BW need to STFU complaining about BM & venture off!

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twistedbabydoll

United States

#1 May 6, 2010
Sistahs!

Why do we act like African-American men are the only Black men in the world. There are luscious, strong, mighty, and intelligent black men in the Caribbean, Canada, South America, AFRICA, Europe, hell even in Australia. And why can't more of us just open our hearts to men of other ethnicities? Love is COLORBLIND.

Stop acting like the only Black men available for us is African-American. And build up your self-esteem and self-worth and get right with God!

“esa hembra es mala”

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Since: Sep 09

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#2 May 6, 2010
Interesting.....

Level 4

Since: Sep 09

Oured,Osea

#3 May 6, 2010
Amen! That's a more logical decision for us blacks rather than date outside our race. We can learn alot from each other's culture. Same race, different cultural experience.;):)
man o man

Canal Winchester, OH

#4 May 6, 2010
sounds easy but its harder to perform but I give it an A+ nice post!
twistedbabydoll

United States

#5 May 6, 2010
man o man wrote:
sounds easy but its harder to perform but I give it an A+ nice post!
How is it harder to perform? It is easier for us to put our minds to it than choose to be a victim. I used to choose to be the victim, now I can't take it anymore. I have a hard time attracting an AA man who is in my age bracket (I am 24) because I am not considered the "typical" black woman. I'm very artistic, eccentric, and eclectic. I don't look like nor act like the Black women on BET, or in the hood, or in the rap videos. I don't have a big butt. I ain't into hip-hop fashion labels. I'm not some sellout Black valley girl or a diva-type chickenhead who is high-maintenance. I ain't a gold digger. I'm educated, artsy and attractive yet Black guys in my age bracket, most of them think I act too weird or too white. If my husband end up being AA, then will probably be twenty years older than me and that's okay. It's just sad that our generation is f*cked up. Just like a lot of AA women want thugs, ballers, or Trey Songz-types, AA men go for stereotypical types as well. But I always attract white American, African, European or Asian men. My brother went through the same thing. AA women thought he was too preppy and too nice just because he wasn't clad in baggy clothes or hellbent on rap culture and being hard--they didn't care that he have a Masters, has his own car and place, is intelligent and respectful to women. That's why his fiance is Jamaican.
BlackAmericanPri ncess

Naperville, IL

#7 May 6, 2010
twistedbabydoll wrote:
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How is it harder to perform? It is easier for us to put our minds to it than choose to be a victim. I used to choose to be the victim, now I can't take it anymore. I have a hard time attracting an AA man who is in my age bracket (I am 24) because I am not considered the "typical" black woman. I'm very artistic, eccentric, and eclectic. I don't look like nor act like the Black women on BET, or in the hood, or in the rap videos. I don't have a big butt. I ain't into hip-hop fashion labels. I'm not some sellout Black valley girl or a diva-type chickenhead who is high-maintenance. I ain't a gold digger. I'm educated, artsy and attractive yet Black guys in my age bracket, most of them think I act too weird or too white. If my husband end up being AA, then will probably be twenty years older than me and that's okay. It's just sad that our generation is f*cked up. Just like a lot of AA women want thugs, ballers, or Trey Songz-types, AA men go for stereotypical types as well. But I always attract white American, African, European or Asian men. My brother went through the same thing. AA women thought he was too preppy and too nice just because he wasn't clad in baggy clothes or hellbent on rap culture and being hard--they didn't care that he have a Masters, has his own car and place, is intelligent and respectful to women. That's why his fiance is Jamaican.
I'm sort of like you. I'm more on the intellectual side, creative, artsy, BUT I'm also valley girl at times(I grew up in that type of environment) and I'm pretty high maintenance but I'm not a gold digger. I do have a big butt, and I've been told I look like a video girl. But I act white. And I dress very conservative so I cancel everything out.
Anyway, LOL(I guess I'm combo of everything in a way). I'm a drifter--I have no real direction, just kind of take life as it comes. For some reason that does seem to bother a lot of american BM, that and the fact that I do talk white, that I'm not straight and arrow and so on.
I personally think people should just date whoever floats their boats. I'm sorry about your brother and your experience with BM. I've found that a lot of BM I've run into like the fact that I act preppy.
But I'm in Chicago and it's a pretty wide network of people here.
Maybe black people having issues attracting the people they want, should also look into moving into more diverse areas. Because I used to live in Ohio and that was just not the best dating place for a BW who is very open-minded.
man o man

