Black women, we need to start dating out

Since: Jul 07

Mayo, FL

#319 Sep 9, 2007
Knoxxie wrote:
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Well, I'm single. And, I've met my fair share of black men that I consider "no good." Yet, I don't bash all BLACK MEN based on my bad experiences.
Honestly, most black women that I know, do not get involved with the decent brothas who come their way. Most black women that I know ALWAYS choose the brotha who isn't any good. Why? Only God knows? Most black women that I know do not dwell in reality. They want some drop-dead man, with a body-to-die for, who's rich, who has a degree, etc, etc...These women do not dwell in reality...They want an image, not a real person...
Now, I guess my comments could go toward women of other races also, but the majority of my friends are black...
Why shouldn't a black woman want a man that has what she has? Why shouldn't a black woman want a man that matches her potential? No woman in the world intentionally goes out and looks for a something lower than her. But it's not okay for a black woman to have standards?

Level 1

Since: Apr 07

Austin

#320 Sep 9, 2007
mark wrote:
dihixx wrote:actually both parents are important. my dad doesn't do anything for besides provide me a home and some lunch money.
my mom takes me shopping, takes care of me when im sick, helps me with my homework and projects, does my hair, goes over with me some SAT words, teaches me life lessons, drives me places when i don't feel like driving, helps me with Portuguese, and loves me to death.
if a black man dates a white women, thats his decision, not his mother fault. besides if it was the mother fault, then the mass majority of young black men would be dating or married to a white women. i mean, 77% of black kids grew up without a father.
don't change my words. i didn't say that mother's weren't important i said that father's are the more improtant parent. with your little numbers you didn't prove me wrong. I said most black men that date white women are rasied by single mother which is true. you didn't prove me wrong:therefore your numbers were meanless a waste of time. and how many of that 77% of those black kids are grewing without father are going to prison, and how many of that 23% of black males are going to prison.It sounds like you have weark father. What makes a man a good leader is his mental strength , which your dad sounds like he has none. The probrem with you talking to me is that you are a girl with little girl reason. up grew before you try and to talk to and adult. no wonder you probably date outside your race.
i wasn't changing your numbers, but you said that most men that date outside their race, were raised without a father. only a few black men date or marry white women.
the father is not the most important parent. each parent has their own roles. the mom is suppose to be the caring loving and supporting parent, and the father is the one who enforces rules and teaches discipline.
my father my not be able to make a slam dunk or do more then 10 push ups, but he is the GREATEST FATHER ever!! he is able to manage a family, while working many hours everyday as a reconstructive surgeon, take care of his brothers and sisters in China and attending school to get his ph.d.
don't you ever PHUCKING talk about my father AGAIN. you don't even know him. i didn't say anything about your momma.

you're right i do date outside my race because most black men are worthless unless they are educated and have money, but unfortunately for black women, most black American men aren't. my boyfriend is half white and black, and i thank his parents for not exposing him to other black American men.
MDJ

Since: Apr 07

Location hidden

#321 Sep 9, 2007
Ashland on the 14th wrote:
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Shar Jackson took him back after Britney divorced his a55! Hahahzahhaah! Your argumanet is weak! He wasn't even helping Shar take care of the children that they had together! He even left her dumb a55 when she was still pregnant! Some of you are kinda off!
Ashlannnnnnnnnnd!!!!!!!!!! Hello? I left a comment for you in the "Last Woopin Thread". I wanted to hear your story of your last or worst woopin if you had any. But the Thread, is probably, buried now.

“I AM WHO I AM”

Level 2

Since: Apr 07

Knoxville, Tennessee

#323 Sep 9, 2007
Luvbyrd wrote:
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Why shouldn't a black woman want a man that has what she has? Why shouldn't a black woman want a man that matches her potential? No woman in the world intentionally goes out and looks for a something lower than her. But it's not okay for a black woman to have standards?
STANDARDS? What STANDARDS? That's part of the problem, the women that I know do not have any STANDARDS...

