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[Sadbuttrue]

T Michele wrote:

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Brilliant! You've said it all! I wish more blk women would wake up and realize this. You'd be surprised at how many middle-aged black women remain alone, because they're waiting on the right black man. I know a few personally, and they refuse to date "out".
Most women want to marry and make a family, and they want to make sure that their children will be well-provided for. From what I've seen, the likelihood of a black woman having that with the average black man is very small.
Uneducated, unsophisticated and "ghetto" black women may be fine with dating/marrying black men. They may not have an issue with his promiscuity and/or OOW children. I do. And I'm glad that you, and other educated blk women are standing firm on your standards. You/We deserve better.

Lets be honest, the Ghetto Brothers live off Sisters, make OOW babies and dont contribute to the household for whatever reason.

The married Sisters find AA men who abuse them verbally, cheat on them, disrespect them and they dont care. Ive heard them get dieases, have women to come their homes asking for their husbands, make babies in adulterous relationships, they are screwing younger woman....I dont want all of them hassles, life is short!

I have alot of attractive, educated friends who are waiting, they come across the sametypes of Brothers. AA men run to trophy woman but these women are saying "No way", if the chemistry is not there, they are not attracted to them, they are unattractive in most cases and unpolished so they go on 1-2 dates and its over.

This is way too much for as little as most AA men dole out.

Hell damn no! Brothers can kiss my A-S-S until Dawn of Day but Im not giving them any of my time on a personal level not with those high stats!

What is your solution? I hear even HS girls have alot of complaints and younger boys disrespect them too.

I guess like "Absentee Father like Absentee Son" they still follow their Daddy's irresponsible footsteps!

[concerned citizen]

Pretty Prison Nurse wrote:

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To answer your question, yes my boyfriend is a White Man. And yes, I have given brothers the time of day. The black men that I have met have been disrespectful, liars, cheaters...one even approached me at a Coffee Shop and asked if I wanted to be his "main lady". I was like WHAT!!! Is it ok to have multiple partners in life? Is it ok to make a sister feel like she is wrong for being educated or successful often calling her "Bousy"? I am sorry, but black men need to get it together before they attempt to talk trash about why AA women chose to date white Men. I have seen brothers EXCLUSIVELY dating white women since I was in Middle School, no one said a word. The moment a sister follows suit, then its an issue. Why not work within yourself to get up on that level where those top-notch divas feel you are bringing something to the table other than 3 babies with 3 different mammas....Nuff Said.

So you make the same mistakes all of these posters make. You don't want black men to lump all of you together, but you freely lump all black men together. There are many hoochie-mamas dancing in the videos. Up and dowm FL, I know that you see them every single day. These are the women, that most of the black men are running away from. Can you get their acts together.
Its like some woman pretend that 100% of all Black women graduated from Harvard, and has to go back to these poor lonely black men. Its not the case and you know it.
So good luck in you relationship, but your going to have to let the bitterness go. It will only doom your future marriage.

[Sadbuttrue]

Pretty Prison Nurse wrote:

I am a Professional Sister who currently is only dating "White" men. I love my black men as well, as my Father, Brothers and Nephews are black. But, as a Professional Sister, I had had enough. Black men try to bring you down because they feel intimidated by your education or your bank account. The white men that I have dated, have all adored the fact that I am an ambitious woman with a great personality. I mean look at Reggie Bush and Kim Kardashian. When folks mention this duo, most black men stand up and say "she aint white". Its like black men make an excuse to date everyone under ths sun, but US.
My boyfriend and I have talked several times about marriage, a family, finances...etc. Black men never want to discuss these things. They only want to sleep with us black sistas and WIFE the others.

I see the samethings you see.

As far as Kim Kardashian, I dont think she is white isnt she Middle Eastern? I think she is beautiful, clueless and has no talent!

