The homosexual stigma for black males

The homosexual stigma for black males

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“The doctor is in.”

Since: Apr 11

Davie, FL

#1 May 22, 2011
CNN weekend anchor Don Lemon is gay. He's also black.

If you don't think being a black man who is gay is a big deal, think again. In some urban communities, minority men who are gay feel as though they have to hide their sexual orientation or face the label of the "F" word.

"It's like this; they look at you and see that you're black, and they say 'oh, and you're a fag, too,'" said David Malebranche, assistant professor of medicine at Emory University School of Medicine.

Malebranche, 42, who also is gay, told me that black men are taught from an early age that their masculinity means everything.

Go to any basketball court, and you often hear players hurling emasculating words at one another just like they do fast-break assists.

Being a gay, black male does not make a person less masculine. But the stigma associated with being a gay, black male could be one reason the HIV/AIDS rate is so high in urban communities.

In Milwaukee, more than 40% of young black men who have sex with men are HIV-positive. That rivals the rate in some Third World countries.

Some of these men sleep with women, often to hide the fact that they are gay, which is why black heterosexual women represent the second-fastest rate of HIV infections in the nation.

Many HIV/AIDS advocates emphasize knowing one's status and getting tested. However, that's not enough. Community leaders need to create an environment in which people feel safe coming out.

Gay, black men need more accepting social networks. That social network can be family and friends or churches and schools.

Lemon did not make a secret of his sexual orientation. People close to him, such as his friends and co-workers, knew he was gay. But he chose to come out publicly in his book "Transparent," which was released last week.

From Lemon's perspective, he is not a gay journalist; he is journalist who happens to be gay. Coming out is a bold move no matter how you change around the words.

Malebranche, who was in town last week to speak at the "Moving Forward" HIV/AIDS Conference, did not come out until he was in graduate school.

He remembers avoiding a woman who really liked him. He would unplug the phone and not return her calls because he knew coming out would be hard to do. But when he finally told her he was gay, he felt as though a weight was lifted off him.

During the '90s, when Malebranche was doing his residency in New York, he recalls how doctors treated AIDS patients.

They wore double gloves, were afraid to touch them and basically treated them like "the other." He also recalls hearing a lot of derogatory statements toward gays.

He vowed to change that and considers himself not only a researcher but an AIDS advocate.

Malebranche says that there are still too many people who are afraid to admit that they are gay. He said the best approach is not to hesitate when put on the spot.

He recalled being at a dinner at which a couple asked him if he was married. He replied no, but told them he's been with his boyfriend for quite some time. "Now can you pass the peas, please?"

If a person hesitates, it opens up the door to more questions, some of which can be uncomfortable.

Will Sheridan, a former Villanova basketball player, revealed in an interview with ESPN last week that he is gay, dispelling the myth that modern-day male athletes can't come out as gay.

Sheridan, who is black, said he came out because he hopes his personal journey can help others.

He told his roommate, Mike Nardi during the 2003-'04 season. He said he wanted Nardi to know because they were living in close quarters and that after he told Nardi, it didn't come up much.

http://www.jsonline.com/news/opinion/12236776...
Spyware

Thatcham, UK

#2 May 22, 2011
STFU,are you trying to get some converts,XXXgot.

“The doctor is in.”

Since: Apr 11

Davie, FL

#3 May 22, 2011
Spyware wrote:
STFU,are you trying to get some converts,XXXgot.
No one need 'convert' a black boy to homosexuality. They are born that way.
Spyware

Thatcham, UK

#4 May 22, 2011
Zaius-PhD wrote:
<quoted text>
No one need 'convert' a black boy to homosexuality. They are born that way.
And the whites? Now here is a chance to represent yourself!

“The doctor is in.”

Since: Apr 11

Davie, FL

#5 May 22, 2011
Spyware wrote:
<quoted text>
And the whites? Now here is a chance to represent yourself!
They didn't coin the term "DL' for whites.
AFRO

AOL

#6 May 22, 2011
Zaius-PhD , I hope you're really a WW...if not...you do seem like you want a big black dck up your azz......to each it's own...but don't be so hateful because you're not bold enough to go after your fetish :)
the boundaries of space

Atlanta, GA

#8 Sep 23, 2012
The degredation of black males is a result of the growth of white and Hispanic male hyper-masculinity and the increasing feminization of so many black males. it's only expected to get worse, at least throughout America, as time goes on.
Dark Knight

Paterson, NJ

#9 Sep 23, 2012
This thread is funny. Considering the ancient Roman and Greeks were extremely homosexual. You were looked down upon if you didn't have a gay lover during those times.
Dark Knight

Paterson, NJ

#11 Sep 23, 2012
the real DUD FIVERS wrote:
<quoted text>but nowadays it is the negroes who are famous for being gay. Just look at them in prison! and on the forums, their first threat to anyone who upsets them is "Ahse gonna stick muhdick in yo butt"
You make a good point. Based on the evidence you present it is clear you are an idiot.
Prophet

United States

#13 Sep 23, 2012
the real DUD FIVERS wrote:
<quoted text>but nowadays it is the negroes who are famous for being gay. Just look at them in prison! and on the forums, their first threat to anyone who upsets them is "Ahse gonna stick muhdick in yo butt"
I am so tired of gay men watching me of different races. Im trying to not get angry but theyre too aggressive and then play victim.
the boundaries of space

Atlanta, GA

#14 Sep 30, 2012
though black males are known for their racially-motivated hate crimes (despite the fact they don't get charged as such), most blacks don't have quite the same animosity towards gay non-black males because they don't feel socially or even physically threatened by them.

in fact, black males are more likely to be less agitated around, or are willing to befriend a gay non-black, even if the black himself is straight. black males generally hate or congregate against straight non-blacks simply because they feel threatened by them.
nomad

United States

#17 Sep 30, 2012
I just got it you know it all makes sence now .

the whole prison thing and black boys.

No wonder they can't wait to get locked up.

prisons like club med to them no work everythings free and all the butt sex they want

Wow a none stop sex party on the tax payers dime amazing

Aaahahahahahah degenerate negras who'd a thunk of that butt and I do mean lots of butt but them Aaaaahahahahaha
the boundaries of space

Atlanta, GA

#18 Oct 8, 2012
on the show "Good Times", the youngest child character Michael was dubbed the "militant midget". in real life today, he's an uncloseted gay black man. could this be a representation for several real-life black extremists in America today?
Masud_S_Hoghughi __

Netherlands

#20 Oct 8, 2012
.....most male rapes in US prisons are committed by blak males - indeed, more male rapes occur in amerikan prisons than the number of womben raped on the outside......

.....so many times we have a situation where male knigras are raping white females on the street, and white males when they r sent to prison........

......all this is compounded by the fact that a large percentage of negrows r HIV positive, and so the act of rape is a death sentence for many.........
the boundaries of space

Atlanta, GA

#21 Oct 19, 2012
in America in today's generation, no woman of any race (including his own) is in solidarity with the common black male. black males are only in natural solidarity with each other, though they often have extreme difficulty even managing that.

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