what do black women want in a man

what do black women want in a man

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Since: Oct 07

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#1 Dec 16, 2007
BLACK WOMEN WHAT TYPE OF MAN DO YOU WANT? WHAT TYPE OF QUALITIES ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN A MAN. WHAT DO YOU CONSIDER TO BE A GOOD MAN? TALK TO ME!!
Oopey

Norwich, UK

#2 Dec 16, 2007
what i consider a good man is a man that talks sense, acts like he has sence and dresses for the occassion.
Qualites i look for are things likes sence of humor, smile, eye contact and conversation.
the type of man i would like is just a general all rounder not too in himself and too in me, someone thats happy and is easy to conversate with about anything be it my mums hairy chin or me leaving shit in the bowl...

Since: Nov 07

Brooklyn, NY

#4 Dec 16, 2007
Oopey wrote:
what i consider a good man is a man that talks sense, acts like he has sence and dresses for the occassion.
Qualites i look for are things likes sence of humor, smile, eye contact and conversation.
the type of man i would like is just a general all rounder not too in himself and too in me, someone thats happy and is easy to conversate with about anything be it my mums hairy chin or me leaving shit in the bowl...
That's clear enough for me.Why does this guy ask as though Black woman want something dierent than what other woman want.Some things are universal.

Since: Nov 07

Brooklyn, NY

#5 Dec 16, 2007
Oopey wrote:
what i consider a good man is a man that talks sense, acts like he has sence and dresses for the occassion.
Qualites i look for are things likes sence of humor, smile, eye contact and conversation.
the type of man i would like is just a general all rounder not too in himself and too in me, someone thats happy and is easy to conversate with about anything be it my mums hairy chin or me leaving shit in the bowl...
You leave sh**t in the toilet?? That's discusting and unlady-like.Do you look like a trucker?

Since: Dec 07

Norwich, UK

#6 Dec 16, 2007
lol yes and no, but you do get like big ones that dont go unless you pour water on them :) and you know you have this problem too and then like when you just forget somethimes well at least i do, too much info i know but heyyy
i dont think i look like a trucker but everyone has a diffrent opinion x
BlackAmericanPri ncess

Dayton, OH

#7 Dec 16, 2007
Oopey wrote:
lol yes and no, but you do get like big ones that dont go unless you pour water on them :) and you know you have this problem too and then like when you just forget somethimes well at least i do, too much info i know but heyyy
i dont think i look like a trucker but everyone has a diffrent opinion x
Thats just gross. How could you forget to flush the toilet after you booboo? And wtf do you mean when you say you pour water on the "big ones"? That's just nasty!:(

“I'm baaack, did u miss me? ^_^”

Since: Dec 07

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#8 Dec 16, 2007
Abdula wrote:
BLACK WOMEN WHAT TYPE OF MAN DO YOU WANT? WHAT TYPE OF QUALITIES ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN A MAN. WHAT DO YOU CONSIDER TO BE A GOOD MAN? TALK TO ME!!
I love white males more than any other type of males. I don't know why..so don't ask.
In all, a good man (Doesn't have to be white) is....
1.) Someone that take responsiblities for his actions. Either right or wrong.
2.) Respects ALL women. Either attractive, unattractive, his race, not his race, etc.
3.) Loves & stands up for his parent(s) or guardian(s) that raised him.(Because I love my mom & dare someone to disrespect her so I can holler off & smack 'em. Amen.:))
4.) NOT A CRY-BABY!! ugh! >:(
5.) Super Wacky & Energetic.(I need someone that can keep up w/ me as I go to Six Flags every time the gate is open.^_^)
6.) Christian.
7.) Is independent!!!!:)
8.) And that is it.

I do not care if he rides a bus or car or currently laid off because things like that happen to people.

“I'm baaack, did u miss me? ^_^”

Since: Dec 07

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#9 Dec 16, 2007
Oopey wrote:
what i consider a good man is a man that talks sense, acts like he has sence and dresses for the occassion.
Qualites i look for are things likes sence of humor, smile, eye contact and conversation.
the type of man i would like is just a general all rounder not too in himself and too in me, someone thats happy and is easy to conversate with about anything be it my mums hairy chin or me leaving shit in the bowl...
okay. 0_o

“Life goes on without me”

Since: Jun 07

Dontworryboutit

#11 Dec 16, 2007
Abdula wrote:
BLACK WOMEN WHAT TYPE OF MAN DO YOU WANT? WHAT TYPE OF QUALITIES ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN A MAN. WHAT DO YOU CONSIDER TO BE A GOOD MAN? TALK TO ME!!
That's a good question. A good man is one who won't ask any more of his woman than he is willing to give. So many men (and there are women like this, but since you asked about men...) want a women to give them her all and put them first, but don't return the favor (or they do only when it's convenient). Carrying around baggage is a no no; any man who gives me grief because of all of the things his exes did is someone I don’t want to be with.

“IT'S WOOZY”

Since: Oct 07

BRYAN\COLLEGE STATION

#12 Dec 16, 2007
I want a man who is respectful to the females in his family, especially his mom but don't be a cry-baby woosy and run home and tell mom every time we fight...uuhumm....and I want a man who loves me more than himself. A man who I can struggle with and we can build our life up together. A man who can make me laugh but who isn't silly all the time. I want a man who tells me not to worry if the lights are going to be cut off but holds me all night if we fall on hard times and that happens. Not one who runs off to mommies and leave me in the dark. A simple man who knows how to love me.

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Since: Jun 07

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#13 Dec 16, 2007
I look for an intelligent, kind and sensitive man. A man who has good morals. A man who can be romantic. One who really listens to what I have to say, and cares about my feelings. Who likes to laugh. Who can be a good leader, but not a boss over me. He has to have a backbone. Most important.... I want a man I can trust.