I have a girlfriend who is dumping her boyfriend because he doesn't have a degree, and he refuses to try and get one. She didn't have a degree when she got involved with him, but during the course of their relationship she got her bachelors degree. Now, she wants an EDUCATED man. Mind you, her man is making close to $60,000.00 and has a
d-a-r-n good job. Yet, because this brotha refuses to get a degree, she is dumping him. Now, what kind of c-r-a-p is that? Also, let me point out that he helped pay her way through college.

STANDARDS???

“I AM WHO I AM”

Level 2

Since: Apr 07

Knoxville, Tennessee

#324 Sep 9, 2007
Master chief wrote:
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I am not talking about wealthy Black women or myself. I want to know why lower middle class Black women think they are better than middle class Black men. I can never get the question answered.
Actually, that's a very good question. However, I can't answer it because I'm not one of those middle-class black women who think she's better than middle-class black men.

Hopefully, one of the other sista's in here can answer that for you...Because this forum has several sistas who think they're better than middle-class black men...

Since: Jul 07

Mayo, FL

#325 Sep 9, 2007
Knoxxie wrote:
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STANDARDS? What STANDARDS? That's part of the problem, the women that I know do not have any STANDARDS...
I have a girlfriend who is dumping her boyfriend because he doesn't have a degree, and he refuses to try and get one. She didn't have a degree when she got involved with him, but during the course of their relationship she got her bachelors degree. Now, she wants an EDUCATED man. Mind you, her man is making close to $60,000.00 and has a
d-a-r-n good job. Yet, because this brotha refuses to get a degree, she is dumping him. Now, what kind of c-r-a-p is that? Also, let me point out that he helped pay her way through college.
STANDARDS???
We can't look at the world on a case by case basis. Most women, all most all women, wouldn't mind a man earning 60,000.00 a year.
mark

Lincoln, NE

#326 Sep 9, 2007
djhixx wrote:i wasn't changing your numbers, but you said that most men that date outside their race, were raised without a father. only a few black men date or marry white women.
the father is not the most important parent. each parent has their own roles. the mom is suppose to be the caring loving and supporting parent, and the father is the one who enforces rules and teaches discipline.
my father my not be able to make a slam dunk or do more then 10 push ups, but he is the GREATEST FATHER ever!! he is able to manage a family, while working many hours everyday as a reconstructive surgeon, take care of his brothers and sisters in China and attending school to get his ph.d.
don't you ever PHUCKING talk about my father AGAIN. you don't even know him. i didn't say anything about your momma.

you're right i do date outside my race because most black men are worthless unless they are educated and have money, but unfortunately for black women, most black American men aren't. my boyfriend is half white and black, and i thank his parents for not exposing him to other black American men.

i feel sorry for you sister you have little understanding about the world. or why things are like they are-you go by what you see. God made different races and to have kids by another race is self hatred, fighting against God, and genocide. But, it says more about you. it tells us that you hate youself because you don't want to have a child that looks like you. someone to look at and say that is me, or a child to look at herselfor himself and say I see my mother. If you give up and black men you give up on yorself.

Level 1

Since: Apr 07

United States

#327 Sep 9, 2007
Knoxxie wrote:
"Some" women are completely hung-up on an image. Instead, they need to accept and respect the man who crosses their path. And, that's why "some" women will remain single FOREVER.
Just my belief...
LMAO!

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Level 2

Since: Apr 07

Knoxville, Tennessee

#328 Sep 9, 2007
Luvbyrd wrote:
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We can't look at the world on a case by case basis. Most women, all most all women, wouldn't mind a man earning 60,000.00 a year.
No. I have to disagree with you. I have another friend who is an air traffic controller and lives in Houston. She's educated and makes over $100,000 a year, and she refuses to date a man who isn't educated and makes less than she does.