Canal Winchester, OH

#6 May 6, 2010
just watch this and find out why you need to learn more you just talking right now

twistedbabydoll

United States

#8 May 6, 2010
BlackAmericanPrincess wrote:
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I'm sort of like you. I'm more on the intellectual side, creative, artsy, BUT I'm also valley girl at times(I grew up in that type of environment) and I'm pretty high maintenance but I'm not a gold digger. I do have a big butt, and I've been told I look like a video girl. But I act white. And I dress very conservative so I cancel everything out.
Anyway, LOL(I guess I'm combo of everything in a way). I'm a drifter--I have no real direction, just kind of take life as it comes. For some reason that does seem to bother a lot of american BM, that and the fact that I do talk white, that I'm not straight and arrow and so on.
I personally think people should just date whoever floats their boats. I'm sorry about your brother and your experience with BM. I've found that a lot of BM I've run into like the fact that I act preppy.
But I'm in Chicago and it's a pretty wide network of people here.
Maybe black people having issues attracting the people they want, should also look into moving into more diverse areas. Because I used to live in Ohio and that was just not the best dating place for a BW who is very open-minded.
Well, I live in Detroit, so it speaks volumes! LOL! Black men here in Detroit...Jesus weeps for them. I used to be called Valley Girl in high school >:( but sometimes I'm still called that today by sheltered Black folks because I enunciate like a human being. The only AA men who were attracted to my demeanor were those who acted just like me or were the shy, dorky types because they felt more comfortable. But still they even turned out to not be my types but for other reasons not race related. But the bulk of Black men I attracted are old granddaddies! Ugh! LOL!

But I will be moving out of Detroit shortly, thank God. I know I'm a great catch, and I will find a man that I can tolerate and not run from.

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Since: Aug 09

United States

#9 May 6, 2010
The only men I date are africans, I don't give american black men the time of day anymore. Africans work hard and still actually like black women.
twistedbabydoll

United States

#10 May 6, 2010
man o man wrote:
just watch this and find out why you need to learn more you just talking right now
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v =xq-8j_3Ag6sXX
I ain't going to listen to that crazy n***a who look like he is off of his anti-psychotic medication. He is too anger and too blasphemous and too anti-Christian for me to even bother taking a punctuation of advice from.
man o man

Canal Winchester, OH

#11 May 6, 2010
Noir in Seattle wrote:
The only men I date are africans, I don't give american black men the time of day anymore. Africans work hard and still actually like black women.
and that's why they get money and marry a white women
twistedbabydoll

United States

#12 May 6, 2010
Noir in Seattle wrote:
The only men I date are africans, I don't give american black men the time of day anymore. Africans work hard and still actually like black women.
African men have went crazy over how African and full my features are. If you are a Barbie collector, I have facial features like the So In Style Black Barbie dolls; they have a Mbili face mold. My nose is a little wider and my eyes are a bit larger but I look like them (sorry for sounding vain, lol!) All AA men focused on how light my skin was and how big my boobs were. Yet African men are the only ones who didn't care about my skin tone and complimented me on my Black features. It is sad. Why is our generation so brainwashed? Our ancestors and Black forefathers/foremothers are turning in their graves!
Frank

Costa Mesa, CA

#13 May 6, 2010
Sorry sistah, I only lubs dah white wiminz.
Queen

AOL

#14 May 7, 2010
BlackAmericanPrincess wrote:
<quoted text>
I'm sort of like you. I'm more on the intellectual side, creative, artsy, BUT I'm also valley girl at times(I grew up in that type of environment) and I'm pretty high maintenance but I'm not a gold digger. I do have a big butt, and I've been told I look like a video girl. But I act white. And I dress very conservative so I cancel everything out.
Anyway, LOL(I guess I'm combo of everything in a way). I'm a drifter--I have no real direction, just kind of take life as it comes. For some reason that does seem to bother a lot of american BM, that and the fact that I do talk white, that I'm not straight and arrow and so on.
I personally think people should just date whoever floats their boats. I'm sorry about your brother and your experience with BM. I've found that a lot of BM I've run into like the fact that I act preppy.
But I'm in Chicago and it's a pretty wide network of people here.
Maybe black people having issues attracting the people they want, should also look into moving into more diverse areas. Because I used to live in Ohio and that was just not the best dating place for a BW who is very open-minded.
Video model with big azz....DAYUMMMMY!
Moses-1

United States

#15 May 7, 2010
twistedbabydoll wrote:
Sistahs!
Why do we act like African-American men are the only Black men in the world. There are luscious, strong, mighty, and intelligent black men in the Caribbean, Canada, South America, AFRICA, Europe, hell even in Australia. And why can't more of us just open our hearts to men of other ethnicities? Love is COLORBLIND.
Stop acting like the only Black men available for us is African-American. And build up your self-esteem and self-worth and get right with God!
You got my vote. The world is waiting and there are all kind of new experiences for black women. Please don't get out there and forget where you came from. Send us a message telling us how much you love hot dry climates, wild animals invading your villages and walking off with your babies. If any of you get down under, let me know about running down a kangaroo, dressing that kangaroo and tell me if it taste like chicken.

Oh yeah. When you get to south america, sister watch out because, those women are very hot blooded. There is a shortage of south american men as it is and they don't take to kindly to American women intruding upon their territory. You might think you're eating chicken when in fact it a big ass rat. Yes, that got some creatures down there that will make you a lifetime vegetarian.

I can't lie to my sisters. Visiting a foreign country for a week or two is nothing like living there. Usually, we see the positive tourist side of life but, that is just the show. Think about it. Everyone want to come to America for a reason and here we are trying to leave.

