A message to all IR BM.... from a bw
BIgKnob

United States

#2161 Sep 4, 2013
Capree wrote:
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(6)Not all just like not all bm are moving away from bw but a lot of black women are choosing to expand their dating/marrying options to include other races of men which is great for black women in the long or short run. Bm can choose to believe it or not but it don't change a thing.
(7) Most white women with common black men, don't look that good, many are either plain, obese or downright butt ugly. Bm can choose to believe lit or not but it don't change a thing.
(8)Whether most black men are with black women or not, black men have this need to dominate, control and be seen as better than black women and black men try to do this through insults and ridicule of black women(no matter what bw do)in order to keep their self-esteem low. Prime example-Black men are constantly criticizing black women whose hair is natural, because it's not Caucasian hair yet when black women wear weave these same men complain to black women because it's not really their hair. The hair situation gives black men the opportunity to damn bw if do and damn bw if they don't! Bm can choose to believe it or not but it don't change a thing.
(9)All most of these black mothers want is for black men to assume part of the responsibility for their children.
(10)You are right for once because black women don't believe stereotypes other races of men say about black men. Black women only believe these stereotypes when black men act them out.
your confused no bm wants to dominate bw, thats what makes the bm so appealing to non bw, we've never had a male dominate culture in our community, bw have always worked. Unlike hispanic men, asian, arab africans they'll dominate / control you, ask bw who've dated them. Also bw need to stop playing games with the kids, keeping them away from the father, you know damn well they do that. Thats why you have a black father's rights origanization in california call my child says daddy, headed by a bm whos a lawyer. Its you so called college educated bw, you think your better, even on here, some of you try to talk down to men. Ive noticed that, but you dont like being challanged by a no nonsense bm, who'll check your bullshit, and whos not playing games. so you bw need to look in the mirror, and their you'll see, INSECURITY / HYPOCRISY IN HD.
Beer Belly Bobs Ghost

New York, NY

#2162 Sep 4, 2013
London wrote:
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I think the average bw doesn't care about the opinion of "bm" when it comes to there hair as well as other matters. "Bm" have lost any credible voice with sound minded bw. "Bm" need to worry about the women they are with. Clearly if weaves are not only continued to be worn by bw but ramped up even..that should be you alls first clue. "Bm" need to worry about themselves..you all have enough on your plate.
May I remind you the title of this thread again? Seems to me bw do care what bm think and who we date. Wheres the thread made by a bm addressing IRBW?

And the weave business will continue to flourish because bw's self hate is beyond any ridicule bm could heap upon them. It's a bad situation for bw that tho they try to look non black and get scorned for it they still prefer that then to looking like a natural bw.

Some sad chit indeed.

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#2163 Sep 4, 2013
London wrote:
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I think the average bw doesn't care about the opinion of "bm" when it comes to there hair as well as other matters. "Bm" have lost any credible voice with sound minded bw. "Bm" need to worry about the women they are with. Clearly if weaves are not only continued to be worn by bw but ramped up even..that should be you alls first clue. "Bm" need to worry about themselves..you all have enough on your plate.
It's true, there's absolutely no way Black women don't know BM dislike weave. Weave is just another thing IRBM and their non-BW laugh at BW about.
BW know this and don't care. BW do not wear weave to look good for BM.

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#2164 Sep 4, 2013
Beer Belly Bobs Ghost wrote:
<quoted text> My top 10 list wasnt meant to be debated, it was simply stating points that bm feel. You debating them doesnt change that.
Of course your made up list is not up for debate because it's your own private delusion.
Beer Belly Bobs Ghost wrote:
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However I will say that many bm unfairly scorn bw regardless of how they present their hair.
Agreed!
Beer Belly Bobs Ghost wrote:
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This is a point we all know about. But my question is wouldnt it be preferable to be natural as opposed to fake? If you're gonna be scorned for your hair, at least dont pay money for the ridicule.
Personally I have always worn my natural hair except sometimes if I was going to a special event but I have never had fake hair sewn or glued into my hair and dislike wear fake things on body on a day to day basis, my nails aren't even fake. I don't judge sisters who do but I hate it when black women who wear weave, state in front of nonblacks that they bought their hair or that their hair is from Indians, Koreans heads etc.. All those black women are doing is inviting others to ridicule them for buying other people's hair to wear and promotes the phony stereotype that most black women are practically bald or hate their hair. I am ashamed for these black women who let prejuding nonblack women in on their personal hair because the those nonblack women aren't laughing with them but at these black women and thinking their own Caucasian hair is better. These black women should remember that the many white women who suffer from head lice, you will never ever hear them state in front black women, what type of lice repellent they are using on their hair. Some things should be keep private from outsiders!

