A message to all IR BM.... from a bw

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Since: Jul 08

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#2121 Sep 4, 2013
Shalimarr wrote:
<quoted text>The guy isn't you. He is a light skinned soft haired man with green eyes. He is also creole. He can have his pick of many beautiful, feminine, long haired black and biracial AA and creole women.
Men like him have option among black women, that most black men would have to be millionaires to be able to access. The girl was not pretty, even the average Asian man would not claim she is a pretty representative of their race.
She is a very plain, child like asian girl, with eyes that don't focus straight. The vast majority of asian women in the world are much better looking than her. But without big money, even a light skinned green eyed black man has to get if he wants to date Asian.
I find it amazing how someone can sit on the 'net and declare what a perfect stranger could have had or what they did to get with who they are with. SMH

Since: May 12

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#2122 Sep 4, 2013
DerekJ wrote:
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I find it amazing how someone can sit on the 'net and declare what a perfect stranger could have had or what they did to get with who they are with. SMH
I have heard IRBM speak about the plus 2 factor. where for a BM who isn't rich to go IR, he must settle for a partner who is at least 2 points lower than him in looks.
It's true and it happens again and again.

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Since: Jul 08

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#2123 Sep 4, 2013
Shalimarr wrote:
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I have heard IRBM speak about the plus 2 factor. where for a BM who isn't rich to go IR, he must settle for a partner who is at least 2 points lower than him in looks.
It's true and it happens again and again.
Oh, so now there's a point system for people?? Explain to me what this is and who decided how the scale should be delineated? Topix seems to be where the most fcked up racial theories collect in one place to die. This is some serious deep jungle Indiana Jones shyt.

Since: May 12

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#2124 Sep 4, 2013
DerekJ wrote:
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Oh, so now there's a point system for people?? Explain to me what this is and who decided how the scale should be delineated? Topix seems to be where the most fcked up racial theories collect in one place to die. This is some serious deep jungle Indiana Jones shyt.
Yep, there is a points system. the vast majority of people date/marry people on their own level of looks. Unless large sums of money are involved people very rarely date someone who is nowhere near as good looking as them.
Take a look at photos of who sports stars dated before the became rich and famous, and compare them to the women they date AFTER fame and fortune.
IRBM openly admit, that they have to date down in looks when they go IR unless they have access to lots of money.
And ever since I heard that, I see how true it is.
It's not a big deal, it's just another symptom of a vulnerable group with low racial self esteem. A group where some people just desperately want to GET OUT... any way they can.

Since: May 12

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#2125 Sep 4, 2013
DerekJ wrote:
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Oh, so now there's a point system for people?? Explain to me what this is and who decided how the scale should be delineated? Topix seems to be where the most fcked up racial theories collect in one place to die. This is some serious deep jungle Indiana Jones shyt.
Don't be offended. You've worked hard and long to get to where you are now in life. You may choose to buy a nice house or buy a nice car or buy access to other races of women who would not usually be accessible to you.

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#2126 Sep 4, 2013
Shalimarr wrote:
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Yep, there is a points system. the vast majority of people date/marry people on their own level of looks. Unless large sums of money are involved people very rarely date someone who is nowhere near as good looking as them.
Take a look at photos of who sports stars dated before the became rich and famous, and compare them to the women they date AFTER fame and fortune.
IRBM openly admit, that they have to date down in looks when they go IR unless they have access to lots of money.
And ever since I heard that, I see how true it is.
It's not a big deal, it's just another symptom of a vulnerable group with low racial self esteem. A group where some people just desperately want to GET OUT... any way they can.
You mentioned points, which suggests some sort of objective criteria. I asked you to define the system. Instead, you gave me subjective observation. You can't mix the two.

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#2127 Sep 4, 2013
Shalimarr wrote:
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Don't be offended. You've worked hard and long to get to where you are now in life. You may choose to buy a nice house or buy a nice car or buy access to other races of women who would not usually be accessible to you.
LOL. Yes, I can buy pretty much what I want these days but even when I was a struggling student, I had no problem getting with women of any race. Why is that you say? It's because I am and always have been a quality guy who treats people fairly. That is far attractive to good women than any of the material things that women on Topix seem to want to focus upon.

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Since: May 13

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#2128 Sep 4, 2013
The Enemy Within wrote:
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So it's ok for her to make ad hominem responses, but when BM do it our point is negated?
How can you sit here and continue to uplift her after she repeatedly crossed offended your sisterhood, but you take exception to BM attacks?
Lastly, every man has had to deal with the reality of other men stepping out of line. Me expecting other men not to make violations ever, is like expecting a tiger to change his stripes.
We have to deal with it as it happens.
Do you understand what an ad hominem attack is? Research it. She offended your sisterhood; I don't act that way, so I don't worry. Also, I only respect her clarity and honesty for shedding light to this phenomenon and nothing more. I'm not choosing favorites or sides. I don't care about personal issues. I just wish to navigate life free from imposing and traumatizing individuals who both my friends if all races and I have time after time found to be overwhelmingly BM. Acknowledge that and tell your brethren to stop. That's it.

