Why women choose the worst losers?

Why women choose the worst losers?

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Nemo

Auburn Hills, MI

#1 Nov 20, 2007
Women push decent guys out of the way in order to throw themselves at the worst scumbags in the pack..Then have the nerve to complain when they get shit on...Is it lack of self esteem or what? Lots of good guys would love to know the truth about this....
Nemo

Auburn Hills, MI

#3 Nov 20, 2007
Death On Two Legs wrote:
Bad boys get the nookie. Nice guys hold the woman's purse. Girls tell nice guys, " I don't think of you that way, Seymour. I just wanna be friends."
Women like danger. Bad boys are sexy. Nice guys say stuff like, "I don't know, honey. What do you want to do tonight?" Bad boys put the girl on the back of their motorbike & just go.
Women usually don't want to marry bad boys. That's why the nice guy with a stable career & fat bank account wins in the end. Being married to a bad boy who can't hold down a job & is always getting into trouble with the police gets old pretty fast.
If you're a nice single guy, fake being a bad boy!
If thats really the way it is then I officially withdraw my respect for any woman who plays that rotten game, and I might add that hithertofore whereas I might have held some sympathy for such women I now believe that whatever happens to them is completely their own fault...No more sympathy here, you reap what you sow....

“glorified work permit”

Level 1

Since: Jul 07

Toronto

#4 Nov 20, 2007
Nemo,

How about you date the not so attractive girl with the great attitude...and stop chasing the hot girl that's chasing the bad boy?

Why don't guys like the unattractive girl with the great attitude? Shallow maybe?

Level 2

Since: Sep 07

Ann Arbor

#5 Nov 21, 2007
Nemo wrote:
Women push decent guys out of the way in order to throw themselves at the worst scumbags in the pack..Then have the nerve to complain when they get shit on...Is it lack of self esteem or what? Lots of good guys would love to know the truth about this....
Look at "I love New York" for an example, the men who seem like that would be a decent, studious type of young man, she instantly kicks him aside, she's said more than once, she needs a man with a bit of thug in him (something like that) I think a lot of women find the more decent men boring, I also think that women who say they want a man with a bit of "thug" in him, never grew up seeing what a "real" man is, to them a "thug" is a man with an edge. A "real" man to me, is a man who just exudes manliness without having to open his mouth, I like a man who has a quiet strength about him, not some loud mouth, hip hop thug acting sambo. Total turn off for me.

“BeoncahBlackhear t86”

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Since: Aug 07

Chicago, IL

#6 Nov 22, 2007
This is getting old.
Lil Miss Tattle Tail

United States

#7 Nov 22, 2007
Could it have something to do with not having the right male role models while growing up? People with no male role models could end up with what kind of guy do I want. Those with negative role models pick guys like that role model I would think. Really, if your mother tolerated it why wouldn't you?

Girls need positive male role models during their formative years too. That is why programs are so important like Big Brothers Big Sisters, etc. They need to see that their options extend past a dead beat dad.
Scrotal

Auburn Hills, MI

#8 Nov 23, 2007
Lisa-Michigan wrote:
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Look at "I love New York" for an example, the men who seem like that would be a decent, studious type of young man, she instantly kicks him aside, she's said more than once, she needs a man with a bit of thug in him (something like that) I think a lot of women find the more decent men boring, I also think that women who say they want a man with a bit of "thug" in him, never grew up seeing what a "real" man is, to them a "thug" is a man with an edge. A "real" man to me, is a man who just exudes manliness without having to open his mouth, I like a man who has a quiet strength about him, not some loud mouth, hip hop thug acting sambo. Total turn off for me.
Women that think like you are 'rare' indeed! Most are as shallow as a puddle....I never was all that attracted to the real 'beauties' in my youth other than just to gawk at...It was obvious to me that they were just playing games with the guys that pursued them and I don't play those silly mind games...I would rather have a woman that is 'attractive' in her own way, but has an outstanding personality...Looks may fade but good character is a lifelong attribute...I was 'duped' by both of my ex wives into believing that they were super nice, sweet as sugar and a prime 'catch'...Only after they had 'landed' me did they reveal their true, dark nature....I pride myself on being extremely easy to get along with. I do not play these stupid mind games just to get my own selfish way...After getting burned at the stake by those two 'bitches' I decided i'd had enough of women as far as dating goes and so I haven't really dated anybody for the past 8 years or so...I would like to meet a nice woman to date but i'm not going to hold my breath until I meet one:o) Also, i'm retired/disabled, 63 years old, a 'tad' on the heavy side and not exactly a 'TEN':o)
Jungle Import aka Toby

