Ponderings about the problem of not being left alone, and other things

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“Proud White Woman for life!”

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Spotted World

#1 Nov 22, 2013
I'm not here to bash, but to ponder things, and ponder some of the inequalities. I'd like this to be a strictly intellectual discussion, and without anyone trying to discuss me.

If I had the money, I'd get a license, car, etc. Then the low-class BM that roam the streets looking for nonstop sex, handouts & people to "talk to" wouldn't be able to approach me. But why should I be forced to change who I am & forced to spend money to get what EVERY woman deserves from birth? I could get a 50 cc scooter/moped (which are legal to use without licenses in all but 1-2 states). Still, that's close to a grand for what EVERY woman should be entitled to already, without spending money. The men wouldn't be able to see through the required helmet, & they might consider it useless to holler against a whiny 2 stroke engine.

With my town being 60% White, non-Hispanic (30% Af. Am., 10% Hispanic + other), me being White, & most WM preferring to date only WW, it seems I should have to put up with double the number of WM approaching me as BM, and 6 times as many WM-NH approaching me as Hispanic men. But for some reason, the minorities are like 20 times more likely to approach me than members of the remaining 60%.

I'm trying to figure out the why. I think income levels and vagrancy are a part of it. I imagine differences in political beliefs are a part of it. When you are poor, it is more tempting to have Marxist/socialist beliefs and demand to use others to lift you up (but without ever learning to grow or change to permanently overcome such a filthy need to depend on others out of learned helplessness). I am a low-income Conservative myself, and believe in leaving as little impact on the world as possible, depending on myself, or suffering without. I consider patience, suffering without, doing things without help, etc., as virtues, and I want to be left alone to practice my virtues without interference. Remember that the low income people in America were once the Conservatives.

I don't know what it is that makes poor people more interested in sex than others or more likely to pump out babies. I find that disgusting, since those are the people who should be having NONE at all, nor doing the things to cause pregnancy. And if you are poor, you should do nothing to cause pregnancy nor disease no require money to do. If you are poor, your primary focus should be on curing yourself of the disease of poverty, or at least learning to be self-sufficient and not burden others with your problem. Fun is a luxury, particularly fun that requires money, creates people, or creates debts. If you want that kind of fun, then earn it by refusing to be poor. Don't demand it from others.

I post this more as pondering, since WM don't typically bother me as mentioned above. Even tonight, I was out riding to go to a restaurant (alone as I prefer), & to Walmart to get food for the weekend, & a BM from a block away arrogantly demanded that I speak to him, like he thought he owned me or something, when I was clearly in my own world. It made me feel so dirty and violated. I plan on doing a weekend contest on the PC (why I stocked up), and need to get busy now. It's an answers marathon on a wiki site. Last time I was a runner-up. It would be nice to be a winner this time. I rode over to the guy & gave him a piece of my mind, & he had nothing to say. But it ruined my evening. Yet he can never unspeak to me & give back what he stole from me. That's why it is wrong to speak to strangers; you have no idea if you'll be violating others inside or not. The fact he had to holler at me should have been a clue. WW who do BM are constantly scanning their environment for their object of attraction. They'll notice them & make noise. I wasn't doing that as I am secure enough in myself, prefer solitude, & prefer staying in a meditative state when out & about. He tore me out of that state. I need to get busy on the wiki site.
Shay

Cleveland, MS

#2 Nov 22, 2013
OMG Spotty girl you wrote a whole book. You know black folks don't like to read lol.