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Since: May 13

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#2129 Sep 4, 2013
Shalimarr wrote:
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Yep, there is a points system. the vast majority of people date/marry people on their own level of looks. Unless large sums of money are involved people very rarely date someone who is nowhere near as good looking as them.
Take a look at photos of who sports stars dated before the became rich and famous, and compare them to the women they date AFTER fame and fortune.
IRBM openly admit, that they have to date down in looks when they go IR unless they have access to lots of money.
And ever since I heard that, I see how true it is.
It's not a big deal, it's just another symptom of a vulnerable group with low racial self esteem. A group where some people just desperately want to GET OUT... any way they can.
Interesting. Given the experience of my friends of all races and myself, it seems like unhealthy and uneducated BM without jobs and/ or many kids still feel entitled to healthy,educated, healthy, professional women. Why is that?

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Since: May 13

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#2130 Sep 4, 2013
The Enemy Within wrote:
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Lady, at this point I don't give a damn who approaches you. I just wish someone would care enough to marry you and put an end to your pain and my misery, which is this dead horse you are beating.
I think you represent what's wrong with a lot of you; it's your logic, pride, perception and values that are skewed. You were NEVER supposed to "care" about my personal life of marriage and who approaches. You were only to take notice of a problem and find solutions before everyone avoids AAM.

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Since: May 13

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#2131 Sep 4, 2013
The Enemy Within wrote:
TimeforHonesty is aligning herself with a nutty white girl that directly and indirectly calls her filth.
London is obsessed with conformity as the end all be all to her peace of mind. Success she relates to how distant she can be to black culture. Never mind black culture can be Jazz, R&B, Theatre, >.> Religion for some, class of style, and afrocentricity. It does not have to be what most choose to accept as "black". But when you conform to others beliefs, "You adopt their definitions" of black.
Don't take my words out if context. I explain my thoughts in SG above. You are taking focus away from the issue of BM and disturbing interactions and focusing in SG's statements are not relevant to this phenomenon.

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Since: May 13

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#2132 Sep 4, 2013
Beer Belly Bobs Ghost wrote:
And to continue, here are Topix realities for bm that bw need to realize:
(6) No bm believes bw are moving on from them:
(7) No bm believes that he can only attract fat lonely rejected ww:
(8)(and pay attention ladies) No bm believes a weave is as attractive as natural hair on non bw and many bm dont think it's as attractive as a natural and maintained 'do on a bw:
(9) No bm will ever believe that having a baby is solely his fault:
And finally:
(10) No bm will ever...EVER believe that a bw would in her heart believe the stereotypes that whites put on bm because they themselves raised them. And to believe the hype is to acknowledge your own failures as mothers:
Now try and be a little more realistic ladies cos unless you're white trolls, your chit talkin only serves to show us bm how stank yo breaths are.
Exhibit #15: More evidence of BM delusions.
The Enemy Within

Columbia, MD

#2133 Sep 4, 2013
TimeforHonesty wrote:
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Do you understand what an ad hominem attack is? Research it. She offended your sisterhood; I don't act that way, so I don't worry. Also, I only respect her clarity and honesty for shedding light to this phenomenon and nothing more. I'm not choosing favorites or sides. I don't care about personal issues. I just wish to navigate life free from imposing and traumatizing individuals who both my friends if all races and I have time after time found to be overwhelmingly BM. Acknowledge that and tell your brethren to stop. That's it.
I'm not researching "it"... I was amused as to how commonly used the word is today compared to when I first used it. Back then it was great to use to throw people off. Now... not so much. YOU reserch it and while you are there look up other latin terms.

I'm not impressed.
You don't take sides? smh... there's no side to take. She's talking about "you". What do you mean you don't take sides. You are as crazy as she is. Appreciate her as much as you like. You sound like London who appreciates and conforms to white is right.

You were supposed to become a powerful mind after gaining educating. Not become a passive mind. Seems like a fragile mind like hers is your better.