She is smart enough to go buy a "Bootie, chest, false eyelashes and wear some makeup to enhance what she has to make a profit. It wont last long because Kim doesnt have any talent! They gave her a spot on the red carpet to judge clothes and jewerly, with 2 of the ET hosts, she looked like an uttered fool.

Let Reggie pay out the pocket for the bootie she brought. She ripped off Brady's Mother for 100k spending her money on clothes when she dated Brandy's Brother yet I didnt hear any brother call her a "Gold Digger"

When it all winds down, Kim will be "Cleaning and arranging closets in peoples homes like she was doing prior.

Your a smart women to move on and marry outside the race. Most women keep waiting coming across the same trifling behaviors in Black males.

I hope thinggs work out for you. Im also with a White male, Attorney and we are planning. I dont think AA men have any role models therefore they don't do these things on average. Me and a friend was talking yesterday about how White men find chemistry with a woman they marry her, AA men use these women.......just like Puff Daddy did to Kim Porter. Kim was also dumb enough to let Puffy play her for 10 years........until he got someone pregnant the sametime she had the twins!

How sad!

[rubear]

DobyTheDoggy wrote:

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Don't play stupid now loser! Generalizing and insulting Black men is enough! You nasty lying sellout! See ya! Looking at your picture, you're one sister that trust me; won't be missed!

lol and tha crazy thing about it is, sadbuttrue is actually an older white man looool! i was laughing at all of tha black women that was agreeing with that idiot! i still can't believe all of these so called black women who took this idiots side? SISTAS pay attention! and don't cry when i expose you're beloved white man, sadbuttrue also has an account on youtube, he goes by tha name Washanen07 here is he's profile http://www.youtube.com/user/Washanen07 he acts like he's a self hating black man on this account and he goes on vids were black men are praising BLACK WOMEN and leave he's stupid comments to break up black women and black men loving each other! look at he's comments on these vids and wake tha HELL up, you have been fooled http://www.youtube.com/watch... http://www.youtube.com/watch...

[Sadbuttrue]

concerned citizen wrote:

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You spent Thanksgiving
You spent Christ Eve
You spent Christ Day
You spent New Years Eve
You spent New Years Day - 12:01
On Topix. Hmmmmm let's add that up.
loser
loser
loser
loser
all adds up to a loser without a significant other. So let's stop the lying. Get off the computer and go get you somebody. Its not a good look.

Your still angry that no Sister wants you! Didnt that happen almost 17 years ago??? Your still holding onto something that long?

You were on Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter and most Holidays, nights and weekends.

You dont seem to spend anytime with your White wife. Stop being ashamed of her and only taking her to the local bar down the street! That is so wrong because you dont want to be seen.

You also dont want anybody to know your wife is White, you keep it on the DL. Everybody laughs about it. You bring more attention to yourself with your behaviors.

Stop the Double Standards, 50 year old you dont have alot of time, I suggest you make the best of it.

I spend more time with my man who I don't live with than you do your wife in your home!

You wastea lot of time "Bashing Black women" for dating/marrying White men when your married to a White woman yourself!

STFU!

[Pretty Prison Nurse]

Sadbuttrue wrote:

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I have alot of attractive, educated friends who are waiting, they come across the sametypes of Brothers. AA men run to trophy woman but these women are saying "No way", if the chemistry is not there, they are not attracted to them, they are unattractive in most cases and unpolished so they go on 1-2 dates and its over.
This is way too much for as little as most AA men dole out.
Hell damn no! Brothers can kiss my A-S-S until Dawn of Day but Im not giving them any of my time on a personal level not with those high stats!
What is your solution? I hear even HS girls have alot of complaints and younger boys disrespect them too.
I guess like "Absentee Father like Absentee Son" they still follow their Daddy's irresponsible footsteps!

I don't blame you. If I remained exclusive to black men, then I would be well into my 40's or 50's still trying to find that special someone to settle down with. On my first date with my White Boyfriend, he made it very clear to me he was looking for his WIFE. We attend church and many of his family events together. We are committed to eachother. Black men are so afraid of committing to us, for fear they will miss something.

