masculine build but NOT aggressive -- I hate aggression), and my women feminine (in personality and appearance). You probably just notice butch-femme couples more because butch lesbians are the most visible type. If there were two feminine women together, you probably wouldn't even suspect that they were a lesbian/bisexual couple. Or maybe the reason you see this disproportionately is because you hang out in ghettos (I'm not trying to be offensive, just offering possible explanations).

Anyway, don't get excited, because I'm not open to threesomes or some creepy guy standing around watching since my orientation is for me only and not for a man's pleasure. I'm not involved with any women now because I'm in a serious monogamous relationship with a man.

Also, not all of us femme women are full of drama, lol. I'm not even remotely dramatic. I'm a modern feminine woman, who can be ambitious and career-oriented and take care of herself -- and look great doing it.:)
hi bi

Selden, NY

#68 Jul 2, 2008
asiaticbrotha wrote:
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Sigh,.. what a freaking waste!
...An attractive women who doesn't want to "do" you is a "freaking waste"?? Hello...they don't want you. Maybe even if they were straight they still wouldn't want you. They're not a "waste" just because they're dating who they choose to, and who they choose happens not to be you or any other man. Sorry, but the world doesn't revolve around men and their needs and desires. A woman, just like a man, has inherent value, and it doesn't take being with a man to give her individual worth in the world.
hi bi

Selden, NY

#69 Jul 2, 2008
butterflye25 wrote:
I dont understand why a woman would date another woman...
Maybe because they're attracted to other women? Just the same way you date men because you're attracted to them? There's not much to understand.
hi bi

Selden, NY

#70 Jul 2, 2008
hi bi wrote:
I'm a very feminine (in appearance and personality) bi black women
"Woman" I mean.
Caramel Colour

Antigonish, Canada

#73 Jul 20, 2008
Personally, I LOVE a female who dress like a thug. I am a girlie girl, and I think it is just sexy when you see a girl dress like a thug. It's just attractive to me.

jah.mali@hotmail.com

“Making My MoM Proud!!!”

Since: Apr 08

Location hidden

#74 Jul 20, 2008
Caramel Colour wrote:
Personally, I LOVE a female who dress like a thug. I am a girlie girl, and I think it is just sexy when you see a girl dress like a thug. It's just attractive to me.
jah.mali@hotmail.com
Seriously, thank you for your response.
johdi

Van Nuys, CA

#75 Jul 30, 2008
it would seem from what i've read so far that everyone of you are either prejudice or just ignorant. it's as if you don't consider politicians to be any less of a thug simply because they wear suits.

by definition the style somebody chooses to wear to express themselves has nothing to do with the person they choose to be.

not all baggy wearing hat tilted to the back bandana wearing spotless tennis shoes people are thugs regardless if they are men or women.

it's almost like you're saying that a woman gay or straight that wears a low cut dress to a gala is a slut that deserves to be raped

asiaticbrotha

“Doing me. ”

Since: Jun 08

Florida

#76 Aug 7, 2008
hi bi wrote:
<quoted text>
...An attractive women who doesn't want to "do" you is a "freaking waste"?? Hello...they don't want you. Maybe even if they were straight they still wouldn't want you. They're not a "waste" just because they're dating who they choose to, and who they choose happens not to be you or any other man. Sorry, but the world doesn't revolve around men and their needs and desires. A woman, just like a man, has inherent value, and it doesn't take being with a man to give her individual worth in the world.
Well actually it does, you just missed the boat obviously..
a pseudo-butch lesbian

Brooklyn, NY

#77 Aug 10, 2008
well, as a "butch" black lesbian, i think i'll chime in here...

i think what you are seeing is the equivalent in a lot of ways to feminine men. its not that they're trying to be men, its that embodying extreme qualities is a form of expression. it just is.

plus, i think a lot of studs feel like because they are on the more masculine end, they need to do "man things"...and they need to do them better than men. that includes ALL things (sex, making money, being the other parent -- which addresses that point about single moms -- etc etc).

but heres one more thing:

you can trust that a lot of those women, like me, just grew up watching male hip hop gear with envy. looking at men's sections at stores, never feeling rght in a dress. it just feels cool to wear a tee, some jeans and some timbs. i mean, they're just clothes. personally, i don't leave home if i'm not wearing my vickie's secret panties...or, if i wear boxers, trust, i'll smell like hugo boss woman. i am a women. i do agree that some of these chicks out here forget that.

“Bumping the positive topics!!!”