“BlackTantraGodde ss”

Since: Aug 07

Bay Area & Southern Cal

#14 Dec 16, 2007

Since: Oct 07

Redmond, WA

#16 Dec 16, 2007
Lol wow @ the conversation about poop....gross disgusting yet hilarious.

Um I'm a black girl and I think its safe to say that you can't try to isolate us from other girls to determine what we like. Are you black? Because believe it or not we don't all come to the same conclusions and opinions. Anyway....I look for the same qualities in guys that I do in my friends generally:

I have to find him attractive obviously. I like different kinds of guys but I love the artsy type with like dark tan skin, light eyes and like long-ish .(Wavy slightly shoulder length) black hair. That's my bf now anyway. So hot.

Personality is key. I'm a loud crazy girl so I love guys who are the same but we tend to clash because of strong personalities so its better if they are a bit more mellowed out than I am. Not quiet though - hell no. I look for integrity, honesty, someone who is intelligent and cares about politics and the world, isn't afraid to argue with me or tell me when I'm being a bitch, is secure with who he is and can go shopping with me and act ridiculous. I like maturity but not too much. Some ppl just take themselves too seriously and I like the fun factor. And HUMOR and EXTREME Amounts of SARCASM are a must. I'm a very sarcastic person and I make a joke out of my existence pretty much. So Ppl like that always get me - its a healthy relationship. Someone who is opinionated and NOT CONSERVATIVE OR REPUBLICAN!! I think aside from being abusive or a moocher, those are the worst things 4 me. I kind of loathe self righteous church goers and fanatical jesus freaks who won't educate themselves beyond what a pastor spits out at them or the bible. So that's an automatic "hell no" 4 me. I don't like jealous guys who feel its their job to defend me if someone tries to speak to me. I'm going to college next year so he has to be in school as well. I think its important that guys are like kind of open about their emotions even though that rarely ever happens. Oh and now I like guys who can cook- its a new one. my bf is such a good cook and I'm almost always at his house. I swear I'm probably just using him for the spanish/italian food. I'm not big on moochers still living at home after high school unless they are in school or working for a living and trying to build a future. I like guys who love different kinds of music and aren't ignorant about culture or racist in any way. I'm black so obviously if you make dumbass stereotypical comments about my ppl or anyone for that matter, its just not going to work. And I hate to say this but no kids! Seriously why the hell do guys even try to talk to girls if they have kids? That's happened to me a couple times and I'm like wtf? I'm only 18 and I can't stand kids and I have no desire to be in some baby mama drama with some loser who can't pay child support or something. No thanks. There's probabaly a million other things but you know...
SARA

AOL

#17 Dec 16, 2007
I AM LOOKING FOR A GOOD MAN, HE DON'T HAVE TO BE BLACK BUT HE HAS TO BE LOVING, UNDERSTANDING, TRUSTWORTHY,BELIEVE IN YAH/OUR HEAVENLY FATHER AND BE WILLING AND ABLE TO WORK ON A REGULAR BASIS. HE HAS TO BE RESPONSIBLE TO PAY BILLS, GO GROCERY SHOPPING WITH ME AND HELP CLEAN WHEN EVER. WHEN ITS TIME TO PAY THE BILLS I WANT HIM TO SIT DOWN TO AND DECIDE WHAT BILLS NEED TO BE PAID AND HELP WRITE THE CHECKS OR WHATEVER. I WANT A MAN THAT WILL GO WITH ME WHEN I GO CLOTHS SHOPPING FOR MY SONS AND DAUGHTERS. I WANT A MAN THAT WILL BE A FRIEND AND LOVER. I WANT A TRUE LIFE LONG COMPANION, I WANT A REAL MAN.

Since: Aug 07

United States

#18 Dec 16, 2007
Abdula wrote:
BLACK WOMEN WHAT TYPE OF MAN DO YOU WANT? WHAT TYPE OF QUALITIES ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN A MAN. WHAT DO YOU CONSIDER TO BE A GOOD MAN? TALK TO ME!!
who cares what they want?because of how most of them act,most men don't want them.
LISA40

AOL

#19 Dec 16, 2007

“BlackTantraGodde ss”

Since: Aug 07

Bay Area & Southern Cal

#20 Dec 17, 2007
SantanaBlack wrote:
<quoted text>Is skin color your only focus in life?
You missed the whole point, I love the Cristian & Evangeline storyline because of how he treats her and loves her. The qualities in a man are more important than race. Get passed the race issue you have and see the qualities.

Since: Nov 07

Church Hill, TN

#21 Dec 17, 2007
BlackTantraGoddess wrote:
<quoted text>
You missed the whole point, I love the Cristian & Evangeline storyline because of how he treats her and loves her. The qualities in a man are more important than race. Get passed the race issue you have and see the qualities.
Should read "get past". Learn how to spell.
C-Star

Norcross, GA

#22 Dec 17, 2007
A. He loves me for me
B. He's not a punk
C. Attractive (this doesn't mean only in looks)
D. financially stable (doesn't have to be rich but I don't want to be struggling)
E.Taller than me
F. Doesn't smell and has good teeth

*then there are extra points he can score with me. But, i think we look for the same thing other women do.

“Not to be taken lightly”

Since: Sep 07

Fort Rucker, AL

#23 Dec 18, 2007
I THINK THAT A MAN WHO RESPECTS HIS MOTHER, AND THE WOMEN IN HIS FAMILY IS A KEEPER. IF HE TALKS TO MOMS ANY KIND OF WAY, YOU BETTER RUN LADIES. I ALSO WOULD PREFER A MAN WHO LOVES THE LORD.

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