...that's a damn shame woman.(<---and I'm not even trying to offend right there. smdh)
The Enemy Within

Columbia, MD

#2134 Sep 4, 2013
TimeforHonesty wrote:
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I think you represent what's wrong with a lot of you; it's your logic, pride, perception and values that are skewed. You were NEVER supposed to "care" about my personal life of marriage and who approaches. You were only to take notice of a problem and find solutions before everyone avoids AAM.
w/e

Not my problem. I have my own problems to deal with. Deal with yours.
Beer Belly Bobs Ghost

New York, NY

#2135 Sep 4, 2013
Shalimarr wrote:
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BW are moving on from BM, just not as fast as BM are moving on from them But the disconnect can't be denied. There is a lot of self hate among BM. Black women are finally realizing that many BM are just racist.
You sometimes see very handsome Black men who you know could pick and choose among BW, dating very plain looking non-BW. You know a BW of equivalent looks would not even be entertained by these guys. Black women are finally beginning to notice, that these men simply want to breed out their melanin and black women can't do it for them... even biracial women can't do it for them.
This video is mean't to be funny, but it oozes self hate. And this is from a person that many blacks wouldn't even consider to be living as a real Black man anyway.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v =UTUf4Swb4z4XX
Then move on already and stop hollerin at bm for whatever reason. The title of this thread is an example. Theres nothing new to be said and yrt all we see on topix concerning this issue is bw jumping onto threads about IRBM or creating them.

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Since: Jan 10

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#2136 Sep 4, 2013
Beer Belly Bobs Ghost wrote:
Some bald faced realities here on topix ready?
(1) No one believes Craprees fantasy marriage:
(2)No one cares about TBMR's pain:
(3)No one thinks African women are too good for Black American men.
(4) No one, and I mean NO ONE reads any of SBT's stupid long azz posts.
And thats for real.
:)
(1)The fact is you do know my marriage is real because you constantly mention my marriage and try to deny it in your mind. What I don't understand is why does it bother you so much?

(2)I can't comment on someone else's pain.

(3)Can comment on African women but I do know AA women are moving a head of AA men.

(4)I read some of SBT post and so do several people I have witnessed.
London

Columbus, OH

#2137 Sep 4, 2013
The Enemy Within wrote:
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How do you figure I must conform? If they must maintain power it's "because" someone is not conforming based on your argument. Why would I then make it so they need not maintain?
Nevermind that. I told you what power is. And it is not resources. Africa has resources. American whites don't monopolize the resources in this country. Access is to the resources we use is open to the general public. Not just whites.
"Independence" is about resources which can be tied into power.
Harold Lasswell once said "Politics is who gets what, when they get it and how". That includes use of your resources.
Political power is greatly affected by voting power. If whites lose voting power because minorities come together then the perception you have that I must conform to white is right "must" also change.
Why? Because it's only a perception. They don't have a monopoly on power. We "give" our power away by not sticking together. There really is nothing they could do to maintain power if minorities recognized what they already have.
Again... Your perception of power is skewed.
Actually your perception of power is off based and too narrowly focused. Power is the ability to cause or prevent an action, make things happen; the discretion to act or not act. Opposite of disability, it differs from a right in that it has no accompanying duties. If we examine power in terms of race, clearly we can see that whites have influence far outside of the U.S. They dominate the world and this power is rooted in control of the resources. You can't simply vote that type of power out of office because the power base they have achieved isn't rooted in political allegiances to begin with. Politics is simply one of the tools used in order to maintain the power.

And you are conforming...just the mere fact you are typing your views on this subject and other subjects equals conformance. We all must conform and should want to conform tbo. No one should go out searching to non conform....especially in a society which allows the freedom to leave.
London

Columbus, OH

#2138 Sep 4, 2013
Beer Belly Bobs Ghost wrote:
<quoted text>Then move on already and stop hollerin at bm for whatever reason. The title of this thread is an example. Theres nothing new to be said and yrt all we see on topix concerning this issue is bw jumping onto threads about IRBM or creating them.
Isn't your mother biracial? Why do you assume bw are referencing you when they speak of bm?

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Since: Jul 08

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#2139 Sep 4, 2013
TimeforHonesty wrote:
<quoted text>Interesting. Given the experience of my friends of all races and myself, it seems like unhealthy and uneducated BM without jobs and/ or many kids still feel entitled to healthy,educated, healthy, professional women. Why is that?
Well, I think both women and men of all races are entitled to shoot for the stars if they are so inclined. While some people may strike gold (for lack of a better term) from time to time but as the saying goes, water tends to find its own level. Meaning, people of similar socioeconomic and educational levels tend to gravitate toward each other.

If approached, just indicate you're not interested if that's the case. Why be offended just because someone wishes to make your acquaintance? I know it can be irritating if someone who isn't your cup of tea presumes to talk to you but it's easy enough to decline. Before I was married, I can't tell you how many times I got approached by big women. As my preference is for petite women, it would have been easy to become irritated (and to be honest, sometimes I did...but never outwardly) but a polite declination was all that was necessary. Treat others as you wish to be treated and you'll be much happier.
London

Columbus, OH

#2140 Sep 4, 2013
TimeforHonesty wrote:
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I think you represent what's wrong with a lot of you; it's your logic, pride, perception and values that are skewed. You were NEVER supposed to "care" about my personal life of marriage and who approaches. You were only to take notice of a problem and find solutions before everyone avoids AAM.
lol. Exactly. This is a problem on this forum. The inability to address the actual subject matter but rather jump to "personal" attacks, even that pit bull did it a few pages back.

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