Well, most of us WW don't go looking to BM for sex. The few who do chase after you, you probably don't really want them, at least not as a person (just their body). You are obviously not a woman, since when a woman is busy doing something like grocery shopping, she doesn't want nor expect others to interfere and keep her from her goal.<quoted text>Whenever i get approached by white women looking for s@X ,its more like a human thing than a degrading act. That is what adults do with their spare time. You act like some emotionally disturbed loser .Are you a blackwoman?
Of course a predator won't complain when prey comes their way. I don't think a cat is upset when a mouse approaches it, but it does ruin the mouse's day to get chased, attacked, killed, or even eaten.
As long as the cultural and social dynamics between men and women are as they are, and men maintain any gender privilege, then it will be like this. Men will complain that women don't approach them, and women will complain that they do - particularly when the man is ugly, has a messed up life, does drugs, has a prison record, etc. Women care more about class and proper behavior than men. In the past, men who cared about such things were called gentlemen, and were praised. But at AAM influence took over, such men were condemned with gay slurs (despite being straight).
One thing that keeps coming to surface here is the inability of Af. Am. people to see the body and being as two different things. That is why they don't like TS women and disrespect them with male pronouns designed to attack who they are. Nobody changes sex to become anything other than more of what *they*(not their body) already are. But so many US people of color cannot separate the body from the nature and being of a person, or "soul" if you will. They are so trapped in the physical realm and think that is all there is. That ties over to all areas of life. The inability to distinguish the soul from the body is why so many people in Black forums criticize cosmetic surgery, call it self-hate, or call it being fake. The people don't do that to be fake, but to express the real person inside, and to remake the outside to more accurately express the inside. What if you were allergic to fish and bought a can marked corn that is full of fish? You'd probably sue if you survived opening the can.
Similar with makeup. Women usually wear it because that is what society dictates, and because they just want to look nice for themselves. It is more of a matter of self-respect to want to look nice than sex-appeal. Men don't have such urges to look nice just because that is the right thing to do or society expects it or whatever. So they misunderstand such needs in women and assume it is about them (the men).
I remember one time where I was riding my bike home from a meeting in another town. In that town, I was wondering about the strength of my eyes and whether my eyeglass Rx was appropriate. So I covered one eye, then the other, etc., as I looked into space. Then some Mexican pulled to that intersection, and was thinking wrongly that I was making passes at him. The fact he assumed I was doing it for him was so arrogant. He was clearly not of my ethnic group. I never ride for leisure, but when I am in a hurry to do things.
Oh, and despite myths, opposites rarely attract. Most WP want people that are close to how they are. They want to get along with people, not be challenged and kept on defensive.