Elk Grove, CA

#9 Nov 23, 2007
justiz4once wrote:
Nemo,
How about you date the not so attractive girl with the great attitude...and stop chasing the hot girl that's chasing the bad boy?
Why don't guys like the unattractive girl with the great attitude? Shallow maybe?
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You scored the post of the day.:)

Level 2

Since: Sep 07

Ann Arbor

#10 Nov 23, 2007
Scrotal wrote:
<quoted text>Women that think like you are 'rare' indeed! Most are as shallow as a puddle....I never was all that attracted to the real 'beauties' in my youth other than just to gawk at...It was obvious to me that they were just playing games with the guys that pursued them and I don't play those silly mind games...I would rather have a woman that is 'attractive' in her own way, but has an outstanding personality...Looks may fade but good character is a lifelong attribute...I was 'duped' by both of my ex wives into believing that they were super nice, sweet as sugar and a prime 'catch'...Only after they had 'landed' me did they reveal their true, dark nature....I pride myself on being extremely easy to get along with. I do not play these stupid mind games just to get my own selfish way...After getting burned at the stake by those two 'bitches' I decided i'd had enough of women as far as dating goes and so I haven't really dated anybody for the past 8 years or so...I would like to meet a nice woman to date but i'm not going to hold my breath until I meet one:o) Also, i'm retired/disabled, 63 years old, a 'tad' on the heavy side and not exactly a 'TEN':o)
Well i've come along way myself, even when I was a younger woman (late teens early 20's)I just concentrated on the looks (of which they are important) but a strong wonderful personality can sometimes overcome the physical, but even that is a rarity.
Scrotal

Auburn Hills, MI

#12 Nov 24, 2007
Electric Eye wrote:
Next time any guy who says "looks aren't important" goes to a bar, we'll have a hidden camera to videotape who he hits on.
I don't need a woman to be surgically attached to me. I don't mind being alone. I can take them or leave them. I think about them when I'm horny. Women are often more trouble than they're worth.
Too high-maintenance. Too much drama. Too much to much. It feels so good when women stop talking.
When I was young I played the dating game and done just as well as any other guy..I was married to two different women for a total of 33 years, raised two kids..In between marriages I went hog wild and got more ass than a public toilet seat...Now i'm old and I haven't really dated in many years..I too think of women but don't feel any great need to get involved in all the drama either..I created enough sexual fantasy/memories in the five years of being a whoremaster to last me the rest of my life...While I was married I was dead broke, sometimes working two jobs and never really seeming to get anywhere...Since i've been on my own I now own everything I have, don't owe anybody anything, and have money in the bank..Also, I have several good friends that can come and visit me any time they wish to, and I don't suffer from constant feelings of guilt or inadequatcy of any kind...In fact i'm quite satisfied with the way I turned out...Only men that are desperate for the company of women allow them to ruin their lives...The only hold women have on us is sex; break that dependency and they are rendered 'Impotent':o)
Michelle

Lake Saint Louis, MO

#13 Nov 24, 2007
Nemo wrote:
Women push decent guys out of the way in order to throw themselves at the worst scumbags in the pack..Then have the nerve to complain when they get shit on...Is it lack of self esteem or what? Lots of good guys would love to know the truth about this....
I have seen men do this too. They will pick whatever is sexy to them and end up with a cheating, lying, hoodrat stripper-so it goes both ways. I just think in your defense, that a lot of women do not know what they want and how they truly want to be treated, so they pick bad people.