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#3 Nov 22, 2013
Spotted Girl wrote:
I'm not here to bash, but to ponder things, and ponder some of the inequalities. I'd like this to be a strictly intellectual discussion, and without anyone trying to discuss me.
What I don't understand about being bothered regularly is that everyone deflects the issue by saying it's a hatred of AA, you don't have a backbone, etc like here:
RarestRose29 wrote:
you really don't like AA men do you? lol! AA men like to challenge women. and by challenge I mean they like to push your buttons to see how much you will let them get away with. I don't put up with disrespect from AA men or women. I generally get along with them well and that's partially because they know that even though i'm African I refuse to be disrespected. they treat me like family. and that's rare because AA don't generally like Africans. my advice to you is grow a backbone and speak up for yourself. if you don't you will keep having negative experiences with them. I have more positive experiences with AA because
1) I live in black suburbs not ghettos.
2) I will punch one of them in the face if they get outtaa line.
3) I'm not condescending....
4) I RESPECT THEM and their culture...even though I don't
care for it.
5) I don't act superior to them...like many Africans in America do...
they might not be the problem if you continuously keep having negative experiences and never have any positive, it just might be YOU!
JUST MY OPINION....and I've lived in America on and off since I was 9yrs old.<quoted text>
She admits that many AAM like to push women's buttons...yet it's my fault and I don't like AAM?

Thoughts?

“Proud White Woman for life!”

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Spotted World

#4 Nov 22, 2013
LOL! Well let me get to the contest. Maybe I can post here more on Monday.

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#5 Nov 22, 2013
Spotted Girl wrote:
LOL! Well let me get to the contest. Maybe I can post here more on Monday.
What is the contest?

“Proud White Woman for life!”

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Spotted World

#6 Nov 22, 2013
TimeforHonesty wrote:
<quoted text>
What I don't understand about being bothered regularly is that everyone deflects the issue by saying it's a hatred of AA, you don't have a backbone, etc like here:
<quoted text>
She admits that many AAM like to push women's buttons...yet it's my fault and I don't like AAM?
Thoughts?
I think she has some good insights and advice. However, what she adds at the end might be unfair. A thought came to my mind. So many of the guys have issues with their mothers (though they have buried them and won't admit they have issues). They felt held back, smothered, and kept from what brought them pleasure. Then as adults, they are like kids in a candy store, since they suddenly discard all the boundaries they were taught. When you are in bondage for so long, a common reaction is "never again." Another reaction is to become what was modeled to you, even if you disliked it at the time.

The comments about condescension get me to wondering. Could they take what they see as a condescending or self-righteous attitude as a challenge? If you put yourself up on a pedestal, some will take you to be a benchmark or want to make an example out of you. And it isn't just about dating and all. It even applies to computer hacking. Steve Gibson has been billed as a security expert, so from time to time, hackers will target him. If they crack into his system, they get the equivalent of street creds in the hacker world. Dating seems to be the same way, and when a girl wants to remain a virgin, have very high standards, do the right, moral things, etc., it seems to make her more attractive to the predatory mindset of guys. It is a challenge, and they need challenges to feel self-worth. Hoes often don't get harassed as much because anyone who pays has a chance, and thus all paying customers are equal. Or take take the high school "sl*t" (their word, not mine). Everyone gets a turn, and while guys like that, there is no respect nor fun in that. They would be just another loser taking advantage of some insecure girl. There is no honor nor accomplishment there. So they prefer more "challenging" women.

I tabbed over, but I'll get back to the contest.

“Proud White Woman for life!”

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Spotted World

#7 Nov 22, 2013
TimeforHonesty wrote:
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What is the contest?
The same one I mentioned in the middle of the last paragraph in the first comment (post 1). It is a question answering contest online. The site in question has them every season (ie., every 3 months).

“Halt die Klappe und kuss mich”

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#8 Nov 22, 2013
TimeforHonesty wrote:
<quoted text>
What I don't understand about being bothered regularly is that everyone deflects the issue by saying it's a hatred of AA, you don't have a backbone, etc like here:
<quoted text>
She admits that many AAM like to push women's buttons...yet it's my fault and I don't like AAM?
Thoughts?
as I sid you are spineless. instead of responding to my post you go to another thread whining about it to another poster lol...you're a clown. no wonder AA people spit in your face!

“Halt die Klappe und kuss mich”

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#9 Nov 22, 2013
sid=said

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#10 Nov 22, 2013
RarestRose29 wrote:
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as I sid you are spineless. instead of responding to my post you go to another thread whining about it to another poster lol...you're a clown. no wonder AA people spit in your face!
You're an idiot - I did respond. Use your brain and check instead of attack.

