Level 1

Since: Sep 13

Durham, NC

#1 Sep 19, 2013
I see so many black men young and old date outside there race and while I promise,(I have NO PROBLEM with this what so ever), HOWEVER, I do have a problem with black men Bashing, degrading, name calling, and over-all negatively commenting on black women. I'm 24. Proud young Black woman who moved around a lot throughout my life and I can say its not a Southern/Northern thing I see and hear this ignorance and self hate come from black men all across the country. Anything from Black woman deserve to be Single because of their attitude, to dark skinned women are ugly or less attractive compared to lighter skinned woman or black woman being gold diggers, I heard all of this from a young age and even now. I grew up around a very Pro-Black Father who never failed at telling me how beautiful and strong I was naturally and all about my history even beyond slavery. Read a lot of books and still in school til this day, I appreciate all the knowledge my father gave me. BUT, growing up and getting out into the dating world, I quickly realized that the average black man was indeed the complete opposite of my father when it comes to appreciating black women. Ive been around a lot of brothas and I hear them dis black woman and praise the Latina woman for their hair, skin, or better sex... white woman for being more submissive, less attitude, more oral sex, But rarely hear them call us queens or proud mother of their children. I used to think it was due to immaturity but I hear men In there 30s and 40s feel the same way and as a young black woman trying to find my way In life it does hurt hearing these things constantly from black men being black myself, if they see us like this how does the rest see us?, especially after dating so many any trying to be that Ideal black woman even at a young age. seeing so many single black women with or without kids growing old still trying to find that one black man to settle down with is sad. Call me corny or old school but I always dreamed of having my husband after college, being in love and owning a nice home with my man and kids... but all the black men Ive dated seem to be into other things, like finding the one with the fattest booty, strip clubs, making money (witch ain't too bad)and bad yellow/red bones but marriage or owning a home/business was never mentioned. Then it seems black men who are on this track or who have found some sort of success do not wish to share it with black women. Even my uncle, the one in my family with the most success right now married outside his race and had kids(my 3 little cousins witch I love) but as I get older I cant help but to encourage black woman to be more open minded finding love by dating outside their race as well, because nobody wants to be alone growing old. black woman support black men by turning their nose up and rejecting other races only wanting black men, still looking for that black man, I see it all the time, while black men continue to bash us and make us the bottom choice smh its getting pathetic. I finally found a man who treats me like a queen and appreciates my goals, my natural kinky hair, my slim body, and actually wants to be married in the near future. Too bad I cant enjoy this feeling because hes white and my father will disown me. Why is it ok for black men to date whoever and make us feel less beautiful but a crime for black woman to accept Love outside of our community? Should we continue to wait for our black king that may never pursue us?

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