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Since: May 13

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#2165 Sep 4, 2013
Beer Belly Bobs Ghost wrote:
<quoted text>Fine.
Now what?
Next step is to change your value system. Strive to attain as much knowledge as possible, love yourself and others - in a non sexual way, increase will power, stop being hyper social and spend more time alone to think and self reflect, travel, meet others without having an agenda, see people as those to learn from and not target, learn about different cultures, get a healthier diet, stop being mean spirited, and...be a source of inspiration for your fellow brethrens.
Beer Belly Bobs Ghost

New York, NY

#2166 Sep 4, 2013
Capree wrote:
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I have approved you to believe or disbelieve, laugh or even do a belly flop where my marriage is concerned because it doesn't effect me. I am happy and safe in my husband's arms every night any way. Once again choose to believe what ever you like or that will make you feel better about yourself but man are you ever obsessed.
Her subject of pain is none of my business and the only one who is pathetic is you for trying to exploit it.
I am not talking about the few successful black men out here because there are just as many or more successful black women. I am comparing the hundreds of thousands of average black men who are either high school drop outs, no college degrees, leaving off of women, unemployed, in prison, have long criminal records etc. to the many average black women(yes some include babymama also) out here who employed, getting or have their degrees, no prison, taking care of and raising their children etc..
Ok, I will continue to laugh at and mock your fake marriage. Not because I'm obsessed, but because...it's funny and you look ridiculous every time you mention it, and your approval is not necessary but thanks.

And you're right, her subject of pain is none of ANY of our business but if she chooses to display it so obviously and often then we simply cant ignore it. No one is forcing her to make us see it for what it is.

And being a bw you should know that the disparity between black people and all other non bp is purely a systematic effort to keep us down. Institutionalized racism is very real and on all levels. Bw are not perceived as a threat in the same way yet there are still more bw in prison than non bw, more bw high school drop outs, more bw with HIV and more bw unemployed than non bw so stop trying to make it seem that bw are on a whole different level to bm.

At least we are in the position of adversary.
London

Columbus, OH

#2167 Sep 4, 2013
Beer Belly Bobs Ghost wrote:
<quoted text>May I remind you the title of this thread again? Seems to me bw do care what bm think and who we date. Wheres the thread made by a bm addressing IRBW?
And the weave business will continue to flourish because bw's self hate is beyond any ridicule bm could heap upon them. It's a bad situation for bw that tho they try to look non black and get scorned for it they still prefer that then to looking like a natural bw.
Some sad chit indeed.
The title of the thread includes bw. Why would a group of men, who are over the moon for the own non bw, care to post on such a thread or even look in to this forum to begin with?

And I don't care who bm date. I don't care about ir. "Bm" with biracial mothers aren't even my group of men to begin with so this is just more silliness from you.

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#2168 Sep 4, 2013
The Enemy Within wrote:
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w/e
Not my problem. I have my own problems to deal with. Deal with yours.
Exhibit #16: BM use apathy to dismiss self accountability.

I understand, but in the best future, BM will lose credibility with all...and ver few will advocate on your behalf.

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Since: Jan 10

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#2169 Sep 4, 2013
Corrections:

Personally I have always worn my natural hair except for sometimes if I was going to a special event but I have never had fake hair sewn or glued into my hair and I dislike wearin any fake things onmy body on a day to day basis, my nails aren't even fake. I don't judge sisters who do but I hate it when black women who wear weave, state in front of nonblacks that they bought their hair or that their hair is from Indians, Koreans heads etc.. All those black women are doing is inviting others to ridicule them for buying other people's hair to wear and promotng the phony stereotype that most black women are practically bald or hate their own hair. I am ashamed for these black women who let pre-judging nonblack women in on their personal hair habits because those same nonblack women aren't laughing with them but at these black women and thinking their own Caucasian hair is better. These black women should remember that the many white women who suffer from head lice, that you will never ever hear them state in front black women, what type of lice repellent they are using on their hair. Some things should be keep private from outsiders!
Beer Belly Bobs Ghost

New York, NY

#2170 Sep 4, 2013
Shalimarr wrote:
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It's true, there's absolutely no way Black women don't know BM dislike weave. Weave is just another thing IRBM and their non-BW laugh at BW about.
BW know this and don't care. BW do not wear weave to look good for BM.
If it dont look good to bm it certainly doesnt look good to non bm. Why should they want a woman with fake hair thats trying to look like their own womens natural hair.

