Why so many black Baby Momma’s? 70% black kids are born out of wedlock.

[RideThisBlackCow boy]

Africanking,you stay dark(I prefer Caribbean birds who
haven't been contaminated with North American black
women's b****iness,huge a**es,and beer guts);but only if she's got 36D's-40D's!!!!

[fed up with the mess]

Because black women keep giving it up to loser black men outside of marriage. They accept less and demand less from black men because most were raised w/o a good, functional, father in the home and don't have any idea what a good man is or how he should treat her. It is a vicious cycle.

[Mickey N Ashley]

RideThisBlackCowboy wrote:

Africanking,you stay dark(I prefer Caribbean birds who
haven't been contaminated with North American black
women's b****iness,huge a**es,and beer guts);but only if she's got 36D's-40D's!!!!

And you stay your Lame A$$ in Canada..we dont want you here!

[NYChoney]

fed up with the mess wrote:

Because black women keep giving it up to loser black men outside of marriage. They accept less and demand less from black men because most were raised w/o a good, functional, father in the home and don't have any idea what a good man is or how he should treat her. It is a vicious cycle.

Haha not THIS black woman. He better put a ring on it first, be goal oriented, and have good head on his shoulders!!!!

[Cleopatra]

Black woman are having these babies by these men in an attempt to get them to marry them. Women in general need torealize just because you have their baby does not mean they will marry you but more than likely will have the other effect, make them leave.
Also, women have these babies to try to keep their man in their lives. I mean some figure, we have a child together so no matter what, for the next 18 plus years there is some form of communication.
Some women do it out of sheer ignorance, because the man looks good or has good hair. I mean really, who does that in these day and ages, well a few which is sad.

[Princess Lovable S]

Should I let this bother me at all? It only means that more and more and more and more and more and more... BLACK BABIES are being born :)

[Princess Lovable S]

As long as they know better and it is not me!!! People have their own free will.

[Princess Lovable S]

Shaquita wrote:

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Some people make their own decisions and live their own lives. Last time I checked it wasn't illegal in America to have children out of wedlock. Some women may just want to be single mothers, and God can bless them for it as far as i'm concerned. Personally, i'm waiting until i'm a few years older to adopt kids. True, some situations are better than others... but I have friends who were raised by single mothers who turned out just fine. Don't believe the hype. And definately don't believe you're better than the next person just because she has a child.

I agree! People need to tend to their own affairs sometimes ;)

[Kennyinbmore]

Shaquita wrote:

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Some people make their own decisions and live their own lives. Last time I checked it wasn't illegal in America to have children out of wedlock. Some women may just want to be single mothers, and God can bless them for it as far as i'm concerned. Personally, i'm waiting until i'm a few years older to adopt kids. True, some situations are better than others... but I have friends who were raised by single mothers who turned out just fine. Don't believe the hype. And definately don't believe you're better than the next person just because she has a child.

Exactly!! The good single parent stories don't get the press

[Rachael08]

Shaquita wrote:

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Some people make their own decisions and live their own lives. Last time I checked it wasn't illegal in America to have children out of wedlock. Some women may just want to be single mothers, and God can bless them for it as far as i'm concerned. Personally, i'm waiting until i'm a few years older to adopt kids. True, some situations are better than others... but I have friends who were raised by single mothers who turned out just fine. Don't believe the hype. And definately don't believe you're better than the next person just because she has a child.

Well, I am better than the woman with a bastard child, because I have self control. I am able to keep my legs closed.

Some women are just nasty. They have been fucked by multiple men and have lots a bastard kids and don't know the daddy.

[fed up with the mess]

NYChoney wrote:

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Haha not THIS black woman. He better put a ring on it first, be goal oriented, and have good head on his shoulders!!!!

Glad to hear that! Finally someone with brains.

[Tyson]

NYChoney wrote:

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Right. When non-black people do it, nobody points the finger at them. It's a double standard. Lol people call black women who are unwed "Baby mamas" when they have kids. Well it should not just be for black women... white women and other non black women with kids who are unmarried are just as much a "Baby mama" as a black woman whose in that same situation.

