Is it racist not dating a white guy?

Is it racist not dating a white guy?

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blackgurl

Portsmouth, VA

#1 Nov 7, 2008
Alot friends of mine keeps calling me an inside racist just because i've turned down the white guys that ask me out. The college i go to is mostly white kids so i get asked out alot by usually white men and any time i turn one down. My friends call me a racist just because i like dating black men more.
So i need people to answer this? Is it racist not wanting to date a white guy?
I mean i hang out with white people(boys and girls) but i'm not attracted to white boys.
So is that racist?
Is not like i'm against interracial dating (I'm all for it, i've dated Latinos and asians before) but i'mjust not attracted to white men.
So is that racist?

“This was so much FUN!”

Since: Sep 08

Thomasville, GA

#2 Nov 7, 2008
No thats not racist. Its the same way with me. im not attracted to white men. I have nothing against them, Im just not attracted. If a white guy told me he had no issues with black girls but wasnt attracted to them i wouldnt think he was racist
Real Talk

Washington, DC

#3 Nov 7, 2008
I don't think you are racist because you choose not to date white dudes. Everybody has a right to there own preference. I use to date outside my race by now I'm mostly interested in black women. However, I would date a latina.

Since: Jul 08

Racists Get Ignored!

#4 Nov 7, 2008
Kristen_08, I'm the same way with white and asian women(except south asians), but I'm not racist towards Asians and white people.
The Moor

Detroit, MI

#5 Nov 7, 2008
blackgurl wrote:
Alot friends of mine keeps calling me an inside racist just because i've turned down the white guys that ask me out. The college i go to is mostly white kids so i get asked out alot by usually white men and any time i turn one down. My friends call me a racist just because i like dating black men more.
So i need people to answer this? Is it racist not wanting to date a white guy?
I mean i hang out with white people(boys and girls) but i'm not attracted to white boys.
So is that racist?
Is not like i'm against interracial dating (I'm all for it, i've dated Latinos and asians before) but i'mjust not attracted to white men.
So is that racist?
I am a black male married to a black woman, who is everything that I ever wanted in a woman. If I were not with her, I would not date white women. That is my choice, I have my own personal reasons for that. I am not one of those black men who chase after white girls, I am proud to have a beautiful and intelligent black woman on my arm. If you are happy dating black men and if they treat you the way that you should be treated then that is just fine. This whole interracial thing that all of these black women are into now is not for everyone. And yes there are still some good black men. Both of my sister are married to good, hard working, productive,loving and respectable men. So we do exist,stick to your guns.

“We are what we think!!!!!!!!!!”

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Since: Aug 08

Anger has no eyes!

#6 Nov 7, 2008
I don't feel NOT dating someone is racist. It's definitely NOT LIKE refraining from employment.

Anyway, why should women date someone just to make herself look equal ? Women should date because she'll feel nice to be with someone.

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Since: Jan 08

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#7 Nov 7, 2008
It all depends on how you look at it. Some may actually say that because you turn them down being not attracted to them that you do see color and you are a racist for being such, while others will say it's all a matter of preferences as most of the posters right here are doing. Once again, depends on who you ask I guess.

Personally, I don't think you are. It's whatever floats your boat. Everybody is different and preference for or against something doesn't automatically get itself classified as prejudice or hatred, or at least shouldn't. It isn't fair because you don't always know people.
Naijagurl

Portsmouth, VA

#9 Nov 7, 2008
I don't think it's racist. I don't date white men neither and that's because i'm not attracted to them. it depends on your preferences.
fnord

Surprise, AZ

#10 Nov 8, 2008
What fantasy world do you live in? The overwhelming majority of white men find sheboons absolutely repulsive and would rather stick their dicks in a garbage can before they would schtupp a sheboon.
PrincessStar

Richmond, VA

#11 Nov 8, 2008
blackgurl wrote:
Alot friends of mine keeps calling me an inside racist just because i've turned down the white guys that ask me out. The college i go to is mostly white kids so i get asked out alot by usually white men and any time i turn one down. My friends call me a racist just because i like dating black men more.
So i need people to answer this? Is it racist not wanting to date a white guy?
I mean i hang out with white people(boys and girls) but i'm not attracted to white boys.
So is that racist?
Is not like i'm against interracial dating (I'm all for it, i've dated Latinos and asians before) but i'mjust not attracted to white men.
So is that racist?
if you don't think he is cute then why should you have to give him your number I could see if he is a dime ....your not attracted to them..tell your friends to leave you a lone about it.
soul brother in London

UK

#12 Nov 8, 2008
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Since: Feb 08

Santa Ana, CA

#13 Nov 8, 2008
blackgurl wrote:
Alot friends of mine keeps calling me an inside racist just because i've turned down the white guys that ask me out. The college i go to is mostly white kids so i get asked out alot by usually white men and any time i turn one down. My friends call me a racist just because i like dating black men more.
So i need people to answer this? Is it racist not wanting to date a white guy?
I mean i hang out with white people(boys and girls) but i'm not attracted to white boys.
So is that racist?
Is not like i'm against interracial dating (I'm all for it, i've dated Latinos and asians before) but i'mjust not attracted to white men.
So is that racist?
keep up the good work!
ttt

United States

#15 Nov 8, 2008
no it is not racist. It is just your personal preference and who you are attracted to.

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Since: Jul 08

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#16 Nov 8, 2008
you are not dating white guys because you're not attracted to them, not because you are racist. not being romantically attracted to a certain type of person does not make you racist.
asian guy

Tacoma, WA

#17 Nov 8, 2008
have you wondered why you dont like white men?
if its cause you like darker skin then its not racist.

but if its cause you have negative feelings about white people then thats racist.

for instance I love tall women, its so nice to hop on them while having sex, and I love fat women when they are on top its like a mountain going fump, fump fump on you. But short and normal women are just as good, just not as fun =(

Level 1

Since: Jul 08

Location hidden

#18 Nov 8, 2008
wow lmao tmi
asian guy wrote:
have you wondered why you dont like white men?
if its cause you like darker skin then its not racist.
but if its cause you have negative feelings about white people then thats racist.
for instance I love tall women, its so nice to hop on them while having sex, and I love fat women when they are on top its like a mountain going fump, fump fump on you. But short and normal women are just as good, just not as fun =(
asian guy

Tacoma, WA

#19 Nov 8, 2008
lol forget what I wrote it was a joke the sex part was at least.

but the part where I asked why you are unattracted to white men, it can mean that you're racist if you're unattracted to them for the wrong reasons
John B Goode

Duluth, GA

#20 Nov 8, 2008
In this particular area, young black males will throw the race card at young white girls that turn down thier advances. It happens, maybe thats how they feel, not sure, but thats the end result, "she's a rascist bitch".....

Level 1

Since: Jul 08

Location hidden

#21 Nov 8, 2008
sounds like a nice crutch for a black man who doesn't want to admit that she could be turning him down for another reason.
John B Goode wrote:
In this particular area, young black males will throw the race card at young white girls that turn down thier advances. It happens, maybe thats how they feel, not sure, but thats the end result, "she's a rascist bitch".....

Since: Jul 08

#22 Nov 8, 2008
No, it's not racist.

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