Like I said before, the black women that I know are hung-up on an image. They want an image, not a real person...

There's a difference between STANDARDS and an IMAGE...

“I AM WHO I AM”

Level 2

Since: Apr 07

Knoxville, Tennessee

#329 Sep 9, 2007
mark wrote:
djhixx wrote:i wasn't changing your numbers, but you said that most men that date outside their race, were raised without a father. only a few black men date or marry white women.
the father is not the most important parent. each parent has their own roles. the mom is suppose to be the caring loving and supporting parent, and the father is the one who enforces rules and teaches discipline.
my father my not be able to make a slam dunk or do more then 10 push ups, but he is the GREATEST FATHER ever!! he is able to manage a family, while working many hours everyday as a reconstructive surgeon, take care of his brothers and sisters in China and attending school to get his ph.d.
don't you ever PHUCKING talk about my father AGAIN. you don't even know him. i didn't say anything about your momma.
you're right i do date outside my race because most black men are worthless unless they are educated and have money, but unfortunately for black women, most black American men aren't. my boyfriend is half white and black, and i thank his parents for not exposing him to other black American men.
i feel sorry for you sister you have little understanding about the world. or why things are like they are-you go by what you see. God made different races and to have kids by another race is self hatred, fighting against God, and genocide. But, it says more about you. it tells us that you hate youself because you don't want to have a child that looks like you. someone to look at and say that is me, or a child to look at herselfor himself and say I see my mother. If you give up and black men you give up on yorself.
You realize that this person is only "16" right???

“relaxation”

Since: Sep 07

newport

#330 Sep 9, 2007
I am quite amused by your comments about race. Black and white. I myself only see people. Good and bad. The sooner we shake off the shackles of race, the world will be a much better place.

Level 1

Since: Apr 07

Austin

#331 Sep 9, 2007
mark wrote:
djhixx wrote:i wasn't changing your numbers, but you said that most men that date outside their race, were raised without a father. only a few black men date or marry white women.
the father is not the most important parent. each parent has their own roles. the mom is suppose to be the caring loving and supporting parent, and the father is the one who enforces rules and teaches discipline.
my father my not be able to make a slam dunk or do more then 10 push ups, but he is the GREATEST FATHER ever!! he is able to manage a family, while working many hours everyday as a reconstructive surgeon, take care of his brothers and sisters in China and attending school to get his ph.d.
don't you ever PHUCKING talk about my father AGAIN. you don't even know him. i didn't say anything about your momma.
you're right i do date outside my race because most black men are worthless unless they are educated and have money, but unfortunately for black women, most black American men aren't. my boyfriend is half white and black, and i thank his parents for not exposing him to other black American men.
i feel sorry for you sister you have little understanding about the world. or why things are like they are-you go by what you see. God made different races and to have kids by another race is self hatred, fighting against God, and genocide. But, it says more about you. it tells us that you hate youself because you don't want to have a child that looks like you. someone to look at and say that is me, or a child to look at herselfor himself and say I see my mother. If you give up and black men you give up on yorself.
its all about Evolution, not genocide. we are only evolving as humans. we started off as organism, apes, black, many other races, racism, mixing of race until the whole world is brown.

its not that i hate myself, i just don't like black men. not all, but most.
i do want my child to look like me, hazel eyes, long curly hair, my eyes and nice light brown skin.
it should be about love, not about respecting ones race. every other race is doing it, why do blacks have to be last at everything!!
why don't you be like other black men these days, and go date a white gal.

Level 1

Since: Apr 07

Austin

#332 Sep 9, 2007
Knoxxie wrote:
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No. I have to disagree with you. I have another friend who is an air traffic controller and lives in Houston. She's educated and makes over $100,000 a year, and she refuses to date a man who isn't educated and makes less than she does.
Like I said before, the black women that I know are hung-up on an image. They want an image, not a real person...
There's a difference between STANDARDS and an IMAGE...
a woman, as an air traffic controller? interesting.