“Halt die Klappe und kuss mich”

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#11 Nov 22, 2013
TimeforHonesty wrote:
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You're an idiot - I did respond. Use your brain and check instead of attack.
it's easy for a coward like you to call me an idiot through the keyboards right lol....why don't you call those AA people you complain about everyday idiots instead of posting to people on here like myself who don't give a damn u stupid bytch! like I said you didn't respond to the last post I sent to you because you are one of those people who like to whine and complain instead of being proactive...you act just like an AA person. the very people you come here to complain about 24/7....

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#12 Nov 23, 2013
RarestRose29 wrote:
<quoted text>it's easy for a coward like you to call me an idiot through the keyboards right lol....why don't you call those AA people you complain about everyday idiots instead of posting to people on here like myself who don't give a damn u stupid bytch! like I said you didn't respond to the last post I sent to you because you are one of those people who like to whine and complain instead of being proactive...you act just like an AA person. the very people you come here to complain about 24/7....
You make no sense. You insult me and AA, and you make false accusations.
Blacks Are Worthless

Miami, FL

#15 Nov 23, 2013
I feel Spotted Girls fear & pain, just in case you jealous feral kneegros wonder what she & other innocent White women & actually women of all other races except black women see when a dangerous black male bent on rape approaches them, see below.

www.funnyjunk.com/funny_pictures/451438/Never

“Proud White Woman for life!”

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Spotted World

#16 Nov 23, 2013
Blacks Are Worthless wrote:
I feel Spotted Girls fear & pain, just in case you jealous feral kneegros wonder what she & other innocent White women & actually women of all other races except black women see when a dangerous black male bent on rape approaches them, see below.
www.funnyjunk.com/funny_pictures/451438/Never
Actually, I don't see that. I don't fear most. I just don't have time nor interest for them, but a fierce need for independence. I've always been taught that you don't speak to strangers. A stranger is just that, a separate person in their own separate world. You have no way of knowing what they want or don't want, so the best thing to do is leave them alone and allow them the right to run their own life in peace. In Biblical terms, a "stranger" is someone from another culture. It means they have ideas, beliefs, and customs different from your own.

Most don't go around raping. I just have my life and culture as I want it and don't want it challenged. I just want the freedom to be me, and the only way I can truly be me is for others to be completely out of my way and ignoring me. I have a life, and pretty much as I want it. I've never had a need nor interest for sex, and it must be a filthy, selfish feeling to have this need to demand it of every stranger because one is lacking a mind, spirit, and other things. When your only tool in your toolbox is a hammer, then everything starts to look like a nail.

So many people are psychic vampires. They feed off of the energy of others and take their life force. They may expect others to give them what their parents didn't give them.

I'm doing poorly in the Answerthon. I had the expectation to go eat and buy groceries last night, and without being approached along the way. That expectation was violated. That has been flooding my mind. Then today, the thoughts got so bad that I just went to bed.

“Proud White Woman for life!”

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Spotted World

#17 Nov 23, 2013
MrAnderson9 wrote:
<quoted text>
Lol, exactly :)
I love that post you made to her. It's almost like she doesn't understand that she's the one harassing AA men.
Life's a big place full of individuals. for her to harass other individuals based on what other individuals have done makes her no better than the stories she makes up about the men harassing her.
Same with the other black female "spotted girl".
You need to stop lying on me. I am a White female, and I have the right as a White woman to speak out against Black male predators like you. Too bad your mother didn't love you enough to beat your excessive need for sex out of you.

You only lie on me and deny my White heritage because you are jealous. I have been a member of the White race my entire life, but you never will be a part of that. You as a Black man who practices an inferior culture in America, an inferior culture dominated by filthy sex talk, excessive sexual interest, miscegenation, dominance, power, and other filthy traits, go out of your way to destroy the reputation of White women who are not whores, but decent enough to never have sex outside their own race. I have the right to be treated as the White woman I am and to participate here to try to force BP to act more like WP or to leave us WP alone without my race being questioned.