Ultimately y'all just do it out of self hate.
London

Columbus, OH

#2171 Sep 4, 2013
Capree wrote:
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Of course your made up list is not up for debate because it's your own private delusion.
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Agreed!
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Personally I have always worn my natural hair except sometimes if I was going to a special event but I have never had fake hair sewn or glued into my hair and dislike wear fake things on body on a day to day basis, my nails aren't even fake. I don't judge sisters who do but I hate it when black women who wear weave, state in front of nonblacks that they bought their hair or that their hair is from Indians, Koreans heads etc.. All those black women are doing is inviting others to ridicule them for buying other people's hair to wear and promotes the phony stereotype that most black women are practically bald or hate their hair. I am ashamed for these black women who let prejuding nonblack women in on their personal hair because the those nonblack women aren't laughing with them but at these black women and thinking their own Caucasian hair is better. These black women should remember that the many white women who suffer from head lice, you will never ever hear them state in front black women, what type of lice repellent they are using on their hair. Some things should be keep private from outsiders!
Agree Capree. I have never understood those sistas who loudly talk about their beautifying regiments in such a way. I have always cringed and found a way out of the room when a bw would loudly proclaim to other races that her hair was hers because she bought it. Very uncouth and stupid for them to do this, but many bw are just as stupid and dumb as some bm. They think this is gaining them some type of social acceptance but the question should be what type of person wants social acceptance from a group of people who hate them? Just no pride nor dignity.

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Since: May 13

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#2172 Sep 4, 2013
Shalimarr wrote:
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I think that as humans we think we are entitled to those who we physically desire. Men as they get older earn more money and are able to buy young girls. White women travel to the Caribbean to buy sex with young men, men who in the UK or Germany they would not have enough money to buy. Because the young men in those countries are not in poverty desperate for money.
I'm assuming that because available AA men are so very outnumbered, plus they have access to IR, they are made to feel in demand by women, who just don't want to be lonely.
Good points, but these particular AAM don't have those...they are not bringing anything but their sexual organs to a healthy, moral, professional woman - why wouldn't they expect her to find someone like her?
London

Columbus, OH

#2173 Sep 4, 2013
TimeforHonesty wrote:
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Next step is to change your value system. Strive to attain as much knowledge as possible, love yourself and others - in a non sexual way, increase will power, stop being hyper social and spend more time alone to think and self reflect, travel, meet others without having an agenda, see people as those to learn from and not target, learn about different cultures, get a healthier diet, stop being mean spirited, and...be a source of inspiration for your fellow brethrens.
Great advice.
Beer Belly Bobs Ghost

New York, NY

#2174 Sep 4, 2013
Capree wrote:
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Of course your made up list is not up for debate because it's your own private delusion.
<quoted text>
Agreed!
<quoted text>
Personally I have always worn my natural hair except sometimes if I was going to a special event but I have never had fake hair sewn or glued into my hair and dislike wear fake things on body on a day to day basis, my nails aren't even fake. I don't judge sisters who do but I hate it when black women who wear weave, state in front of nonblacks that they bought their hair or that their hair is from Indians, Koreans heads etc.. All those black women are doing is inviting others to ridicule them for buying other people's hair to wear and promotes the phony stereotype that most black women are practically bald or hate their hair. I am ashamed for these black women who let prejuding nonblack women in on their personal hair because the those nonblack women aren't laughing with them but at these black women and thinking their own Caucasian hair is better. These black women should remember that the many white women who suffer from head lice, you will never ever hear them state in front black women, what type of lice repellent they are using on their hair. Some things should be keep private from outsiders!
Yeah thats my own personal list, but it's a list from a bm and thats what all you bw are in here to discuss so that alone gives it merit.

About the hair...I agree 100% but even you said the only time you might not wear it natural is for a "special" event. Interesting that you would not deem your own hair in a natural state good enough for special events.

I can respect a bw that wears her hair natural ALL the time.

I know and know of a few.



All the bw presenting the award have weaves or processed and straightened chemical hair or...god knows what but Lauren to whom the award is going to is all natural.