Since: Aug 08

Miami

#78 Aug 10, 2008
Captn wrote:
I'm just dumping things off my mind.
http://bp0.blogger.com/_WBb3llz2VHI/R7GCHdFY9...
Now I have nothing against lesbians, or anything like that at all. In the strip club, they are the best people to hang out with.
But I see these butch/thug/lesbians walking around a lot. They dress like any other ignorant thug. Pants sagging, gold chains, etc. That's there thing. I also see regular looking black women with them. I believe that this is getting back to the whole black women liking thugs theory.
Why are regular black women lipstick lesbians only seen with butch thug lesbians?
Its really the same way for gay men. Most effeminate gay men want a gay man who is more macho. I got to admit black lesbians take it to a extreme. I'm like how can you walk around with a strap on all day long? That stuff is weird.
edmund

Hesperia, CA

#79 Aug 26, 2008
What's up with attractive black single mothers hooking up with White butch lesbians?
lou christy

Hesperia, CA

#80 Aug 26, 2008
I know a beautiful sista, Halle level, divorced, 2 small children. Works a nightclub. One day an obvious white butch lesbian comes in, asking for the sister. She was wearing a strap in those loose jeans. The sista bent down when talking to her, submitting almost....unreal..no doubt they had hooked up. whats up with that?
raven

Forest Hills, NY

#81 Sep 17, 2008
Captn wrote:
I'm just dumping things off my mind.
http://bp0.blogger.com/_WBb3llz2VHI/R7GCHdFY9...
Now I have nothing against lesbians, or anything like that at all. In the strip club, they are the best people to hang out with.
But I see these butch/thug/lesbians walking around a lot. They dress like any other ignorant thug. Pants sagging, gold chains, etc. That's there thing. I also see regular looking black women with them. I believe that this is getting back to the whole black women liking thugs theory.
Why are regular black women lipstick lesbians only seen with butch thug lesbians?
Not all black women date studs, they are just more recognizable. When two black femm women are together people usually just assume they are friends. I am a femm, and people usually assume my girlfriend who is also a femm and I are just platonic friends. It's when you see a masculine/stud with a femm that you realize off the bat they are lesbians.
yaz

Beaverdam, VA

#82 Oct 30, 2008
Captn wrote:
This is just my opinion, its not a fact.
But I see a lot of single mothers with Lesbians. I truly don't believe that they are lesbians, but just lonely.
You are telling the truth I just got out of a relationship with a butch/stud and found out that I was lonely she really started to get on my nerve because she was not really leading like she should be. She also was very abusive now I do not like studs anymore and found out that I am not even gay i do not like tits or vaginas. It was starting to not make me come.
yaz

Beaverdam, VA

#83 Oct 30, 2008
DariasSickSadWorld wrote:
<quoted text>
Its really the same way for gay men. Most effeminate gay men want a gay man who is more macho. I got to admit black lesbians take it to a extreme. I'm like how can you walk around with a strap on all day long? That stuff is weird.
Let me tell you something the whole scene is stupid. Stud women are extremely mean and treat you worse than a man. I think they are ugly and try to hard. Also it is stupid one being masculine/femme it so stupid. When I was in the scene I played a femme. I learned quickly about the scene to many games, rejection, and fear of sexually transmitted diseases. the white butch looks very unclean to me and really looks like she will hurt you. I have been in this scene for 3 years and 3 months with my black stud and we have gone to parties and friends and i will never enter this scene again I am so glad that I found out that I am not femm or gay. I like a man and he is a nice man not trying so hard who will treat me right. He works hard and has balls/penis and not tits.
yaz

Beaverdam, VA

#84 Oct 30, 2008
Listen to this page I think that this whole scene is stupid I was in it for 3 years and 3 months. To a stud but a soft stud, she was 20 years my junior it was great for awhile. Then she started to disrespect me and become abusive. I was trying every way she was not trying. We would go out to clubs and she would prevent me from getting other numbers from other women. I also felt that one day she tried to hit me against the wall I was with her because of lonliness and I also have two children who had a difficult time with this. I was on the gay website and in chat rooms as well learning the gay talk. But I can honestly say I am so happy that it is not a part of my life anymore. I am praying for a man to come into my life however if a meet a nice femme who is smart I would prefer to be with her than a butch. Because being with a butch is complicated they are trying to hard to be a man but at the same time want you to respect that they are a women tough shit. This stud is out of my life and you know what I do not want to be her friend because you cannot be a STUDs friend. Stay away from studs. I do not have much money so if I can find a man or woman tht can love me I will go to them maybe I am bisexual hell I do not know but i know it will not be a STUDD.

“Bumping the positive topics!!!”

Since: Aug 08

Miami

#85 Oct 31, 2008
yaz wrote:
We would go out to clubs and she would prevent me from getting other numbers from other women.
Yea b/c you were in a relationship w/ her at the time, right? This is why I don't even want any part of that lifestyle. I respect one's sexual preferences but there is too much promiscuity in Homosexuality and Lesbanism.
And Yaz you are right about Studs treating you worse than a man. I've seen it, and I wonder how anyone can take being yelled and nagged at constantly.
I've been approached by a stud that looked so much like a male that I was once persuaded to switch teams. But then I got to thinking: do I really want someone who is this confused? Is she going to tell me 10 years later she's getting her boobs wacked off and wants a phalloplasty? And don't even get me started on the unsafeness of it all. Long story short while every other black woman may be buying into this lesbanism bs I would rather not.
Not to say it isn't real, its just odd when a friend of yours who has been straight all her life suddenly proclaims i'm a lesbian, i'm a lgbt! Give me a break!

Yaz you'll find someone. Remember there are many fish in the sea...and we are all fish blacks whites latinos asians and indians.

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