As a White woman, I have a right to NEVER be approached by men outside my race. Go ahead an keep lying on me, and some day, my God will love me enough to punish your entire family for your lies. Do you love your family? You need to come to the Lord Jesus Christ. When you do, God will destroy your need for sex outside your race and remove your excessive need for sex from you and teach you to be content with the place God created for you. Stop worshiping your penis and your own might, and start worshiping and obeying the One True God.

It would be funny if you didn't stop accusing me of being a BW and someone kept chasing you around and accused you of being a child molester. You know what they do to molesters in prison. It is funny that you as a man would take a place where 2 women of different races were empowering themselves in a girl-only atmosphere, and rape that atmosphere and emotionally rape the guests of the forum.

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#19 Nov 23, 2013
Spotted Girl wrote:
<quoted text>
I think she has some good insights and advice. However, what she adds at the end might be unfair. A thought came to my mind. So many of the guys have issues with their mothers (though they have buried them and won't admit they have issues). They felt held back, smothered, and kept from what brought them pleasure. Then as adults, they are like kids in a candy store, since they suddenly discard all the boundaries they were taught. When you are in bondage for so long, a common reaction is "never again." Another reaction is to become what was modeled to you, even if you disliked it at the time.
The comments about condescension get me to wondering. Could they take what they see as a condescending or self-righteous attitude as a challenge? If you put yourself up on a pedestal, some will take you to be a benchmark or want to make an example out of you. And it isn't just about dating and all. It even applies to computer hacking. Steve Gibson has been billed as a security expert, so from time to time, hackers will target him. If they crack into his system, they get the equivalent of street creds in the hacker world. Dating seems to be the same way, and when a girl wants to remain a virgin, have very high standards, do the right, moral things, etc., it seems to make her more attractive to the predatory mindset of guys. It is a challenge, and they need challenges to feel self-worth. Hoes often don't get harassed as much because anyone who pays has a chance, and thus all paying customers are equal. Or take take the high school "sl*t" (their word, not mine). Everyone gets a turn, and while guys like that, there is no respect nor fun in that. They would be just another loser taking advantage of some insecure girl. There is no honor nor accomplishment there. So they prefer more "challenging" women.
I tabbed over, but I'll get back to the contest.
I don't agree with her assessment as they are all built on assumptions. I am considered pleasant by every group, yet with this particular ethnic male group, they seem bitter towards me and lustful simultaneously. It doesn't seem to matter if I'm nice, kind, in a professional position, sweet, quiet, loud, etc. It's always either a hatred or lust or both simultaneously. That is the point I was making and that's why her points did not have merit. I am not sure why others get angry about my quite regular personal experiences.

The ultimate truth is I simply wish to be left alone. I don't understand why that bothers some.

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#22 Nov 23, 2013
The King wrote:
<quoted text>
But what about us men that don't know you, and you harass us on our forum?
Why is it okay for you and the other black female Spotted girl to harass us, but it's not okay for those men to harass you?
Hey Anderson,

I've told you many times not to post to me. I've also told you that you must look up the term harassment.

Spotted Girl, a WW, and myself, a BW, seek a resolution to a huge source of annoyance in our lives. Interestingly, she lives in the South while I've lived in five states and experience this crap. It's not a matter of it being our faults, given we are focusing on the approaches and the type of approaches, so they don't know anything about us aside from our gender and race.

We are not harassing as we are not focusing on you in particular. We came to this forum to discuss issues within the AA community, and this is a huge issue, how AAM view and treat women. Many other women agree as I receive private messages and it's all over youtube.

Stop denying and playing games and just reflect.

“Proud White Woman for life!”

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Spotted World

#24 Nov 24, 2013
The King wrote:
<quoted text>
But what about us men that don't know you, and you harass us on our forum?
Why is it okay for you and the other black female Spotted girl to harass us, but it's not okay for those men to harass you?
I am not Black, so stop your lies about me (or suffer God's wrath).