[Sadbuttrue]

Pretty Prison Nurse wrote:

SADBUTTRUE, I am so with you gurl. And for that crazy 50 year old fart, I am a sexy, beautiful, educated, long haired, professional sister WITH A WHITE man who happens to be a Physician, with wedding plans in the future. So yes, sisters are tired of your sub-standard azzez.

He is old, not attractive, he is fairly decent guy but nothing I would be interested in he's a habitual liar.

He's bitter because he's unhappyly married to a White woman and the glamour worn off. He can't afford to leave, its cheaper to keep her. Plus its hard finding someone to clic or have chemistry these days.

The glamour of the White wife, worn off! He sees attractive Sisters like you and myself moving on right in front of his face! LMAO

I think its funny! He use to brag about Sisters not getting married and now he's bitter.

You know White men get the most attractive, edcuated Sisters....they dont take "Crumbs", they find someone on the same level and she's normally stunning!

Black men can't find that for themselves because they dont know how to treat women, their ghetto, have poor relational skills, defensive like (Doby & Concerned citizen") and most of them dont know how to treat women or know their place as men.

Sad but true!

Go tell him to take his old Wife down to the neighborhood bar for a drink, he's apparently too ashamed to put a picture on his desk or take her in public!

[Pretty Prison Nurse]

rubear wrote:

<quoted text> lol and tha crazy thing about it is, sadbuttrue is actually an older white man looool! i was laughing at all of tha black women that was agreeing with that idiot! i still can't believe all of these so called black women who took this idiots side? SISTAS pay attention! and don't cry when i expose you're beloved white man, sadbuttrue also has an account on youtube, he goes by tha name Washanen07 here is he's profile
http://www.youtube.com/user/Washanen07 he acts like he's a self hating black man on this account and he goes on vids were black men are praising BLACK WOMEN and leave he's stupid comments to break up black women and black men loving each other! look at he's comments on these vids and wake tha HELL up, you have been fooled http://www.youtube.com/watch... http://www.youtube.com/watch...

Why is it that when Brothers are called out, they have to make excuses. Why cant they just sit back and say...hummmmm...maybe we are as bad as they say we are. Stop blaming white men and black women for your short comings.

[Sadbuttrue]

Pretty Prison Nurse wrote:

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To answer your question, yes my boyfriend is a White Man. And yes, I have given brothers the time of day. The black men that I have met have been disrespectful, liars, cheaters...one even approached me at a Coffee Shop and asked if I wanted to be his "main lady". I was like WHAT!!! Is it ok to have multiple partners in life? Is it ok to make a sister feel like she is wrong for being educated or successful often calling her "Bousy"? I am sorry, but black men need to get it together before they attempt to talk trash about why AA women chose to date white Men. I have seen brothers EXCLUSIVELY dating white women since I was in Middle School, no one said a word. The moment a sister follows suit, then its an issue. Why not work within yourself to get up on that level where those top-notch divas feel you are bringing something to the table other than 3 babies with 3 different mammas....Nuff Said.

Go Gurl!!!!!! You telling the truth!!!!! Preach....it!!!!!!

Im not dropping my standards either, those days are over!

Kudos to you for expecting the best in life! We know its not all Brothers but its most of them. We dont have to settle for Mr. Black man's "Crumby behaviors"!

Kudos to you!!!!

[Sadbuttrue]

concerned citizen wrote:

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So you make the same mistakes all of these posters make. You don't want black men to lump all of you together, but you freely lump all black men together. There are many hoochie-mamas dancing in the videos. Up and dowm FL, I know that you see them every single day. These are the women, that most of the black men are running away from. Can you get their acts together.
Its like some woman pretend that 100% of all Black women graduated from Harvard, and has to go back to these poor lonely black men. Its not the case and you know it.
So good luck in you relationship, but your going to have to let the bitterness go. It will only doom your future marriage.