Why do people come to America and get educated and we who were born here are too lazy to grab what is in our front door. 15 or 20 mexicans, koreans, japanese come to america and all of them live in a small apt. That is a luxury to them and here my sisters talk like some mansion is somewhere waiting just for them.

I can't lie to the sisters but, experience is the best teacher
Moses-1

United States

#16 May 7, 2010
WTF? These men are going to come to america and get a white collar job? I don't think so. All these mexicans, koreans and so forth are working alright. Making minimum wages and living with 5 or 6 to an apt.

I'd love to see a black woman living in an apt with 5 or. 6 other people.

Hey what about the islands. Ladies, y'all better get real. Waiting to exhale was a MOVIE. The men on the islands get a boat load of horny women every day coming and going. Man, I could be CASANOVA too. All this variety and you're asking a man with a boat load of women coming to see him everyday to settle down, SHYT. GOOD LUCK WITH THAT ONE
twistedbabydoll

United States

#17 May 7, 2010
Moses-1 wrote:
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You got my vote. The world is waiting and there are all kind of new experiences for black women. Please don't get out there and forget where you came from. Send us a message telling us how much you love hot dry climates, wild animals invading your villages and walking off with your babies. If any of you get down under, let me know about running down a kangaroo, dressing that kangaroo and tell me if it taste like chicken.
Oh yeah. When you get to south america, sister watch out because, those women are very hot blooded. There is a shortage of south american men as it is and they don't take to kindly to American women intruding upon their territory. You might think you're eating chicken when in fact it a big ass rat. Yes, that got some creatures down there that will make you a lifetime vegetarian.
I can't lie to my sisters. Visiting a foreign country for a week or two is nothing like living there. Usually, we see the positive tourist side of life but, that is just the show. Think about it. Everyone want to come to America for a reason and here we are trying to leave.
Why do people come to America and get educated and we who were born here are too lazy to grab what is in our front door. 15 or 20 mexicans, koreans, japanese come to america and all of them live in a small apt. That is a luxury to them and here my sisters talk like some mansion is somewhere waiting just for them.
I can't lie to the sisters but, experience is the best teacher
100% co-sign.

And of course I won't forget AA men. My father, brother, and uncles are AA men and they are wonderful Black men.
Lmao

Salinas, CA

#18 May 7, 2010
Brazilian blacks have the highest Aids rate in All of central and south America.

Good luck /:):):)!

Africa is nice though....

“Love”

Level 1

Since: Sep 09

Beach Bunny <3

#19 May 7, 2010
BlackAmericanPrincess wrote:
<quoted text>
I'm sort of like you. I'm more on the intellectual side, creative, artsy, BUT I'm also valley girl at times(I grew up in that type of environment) and I'm pretty high maintenance but I'm not a gold digger. I do have a big butt, and I've been told I look like a video girl. But I act white. And I dress very conservative so I cancel everything out.
Anyway, LOL(I guess I'm combo of everything in a way). I'm a drifter--I have no real direction, just kind of take life as it comes. For some reason that does seem to bother a lot of american BM, that and the fact that I do talk white, that I'm not straight and arrow and so on.
I personally think people should just date whoever floats their boats. I'm sorry about your brother and your experience with BM. I've found that a lot of BM I've run into like the fact that I act preppy.
But I'm in Chicago and it's a pretty wide network of people here.
Maybe black people having issues attracting the people they want, should also look into moving into more diverse areas. Because I used to live in Ohio and that was just not the best dating place for a BW who is very open-minded.
Haha, I'm just like you, but I'm not artsy at all. I have no talent for anything but books & clothes. Books smarts are my thing, but I lack common sense sometimes (or so I've been told)...:/*sad face* lol. I'm in Southern California and I grew up in Orange County! So I'm kind of Valley Girl. I've had to learn that I'm not a freak though. I've met Black guys who didn't like it, but I don't care. I live in la county now for college and a black guy interrupted me mid-sentence one day and screamed out "MAN! I hate Black women who think they're white!" And his friends started laughing. It was embarrassing and it confuses me how dumb some people are. I'm not from Compton, they would call me a fake if I acted like those girls but came from the OC! Its a lose/lose situation. I always felt like being NON stereotypical is like being biracial on the inside. People meet me and I'm a Black girl, then they hear me and seem to change their whole opinion for the good or bad...

About Black guys though, I like them, but I've never understood the draw of only being with them. African men are my dream. They are usually so confident and proud of their cultures and people that its refreshing. I would love to have a family with an African guy and have one be my husband, lol. Then I like Asian guys, and White guys, but mostly from Europe more than U.S. People should date who they fit. Happiness for themselves should be most people's goal, thats all that matters. I want to find a guy to love. Race seems dumb to limit yourself on.
Moses-1

United States

#20 May 7, 2010
twistedbabydoll wrote:
<quoted text>
100% co-sign.
And of course I won't forget AA men. My father, brother, and uncles are AA men and they are wonderful Black men.
thank you and you have my support. Let me know if there is anything I can do to encourage bw in this endeavor

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