I have never harassed you. I started my OWN thread, and I clearly asked others to NOT discuss me in the least. Talk about the topic only as purely intellectual. Just me starting a thread and me posting just to be posting is not harassment. It is YOU who invaded the thread I started to harass me and other women. BM harassing any color woman is a problem that ALL women face. TTBH and I were speaking as EQUALS on a totally platonic and nonsexual level like normal people of all races do. Then you come in and harass us and spread lies on me for NO reason. We were not speaking to you nor about you. Sisterhood is universal and crosses ALL racial lines.

When I go into town, I never notice others nor otherwise harass them. As soon as you seen a stranger out of the corner of your eye, you are supposed to tell yourself they are *JUST* a stranger, leave them alone, and never speak to them - regardless the gender. You are supposed to treat ALL strangers the same and not discriminate, and that means to have as little to do with them as possible and not do something stupid like try to "socialize" with them. Because of my pure White genes, I don't have the stupid need to "socialize." Oh, I like to have fun, but to me, that is a quiet evening alone or with other ladies and discussing technical things, philosophy, etc., or just enjoying a movie or each other's company, with none of the poison of testosterone to ruin it. Even effeminate homosexuals have too much of that male poison for my comfort level, and they ruin quiet evenings between women, since they either dominate the conversations or talk about their immoral behaviors nonstop. My former neighbor who can vouch for me being White can tell you about a guy dude who lived in the same building and what he does where she works.(He crawled under a booth, looked up at a guy, admired his junk, and offered fellatio). We were both glad he moved.

I am tired of you trying to see me as something filthy as a sex-object. I believe in feminism, & as a WW, I'm supposed to, as feminism is a part of White culture. What I say has NOTHING to do with repression, but because of my analytic mind. I think a whole lot like Freud, & I have the same curiosities about life. Science is my motivation, nothing else.

As someone with a scientific mind, I can tell you that there is NO BM here in my city who is roaming the streets who is capable of seeing any woman, even if she is attired as a doctor and has the highest degrees, as anything but a wh*re. Such men belong to a culture that sexualizes everything, and when you call them on it, they accuse you of what only they are guilty of. They refuse to see women as equals rather than as sex objects. Superior cultures ALL treat men and women as exactly the same & ignore differences, while inferior cultures treat men as better and women as property of men, and think every woman wants to be property rather than chase after her own dreams. When you see a stranger woman, you should assume she is asexual, lesbian, a child, married, or taken, and you should respect her the same as you would another man. Around here, anytime a BM approaches a stranger, it is nearly always to get something, whether it is money, the time, a cigarette, sex, a place to crash, or they want to sell you something. They rarely talk on a platonic level as equals nor discuss anything meaningful like science, computers, Conservative politics, philosophy, or any of the other higher level interests I have. Every time people discuss anything except what is in those narrow categories, they are wasting my time.

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#25 Nov 24, 2013
Spotted Girl wrote:
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I'm doing poorly in the Answerthon. I had the expectation to go eat and buy groceries last night, and without being approached along the way. That expectation was violated. That has been flooding my mind. Then today, the thoughts got so bad that I just went to bed.
You do realize that this comment is announcing to everyone that there is something wrong with your mental state.

All normal people that have a stranger approach them for whatever reason do not act like this.

If the thoughts in your head get so bad that you go to bed, THAT'S A PROBLEM! You always post how other people are messing you up when YOU are the only one that is messing yourself up. YOU ARE THE PROBLEM. You are the kind of person with mental problems that everyone just ignores or laughs at until you do something horrible. You are one sick person that needs help immediately before the thoughts in your head turn to voices and tell you to do things....

“What do the stars say......”

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...explore outside the milkway

#27 Nov 24, 2013
Sweetheart its not that serious. If you don't want him, just simply say no, if he's too persistent get a attitude with him to scare him away, or give him a phone number that doesn't belong to you and a different name. I have done this over and over again, and it works even if they live a few blocks from you they will not harass you anymore. I must admit that when I first started doing this, I felt bad because I knew that some how I would see them again due to my location, but when I did it more I began to not care. Most of them just want some p*ssy any way so you shouldn't feel bad about this.

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