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Level 2

Since: Apr 07

Knoxville, Tennessee

#333 Sep 9, 2007
djhixx wrote:
<quoted text>a woman, as an air traffic controller? interesting.
Yup. She's an air traffic controller. Welcome to the 21st Century. LOL!!! Nowadays, women can hold down the same job as a man...

Since: Jul 07

Mayo, FL

#334 Sep 9, 2007
Knoxxie wrote:
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No. I have to disagree with you. I have another friend who is an air traffic controller and lives in Houston. She's educated and makes over $100,000 a year, and she refuses to date a man who isn't educated and makes less than she does.
Like I said before, the black women that I know are hung-up on an image. They want an image, not a real person...
There's a difference between STANDARDS and an IMAGE...
Im almost convinced that you are not who you claim to be. If you are not one of those women, then how is it that you have so many friends like this? I personally don't know any women that feel that way, so does that discredit everything you believe?

Since: Jul 07

Mayo, FL

#335 Sep 9, 2007
kazantzakis wrote:
I am quite amused by your comments about race. Black and white. I myself only see people. Good and bad. The sooner we shake off the shackles of race, the world will be a much better place.
When it comes to black people, the issue is bigger than you. I don't expect that you will have a full understanding.
mark

Lincoln, NE

#336 Sep 9, 2007
Knoxxie wrote:
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No. I have to disagree with you. I have another friend who is an air traffic controller and lives in Houston. She's educated and makes over $100,000 a year, and she refuses to date a man who isn't educated and makes less than she does.
Like I said before, the black women that I know are hung-up on an image. They want an image, not a real person...
There's a difference between STANDARDS and an IMAGE...

your friend is blinded by the world, why would a black man that is educated and make over a 100,000 date a woman to be so fake to only date a man like that. Life is about happiest and God, because when we die the only thing that we take with us is our ractions. He would be smart to find a young Black women from another country that still knows how to be a woman.
mark

Lincoln, NE

#337 Sep 9, 2007
kazantzakis: wrote I am quite amused by your comments about race. Black and white. I myself only see people. Good and bad. The sooner we shake off the shackles of race, the world will be a much better place.

you thing you are going to get some black tail-ain't no black women in here want your old ass, lol.

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Level 2

Since: Apr 07

Knoxville, Tennessee

#338 Sep 9, 2007
Luvbyrd wrote:
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Im almost convinced that you are not who you claim to be. If you are not one of those women, then how is it that you have so many friends like this? I personally don't know any women that feel that way, so does that discredit everything you believe?
Who I claim to be. YOU DON'T KNOW ME...First of all you don't know me on a personal-level. I'm 41-years-old, college-educated, and a writer. I'm a veteran, I was in the Air Force Reserves for 12 years. And, just in case you aren't familiar with the military reserves, most people who enlist take advantage of the GI Montgomery Bill.(for college)

Second, you're a stranger in cyberspace. I could care less what you think. I don't have a damn thing to prove to you...

Third, I know for a fact that the comments that I post make a lot of sense. I'm far from stupid. Whether you believe my words or not is your business...

Level 1

Since: Jul 07

AOL

#339 Sep 9, 2007
mark wrote:
Knoxxie wrote:
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No. I have to disagree with you. I have another friend who is an air traffic controller and lives in Houston. She's educated and makes over $100,000 a year, and she refuses to date a man who isn't educated and makes less than she does.
Like I said before, the black women that I know are hung-up on an image. They want an image, not a real person...
There's a difference between STANDARDS and an IMAGE...
your friend is blinded by the world, why would a black man that is educated and make over a 100,000 date a woman to be so fake to only date a man like that. Life is about happiest and God, because when we die the only thing that we take with us is our ractions. He would be smart to find a young Black women from another country that still knows how to be a woman.
Still knows how to be a woman? Exactly does that mean?

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