SadButTrueHD

Chantilly, VA

#210 Nov 16, 2013
MszNubian-MACEO wrote:
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That would never happen because black men are on their own team.
Black men are only looking out for themselves in a selfish way.
If black men really care and was on black women team aslo. Most of the negativity
would not exist.
MACEO

True, which is why so many Black women have "Bailed out" on Black men. As I said the "Game has changed" Black women are looking out for "Team Self" and not Black men anymore!

Your seeing Black women leaving one by one.....you don't see Black women defending Black men as well as "Withdrrawing support".
MszNubian-MrAnderson9-MACEO wrote:
MrAnderson9 wrote:
<quoted text>Is the same true for black men? Only defend the black women that defend us?
MACEO

Too late to build or repair anything, too many Black women are pushing each other to leave, not have kids, don't support Sorry Black men!

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#212 Nov 16, 2013
Hannia wrote:
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Couldn't agree more.
I don't get how the AAM has fallen so low compared to say 50 years ago. The dynamic is very interesting. Back in those days, the men raised their children and actually did anything for their families. The average AAM today is hopeless (not all). And I'm very sad for these young AAW who want a Black man, who are educated, and beautiful, who are single. Out of 8 of my good AAW friends, only 2 are in a serious relationship with African guys, one with a Caribbean and one with a White guy. The others are single. The rest are single.
Right these "men" today are nothing like our fathers and grandfathers generation. AAM became lost somewhere in between these generations. Foreign bm have never missed a beat.

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Since: May 13

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#213 Nov 16, 2013
Black male wrote:
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"As a BM, have you observed behaviors that you find questionable? I ask as I'm often told in real life by BM that they don't notice it, and they believe it's because they are men."
--Yes, I have, to answer your question.
"How do we get more BM who father children to remain in the lives of their children?"
--Well, we first have to figure out why these black fathers with children are abandoning their children, in the first place, before we can figure out how to get them to stay in their children's lives. Now, I've spoken with many, many absentee fathers (who were BM), and they've told me the reason they walked out on their children is because they feel as though they aren't worthy to be in their children's lives, and that they don't have the knowledge of what being a father, especially a good father is all about, this is probably the case with a large number of black men with children. The primary reason many BM don't have the knowledge of what being a father is all about is because they didn't have a father in their lives to teach them this. What I believe should happen is the black men who had fathers in their lives should open up some type of program that can be used for the sole purpose of providing black men with children the knowledge that's needed of what being a father is all about and how to be a good father, and I believe this will motivate more and more black men to remain in their children's lives.
Thank you! Brilliant. Have you heard of Steve Harvey boys camp? http://steveharveymentoring.com/
SadButTrueHD

Chantilly, VA

#214 Nov 16, 2013
Kola_Koca---MACEO wrote:
http://bossip.com/865874/wrap- it-up-hiv-infected-georgia-man -popped-for-having-unprotected -sex-with-multiple-woman/
Another bm spreading his seed...smh
MACEO

Very sad but in DC/MD its 1 in 6 BM who have HIV/AIDS as well as other chocolate cities.

Too many Black men live "High Risk" lifestyles so many that when a crisis comes Black folks can't give blood!

I won't date Black men they live "Careless lifestyles" like you did and even up with nothing like the fool you are after chasing Poor White trash and marrying one! lmao

I'm glad to see you "Reaped what you've sown" and you see it! lmao

Now you can see "Da White man with your women" while the IR BW/WM gloat in your face! lmao
Big Knob

United States

#215 Nov 16, 2013
Kola_Koca wrote:
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For every story you can pull from the news on bw I can pull three for bm. You are constantly killing each other soo much the KKK no longer needs to operate. Secondly just look up your local news how many men were jailed this week for failure to pay child support? Here is a sad story for you.
http://bossip.com/866462/catch-fade-15-year-o...
who raised these kids, and where did they get this violent behavior from if dad is not in the home, im sure there are uncles, male cousins, grand fathers around to help out if dad is a dead beat, but what about the fact that allot of women who have lost custody of their kids because of drugs neglect, or have multi-boyfriends around the kids, look at those women on facebook, are they good role models for their kids, with ass photos, twerking, man bashing, these women get pregnant to collect a check.
Black male

Laguna Niguel, CA

#216 Nov 16, 2013
TimeforHonesty wrote:
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Thank you! Brilliant. Have you heard of Steve Harvey boys camp? http://steveharveymentoring.com/
No, ma'am, I haven't, and I'll be sure to check out the link you've provided.
Big Knob

United States

#217 Nov 16, 2013
In my mother's day they got married FIRST then had a family, and bw in those pre-feminist days were mild mannored, lady like, was'nt running the streets, did'nt have a baby daddy mentality, were in shape....what happened, they were'nt engaged in white folks worship. Pat hill collins, michell wallace, patrica bell scott, gloria hull, in 1973 formed the black womens feminist alliance, their motto sisters can do it all by themselves, I dont need a man, and that paved the way for todays mindset....................

“Gone But Not...”