Only 17% of Black males gradeuate from a 4 year college! There are more Black males in prison than college!

1.6M Brothers incarcerated and AA's only make up 10-12% of the population in the US.

Sisters are running for educations even sisters with babies the rates have quadtripled.

There is an inbalance and those sisters are also not accepting Blue collared Black men who are uneducated because thats a whole set of problems including spoual abuse due to low self esteems and lack of education shows up in the marriage resulting in abuse.

[stereo type breaker]

T Michele wrote:

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Liars??? What have I said that is false?

Alot, you are young so you havent' seen shyt in the real world

[concerned citizen]

Sadbuttrue wrote:

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Your still angry that no Sister wants you! Didnt that happen almost 17 years ago??? Your still holding onto something that long?
You were on Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter and most Holidays, nights and weekends.
You dont seem to spend anytime with your White wife. Stop being ashamed of her and only taking her to the local bar down the street! That is so wrong because you dont want to be seen.
You also dont want anybody to know your wife is White, you keep it on the DL. Everybody laughs about it. You bring more attention to yourself with your behaviors.
Stop the Double Standards, 50 year old you dont have alot of time, I suggest you make the best of it.
I spend more time with my man who I don't live with than you do your wife in your home!
You wastea lot of time "Bashing Black women" for dating/marrying White men when your married to a White woman yourself!
STFU!

"STFU" Hahahaha. I must be hitting close to the mark.
I forgot to put Valentines Day too. Of course that should have be expected.

Lonely, Bitter, and ugly. 3Xs a loser.

[Sadbuttrue]

Pretty Prison Nurse wrote:

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I don't blame you. If I remained exclusive to black men, then I would be well into my 40's or 50's still trying to find that special someone to settle down with. On my first date with my White Boyfriend, he made it very clear to me he was looking for his WIFE. We attend church and many of his family events together. We are committed to eachother. Black men are so afraid of committing to us, for fear they will miss something.

Im going to encourage you if you love him and he loves you, plan a future. Most AA men dont have the "relational skills" and all you do is wait.

I tried to find someone decent and "No luck", I came across the samethings you did.

Even if things didnt work out, I would still cross the color line and date outside my race based on AA mens behaviors.

Im in my late 40's now. I was married and got a divorce and hoped to find a decent AA guy but most were habitual lies, hidging, hedging, playing games, using women.......so I decided to give up.

Im still a very attractive woman. Most AA men look get angry because they know I date White males, but the bottom line is Im still a woman who wants to be loved and treated with respect.

I found that most AA men couldnt' and wouldnt offer me any respect.

I wish you the best.

[rubear]

Pretty Prison Nurse wrote:

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Why is it that when Brothers are called out, they have to make excuses. Why cant they just sit back and say...hummmmm...maybe we are as bad as they say we are. Stop blaming white men and black women for your short comings.

no evidence to refute my claims right? THOUGHT SO, ignore tha truth and stay in you're la la world (:

[Sadbuttrue]

rubear wrote:

<quoted text> lol and tha crazy thing about it is, sadbuttrue is actually an older white man looool! i was laughing at all of tha black women that was agreeing with that idiot! i still can't believe all of these so called black women who took this idiots side? SISTAS pay attention! and don't cry when i expose you're beloved white man, sadbuttrue also has an account on youtube, he goes by tha name Washanen07 here is he's profile http://www.youtube.com/user/Washanen07 he acts like he's a self hating black man on this account and he goes on vids were black men are praising BLACK WOMEN and leave he's stupid comments to break up black women and black men loving each other! look at he's comments on these vids and wake tha HELL up, you have been fooled http://www.youtube.com/watch... http://www.youtube.com/watch...

Grow up and Man up! If you dont measure up, thats not my problem!

Too bad! Your daddy should have taught you instead of him running the streets wasting time chasing ASS!