Level 1

Since: Apr 07

Broomfield, CO

#14 Nov 24, 2007
So they can have something to complain about when it doesn't work out!
Aces-High

Auburn Hills, MI

#15 Nov 25, 2007
Domineace2sexy wrote:
This is getting old.
Just change the channel.....
rudeboy

Vancouver, Canada

#16 Oct 28, 2009
Nemo wrote:
Women push decent guys out of the way in order to throw themselves at the worst scumbags in the pack..Then have the nerve to complain when they get shit on...Is it lack of self esteem or what? Lots of good guys would love to know the truth about this....
Total Truth.Only way around it is to treat them like shit.I am so tired of being the good guy the guy who is always there and then they give it all to an abusive piece of shit.Then they come back for your support.Ignore them. Let them use someone else.
rock in mom

Lake Forest, CA

#17 Nov 9, 2010
Michelle wrote:
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I have seen men do this too. They will pick whatever is sexy to them and end up with a cheating, lying, hoodrat stripper-so it goes both ways. I just think in your defense, that a lot of women do not know what they want and how they truly want to be treated, so they pick bad people.
Men treat you the way you allow them to treat you, higher the bar & make them rise to it or kick
their loser ass to the curb. If you aren't sure what you expect in a man how would you expect
get it. I's kind of like goals if you have none you probably won't go too far. First you have to
be your own person before you can have a relationship. Most women become what ever men want
them to be, they have no self worth, or any idea of who they are. Co dependents get addicts.
women with careers & their own sense of self get winners.
Marquis

Savannah, GA

#18 Nov 21, 2010
well I say this because of how tall he is, how much money, fly looking gear, fly looking clothes, his much his "swag" is, etc which well it won't last that well because for one in your teenage years the decent guy gets pushed aside while the bad boys get the girls but when in late 20's/early 30's the same decent guy will have the last laugh when he have a successful career, an intelligent college educated wife that loves him while the bad boys is in jail or dead and the chick who loved the bad boys will have an terrible life or an midlife crisis so let the women chose the bad boys because the decent guys will have their revenge at a later date
Splitting Hairs

Burnaby, Canada

#19 Apr 21, 2011
A firm body and a firm mind is a very rare combination with North American women, the younger and more attractive the women the more this "likely" to be true. Women are WAY more influenced by popular culture (and other peoples opinions) than men, and as long as the "Bad" Boy is portrayed as the desirable male in movies etc, this relatively recent trend (past 20-30 years) will continue. Plus some women seem to prefer the path most traveled, ie they will stand inline to be p#ssy #1237
There are great women out there who have self esteem and standards, but the man has to have something going for him, as these women typically have options.
Most guys think North American women have high standards (too picky), IMO, most have extremely low standards. What most women do share in common though, is high expectations, date / marry a Pinto and then except the poor shlub to perform like a Porsche. Of course the power of her love (and BJ's) will turn him into "her version' of the perfect man LOL.
Splitting Hairs

Burnaby, Canada

#20 Apr 21, 2011
"I just think in your defense, that a lot of women do not know what they want and how they truly want to be treated, so they pick bad people."

I would agree with this 100%, it is ironic that as women have become more liberated with increased options, more women are making terrible life style decisions.
so very true says

Brick, NJ

#21 Oct 8, 2011
these type of women are so retarded, and a bunch of losers as well.
Just wondering

Boston, MA

#22 Oct 10, 2011
I broke up with an attractive but needy woman I was planning to marry because she was so emotionally abusive and emotionally unstable and just a couple months later she married another man who's twice her age and who's very poor and very unattractive. A real father figure. She could have done so much better than him if she wasn't so needy and desperate to get married. She's smart and pretty. I wonder if she's happy. I know she was very late for her wedding. I was just wondering: Does she know she settled? So many women settle. Do they know they're settling.

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