Now THATS a bw for a bm
London

Columbus, OH

#2175 Sep 4, 2013
Shalimarr wrote:
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It's true, there's absolutely no way Black women don't know BM dislike weave. Weave is just another thing IRBM and their non-BW laugh at BW about.
BW know this and don't care. BW do not wear weave to look good for BM.
Keep saying it's been true. Obviously you tell someone you don't like something and they continue to do..they don't care about your opinion on the matter. So, good sense would dictate to quit talking about it. Bm and their non bw laugh at bw and some bw clearly are laughing back at them..some bw even pity them but mostly no one cares about ir in that way anymore. Just do you and quit trying to have a voice amongst bw.

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Since: May 13

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#2176 Sep 4, 2013
Women are too prone to public/popular opinion and influence. They have always shown to be culturally, emotionally and behaviorally malleable and place too much stock in other people's thoughts and opinions. Social organisms that spend too little time to themselves, developing themselves and their own opinions on themselves and even the man in their life.

Too many times do they allow themselves to be influenced by public opinion and by what's going on around them in the immediate. So many women generalize, for lack of a wider, wiser view. They lump all men together, especially BM, to our collective detriment. Get off your soft asses and look around. Get up and actually talk to us, instead of sitting, scrunched up, ugly face, attitude and chip on your shoulder for making totally stupid mistakes, rash, emotion driven decisions that left you with baggage that few men can lift/manage.

I describe what I see to be the majority of women/BW in America. This decadent, materialistic, shallow and immoral society has brought about a carnal minded, simple brained, hollow hearted, mentally twisted peoples and it's obvious as to why both BM AND BW are complaining about each other and dispersing to non-blacks, as planned/socially engineered by our oppressors, who want to breed us out.
London

Columbus, OH

#2177 Sep 4, 2013
Beer Belly Bobs Ghost wrote:
<quoted text>If it dont look good to bm it certainly doesnt look good to non bm. Why should they want a woman with fake hair thats trying to look like their own womens natural hair.
Ultimately y'all just do it out of self hate.
And you date ww instead of biracial women out of self hate. So, who cares. Just mind your own business and quit internet diagnosing others.
Beer Belly Bobs Ghost

New York, NY

#2178 Sep 4, 2013
London wrote:
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The title of the thread includes bw. Why would a group of men, who are over the moon for the own non bw, care to post on such a thread or even look in to this forum to begin with?
And I don't care who bm date. I don't care about ir. "Bm" with biracial mothers aren't even my group of men to begin with so this is just more silliness from you.
Again; this thread is directed toward bm so why wouldnt we be here? Specifically toward IRBM so I am in my element.

You say you dont care who dates who and you are obviously not an IRBM so whats your excuse for being here?

Since: May 12

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#2179 Sep 4, 2013
Beer Belly Bobs Ghost wrote:
<quoted text>If it dont look good to bm it certainly doesnt look good to non bm. Why should they want a woman with fake hair thats trying to look like their own womens natural hair.
Ultimately y'all just do it out of self hate.
Gabe don't care ;)

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Since: May 13

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#2180 Sep 4, 2013
Capree wrote:
Corrections:
Personally I have always worn my natural hair except for sometimes if I was going to a special event but I have never had fake hair sewn or glued into my hair and I dislike wearin any fake things onmy body on a day to day basis, my nails aren't even fake. I don't judge sisters who do but I hate it when black women who wear weave, state in front of nonblacks that they bought their hair or that their hair is from Indians, Koreans heads etc.. All those black women are doing is inviting others to ridicule them for buying other people's hair to wear and promotng the phony stereotype that most black women are practically bald or hate their own hair. I am ashamed for these black women who let pre-judging nonblack women in on their personal hair habits because those same nonblack women aren't laughing with them but at these black women and thinking their own Caucasian hair is better. These black women should remember that the many white women who suffer from head lice, that you will never ever hear them state in front black women, what type of lice repellent they are using on their hair. Some things should be keep private from outsiders!
Hi! I think it was you who mentioned controlling BM who wish to dominate BW- I can't find the post. I've noticed this for quite a while, all different BM - through screaming at a particular woman every day for months who polite refuses their rejection although the BM's married, trying to frustrate a woman every day, staring down particular targets, trying to get in personal conversations under the rationale of being curious - dealt with it all even though I'm very reserved and keep to myself. Can you explain the controlling, dominating BM rationale?

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