[Pretty Prison Nurse]

Sadbuttrue wrote:

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The glamour of the White wife, worn off! He sees attractive Sisters like you and myself moving on right in front of his face! LMAO
I think its funny! He use to brag about Sisters not getting married and now he's bitter.
You know White men get the most attractive, edcuated Sisters....they dont take "Crumbs", they find someone on the same level and she's normally stunning!
!

Girl, I remember when I was younger, there was this man who married a White woman. He moved out to a beautiful neighborhood and had a good life. He would return to the neighborhood where he was raised to show off, and "pick up" the lonely single women who wanted him. I overheard a convo between himself and my father and he said "Yeah these chicken heads are like crabs in a bucket...fighting to be with me when my real prize is at home". It was then that I said I would never wait for a black man in my life. He WIFEs the white girl and only Sex the black ones, as if he was a superstar or a Physician making his rounds. It was disgusting.

When Brothers see my Boyfriend and I, they all say "oh he cant handle you like I can" I always want to say....yes he can and better, but I am a lady and I hold my piece. Brothers should not be upset with us.

But I recently met Stone Phillips from NBC, and he is married to a Sister. A reporter (A brother...dumb ass) asked what was the best thing about his wife...he replied "She's strong and I never have to worry that if something happens to me, then she can handle it like a champ, she's my hero." That was the sweetest thing I have ever heard.

[Sadbuttrue]

stereo type breaker wrote:

<quoted text>Alot, you are young so you havent' seen shyt in the real world

She's a smart girl! She sees perfectly fine! She is also smart enought to make sure it doesnt happen to her!

[Sadbuttrue]

concerned citizen wrote:

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"STFU" Hahahaha. I must be hitting close to the mark.
I forgot to put Valentines Day too. Of course that should have be expected.
Lonely, Bitter, and ugly. 3Xs a loser.

Your the lonely loser, your with someone you dont want and "Too cowardly to leave"!

The White woman's glamour worn thin..........I guess!

Its "Cheaper to keep her Brother"! LMAO

****Your online bytching about AA women moving on to WM than you actually spend quality time with your White wife*****

Is that crazy or what????? You hate sisters so much and now your bitter because they have move on to WM???

Thats a "Royal Smack in your Face" ........your ego hurts!

Too friggen bad loser!
Ps. Your still ashamed of your white wife!

[Pretty Prison Nurse]

Sadbuttrue,
I dated a Garbage Man...a Brother. He treated me very well and was very good to me. But he could not get past the fact that I made more money than him, drove the bigger car and enjoyed Sea side vacations. When we opened our business together, his status was elevated. He purchased an Escalade(that was the coolest thing back then) and girls started flocking around him. Do you know that he got 2 girls pregnant at the same time all while my name was on this business, and our home and we were together!!! 2 hootchie Mama's. And these fools would fight out in public when he was clearly with me.

So I say to all us black women, who were taught to do what we can to support our husbands and significant others....no longer!!! You gotta bring something to the table with me other than bad credt, uneducated, babies by the hood rats, influential(lack thereof) homeboys who think they know whats best for you and your man.

[concerned citizen]

Pretty Prison Nurse wrote:

Sadbuttrue,
I dated a Garbage Man...a Brother. He treated me very well and was very good to me. But he could not get past the fact that I made more money than him, drove the bigger car and enjoyed Sea side vacations. When we opened our business together, his status was elevated. He purchased an Escalade(that was the coolest thing back then) and girls started flocking around him. Do you know that he got 2 girls pregnant at the same time all while my name was on this business, and our home and we were together!!! 2 hootchie Mama's. And these fools would fight out in public when he was clearly with me.
So I say to all us black women, who were taught to do what we can to support our husbands and significant others....no longer!!! You gotta bring something to the table with me other than bad credt, uneducated, babies by the hood rats, influential(lack thereof) homeboys who think they know whats best for you and your man.

Your lying.