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Since: Aug 13

...Forgotten:^)

#218 Nov 16, 2013
Kola_Koca wrote:
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Right these "men" today are nothing like our fathers and grandfathers generation. AAM became lost somewhere in between these generations. Foreign bm have never missed a beat.
maybe....its because they were left in the care of the ALMIGHTY BLACK WOMAN? lol i mean,that IS the ONLY common denominator.again though,i have to ask,since bw know what a REAL man is and what it takes to be one then why cant any of you EVER date one or raise one?

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Since: May 13

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#219 Nov 16, 2013
Black male wrote:
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No, ma'am, I haven't, and I'll be sure to check out the link you've provided.
:) This is what SHOULD be happening - the exchange of CONSTRUCTIVE help and ideas!
Black male

Laguna Niguel, CA

#220 Nov 16, 2013
TimeforHonesty wrote:
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:) This is what SHOULD be happening - the exchange of CONSTRUCTIVE help and ideas!
Yes, I definitely agree with you!
NubianKnight__

Laguna Niguel, CA

#221 Nov 16, 2013
I enjoy conversing with you, TimeforHonesty.
You're very kind and intelligent.

:)
Big Knob

United States

#222 Nov 16, 2013
If a single mother rasises a son and he grows up to be a doctor, lawyer, business, pastor, the mother will proudly take credit, and say I raised that boy by myself, his dad wasnt around.

But that same boy grows up to be a gangmember, dope dealer, hustler, a baby mama dude, then that same mother will say, I did the best I could his dad wasnt around........
Credit mother when child does good
Blame dad when child fails
The point is let their be some consistency, yes men should get involved ive been a big brother for 20yrs, im not about the blame game,....im about the responsibility game.......and BOTH bm & bw are equally responsible..........im out!
Big Knob

United States

#223 Nov 16, 2013
Typo= business man
The Enemy Within

Washington, DC

#224 Nov 16, 2013
NubianKnight__ wrote:
I enjoy conversing with you, TimeforHonesty.
You're very kind and intelligent.
:)
If you are not a woman pretending to be a man. I'll say this. You follow women pretty well. Now let see you lead.
Big Knob

United States

#225 Nov 17, 2013
When a real bm who's a reader, a thinker a researcher speaks truth notice how simps who are weak for sex and who say what bw want to hear and bw who take no responsibility run for cover, and dead-end white dudes who want to play the white priviledge card to weak minded bw run for cover? The games up no more blame game, its time for accountability , it took two to create this problem, and it will take two to solve it........but blacks only..........

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Since: Jan 12

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#227 Nov 17, 2013
A black man defending a black woman is mostly instinctive, not a product of calculated thought; particularly insofar as her being in physical peril is concerned, but I have notice lately that black women's entitlement to black man's defense has grown out of proportion with reality.

BW can say the most horrendous things about bm, yet, still feel entitled to our defense. You can align yourself ideologically and in deed with those who have declare themselves our enemy, nonetheless, expect us to remain as their default defenders when things turn array with their enemy confederates.

A good quality black woman who is consistent in her love, support and loyalty for black men will have no shortage of black men willing to lay it on the line for her, defending her in words and in action. To suggest otherwise is to imply that we are absent of this instinctive programming in our DNA. However, if you don't qualify for these benefits, it's probably because you've missed too many premium payments and your policy has collapsed, so don't blame us.
Big Knob

United States

#228 Nov 17, 2013
Cogito2 wrote:
A black man defending a black woman is mostly instinctive, not a product of calculated thought; particularly insofar as her being in physical peril is concerned, but I have notice lately that black women's entitlement to black man's defense has grown out of proportion with reality.
BW can say the most horrendous things about bm, yet, still feel entitled to our defense. You can align yourself ideologically and in deed with those who have declare themselves our enemy, nonetheless, expect us to remain as their default defenders when things turn array with their enemy confederates.
A good quality black woman who is consistent in her love, support and loyalty for black men will have no shortage of black men willing to lay it on the line for her, defending her in words and in action. To suggest otherwise is to imply that we are absent of this instinctive programming in our DNA. However, if you don't qualify for these benefits, it's probably because you've missed too many premium payments and your policy has collapsed, so don't blame us.
Magnificent, well said.........they're lies and hypocrisy and double standards is the reason why most bm act the way they do.........

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Since: Jan 12

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#229 Nov 17, 2013
Big Knob wrote:
<quoted text> Magnificent, well said.........they're lies and hypocrisy and double standards is the reason why most bm act the way they do.........
Cause and Effect does seem to be conspicuously absent from their reasoning process....does it not?

Level 7

Since: Jan 12

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#230 Nov 17, 2013
Addendum:

If a black woman finds herself consistently without the protection and defense of black masculinity, it is more deductively reasonable to attribute this to her simply not INSPIRING protection from black men, rather than it being the emotional and intellectual shortcut of all black men are defective. Mathematically, the laws of probability points the finger squarely at you.

It is programmed in every man's DNA in order to ensure the survival of the species, that we respond to a woman or a child in distress, be it of the physical or emotional variety; and for a man to suppress or deny this biological programming, there has to have been exposed to some serious reverse engineering for him to have hit the kill switch on the default setting that nature gave him.

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#231 Nov 17, 2013
*he has to have been exposed to some serious reverse engineering*

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