Who started the baby momma thing.Not a white person.That is the way they refer to it.They say it all the time.The double standard thing is also a black thing.So please.Other races don't talk in ebonics.Thats there thing to.It is not the same situation.We don't have kids to get welfare and for the most part as you would say our baby momma's are most often still with the baby daddy jusy not married.

[NYChoney]

Tyson wrote:

<quoted text>Who started the baby momma thing.Not a white person.That is the way they refer to it.They say it all the time.The double standard thing is also a black thing.So please.Other races don't talk in ebonics.Thats there thing to.It is not the same situation.We don't have kids to get welfare and for the most part as you would say our baby momma's are most often still with the baby daddy jusy not married.

Yeah, well stop stereotyping. We are all our own individuals and come from different walks of life. You never met every single black woman/person so how could you catergorize all in the same box??

[Rashad]

What our community for get is the only reason black population is not on decline is because these women are hsving these chidren. Married black women fertility rates are very low.

[butterflye25]

Females need to stop enablng Males to get away with any and everything.
Foolish, foolish women!
Having a man does nt add to worth. However when you date filth from the gutter men, this DOES TAKE from your worth. You think you are ncreasing your worth just because you have a man, but you are allowing yourself to be used, abused, mistreated, and neglected. You are taking years away from your life by the stress, grief and havoc a no good man brings!!

[butterflye25]

These men want to take take take, while you give give give!
They dont love you or most likely don't ven like you! They are USING you! Thats why they stay with you but on the side they are sticking their penises in other women and sometimes men, and involved in Lord knows what else!!!
Be strong. Love yourself. Stand your ground, and learn to stand alone! Untl, that is, you find a GOOD man, the almost non existent, GOOD man.
Take time to know him, and his true colors will come out. They all start out good at first!
Pray! Seek God's guidance and His will!

[lola]

Rachael08 wrote:

Question for the sistas: why have children out of wedlock? I’m single and unmarried but child free.
Two incomes are better than one. By having an out of wedlock child you are only making it harder on yourself. Being a single mom isn’t easy plus it’s best for children to have a father in their lives.
Nothing wrong with being a single mom but why CHOOSE to be a single mom by purposely having kids out of wedlock?

No one knew that Mary, Auset whatever name you know her as was 14ish when she became pregnant with Jesus (Heru). She was not wed.
The point I am making here is that it doesn't matter if you are married or not the child needs two loving parents. Money is another subject. The child is the topc here and why is money "Two incomes better than one" so important?
The best of the best have come fro impoverished communities.
Thonk about that for a moment.
Life is about how to make the world a better place for the upcoming generations, not how to bring up children in a luxurious home and a luxury car, a diamond ring and a husband with a six figure income. not too many people have that option.

[lola]

Marriage to many of our men is just something to put shackles on you. I knew a couple that was happy for 15yrs got married and divorced after 6mos. Why? The strain of paperwork and change. Like why is it so important to be married when it should just be important to be be promiscuous? The marriage ceremony is for the blessings from the persons god or for the government and federal benefits. If my husband went bankrupt today or tomorrow that means so am I. Why should we both be bankrupt? LOL He did it not me. lol

[Lisa-Michigan]

lola wrote:

Marriage to many of our men is just something to put shackles on you. I knew a couple that was happy for 15yrs got married and divorced after 6mos. Why? The strain of paperwork and change. Like why is it so important to be married when it should just be important to be be promiscuous? The marriage ceremony is for the blessings from the persons god or for the government and federal benefits. If my husband went bankrupt today or tomorrow that means so am I. Why should we both be bankrupt? LOL He did it not me. lol

I think it's b/c the man (most likely) didn't want to be married in the first place, which is why it took so long to march down the aisle. Shacking up benefits the man more so than the woman in mo. I know of a couple now who have been together 13 yrs, living together 10, they're about to be married, I hope it lasts, but statistics say otherwise. Another woman I know dated her boyfriend 8 yrs, he divorced her 2 yrs later.

[Princess Lovable S]

No biological children of mine..., yet I have every reason to believe that "70% statistic" is a concoction straight from the pit of a burning hell.