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My successful brothas don't date black women, now I know why

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#2 Sep 15, 2007
I wish i knew you personally, so you could see that the drama-free black female does exist, and alot of us want black men.

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“Holdin' it down. ”

Since: Jul 07

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#3 Sep 15, 2007
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You just dropped a megaton logic bomb!!! I agree with you bruh. Now watch these women get on this thread and call you a white women loving sell out punk. It has been hard to deal with black women, but if she cannot accept me for who I am, she can kick rocks. Women like that are beneath you. They want the thugs, let they have them. Then, in 10 years they want you to "step up to the plate", and clean up the clusterfuck they have made of thier lives, laugh in their faces. Remember, you gave them what they wanted. How inconsiderate of you to take up that woman's time by working hard and accomplishing goals, when she could be with a thug who can hit the bottom of the pussy, who can give her a boatload of little thugspawns and STD's. Don't stand in her way, man. Look for a good woman who loves you for you. And another thing, you can still have a black woman. Just make sure she is not American. Peace, bruh.

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#4 Sep 15, 2007
Curlylocks wrote:
I wish i knew you personally, so you could see that the drama-free black female does exist, and alot of us want black men.
It would make him no difference...he has already come to the conclusion that black women are not worth his time. After reading posts such as his, I am starting to see why decent black women are giving up and looking elsewhere. We do not want 'thugs" and so called good men do not want us. I finally get the message...as I decent black woman I must seek my mate elsewhere.

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#5 Sep 15, 2007
STRICTLY INTERRACIAL wrote:
Hey fellas,
I got an honest question for you and specifically, I mean my brothas who are successful in life being in money, education, or whatever since you understand where I am coming from on this.......
First of all, I must admit that a lot of you are better men than me to be able to forgive this bullshit from our so called own people. It is just that our people know more than any one else that a black male cannot get by in life being mediocre, a dealer, or gangster. He better have DA BOMB skills, knowledage, AND a trade. Yet when we try to improve ourselves, we get nothing but hatred, ridicule, and kicked to the curb by our so-called own people (specifically black women) and are later expected to turn to them (BW) for companionship when they:
a. are too overweight to get a thug
b. when they have so many kids there ONLY option is a good man
c. are waaayyy past 35 or 40 years old and just figuring out the error of their ways.
d. all the above
Dudes, how are you able to do that? I mean, God knows that I do not want to stir up more hatred than there already is, but MY GOD! How are you able to be willing to date, marry, or have children with those who have always hated you for the very qualities that make you a REAL man? How are you able to even consider mating with them when they did not want you in high school and college because you were not a thug?
Now ladies, I already know what you are thinking. AH, this guy is a reject, he is ugly, blah blah. The truth is that I have always been considered attractive for my black/asian features, but just not black enough. What you ladies have to understand is that it takes guts for men to walk up to you. And you might as well tell the truth and shame the devil, but you as black women are mean as hell to a dude that does not fit your thug-like standards. We have to exercise the concept of strategic approach, but YOU AS WOMEN do not. So to make a long story short, men will ALWAYS approach women that give positive vibes and signals and in my case it has always and consistently been non-black women. The funny thing is that even though this is mostly fact, they STILL will put you down and call you a reject and this CERTAINLY does not help their cause because as the saying goes, "You catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar." I am a spiritual person, but I will be the first to admit that I am not holier than thou, I have my issues like everyone else, but mentally, I refuse to tolerate this sort of treatment anymore from women that should know by now that exceling is a black males ONLY option.
So fellas, tell me how you do it? This is VERY consistent behavior amongst our own and I know a lot of you REAL MEN understand me. NO ONE in my circle of friends would even attempt to date black women. I NEVER have dated a black woman and never will, but I am curious about you guys who are successful and do date black women. Do you guys feel like you are dating your enemy?
Please tell me your stories because it is always good to here different perspectives of this.
P.S.- Honest to God I do not mean to offend anyone, I just need to know how you can forgive being put down by your own people your entire life and then be expected to want to date them.
I dont wanna sound like I'm bashin black women, but he makes a strong point!! Your kinda right!! But I dont its all black women that are like that, maybe like 95% tops. But I still will end my story with a black woman, some kinda black woman I dont care if she's from another country.

“Try some common sense.”

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#6 Sep 16, 2007
Some good black women are rejected by black men who want to run after hoochies in hot pants too, so it goes both ways.

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#7 Sep 16, 2007
Your community cracks me up. You preach about black unity and then shit like this gets posted every 2 1/2 minutes.

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#8 Sep 16, 2007
Well I have to admit one thing, black men are tire of black women always trying to challenge them and their decisions, which is by the way a definite no no. White women do not dare try to challenge their husbands in any way and they know who the leader in the relationship is, as oppose to black women who will back talk the shit out of you and think that they wear the pants. And they wonder why black men cross over, well let see could it be that even white women appreciate black men more than sisters and they show it. Hey sisters guess what its not about you. Grow up and learn some things in life and stop chasing the dollar get some values and class and I guarantee you brother will not be able to resist you. But not until.

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darkonesun

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#9 Sep 16, 2007
You don't know how true this is bruh. I am going through this scenario RIGHT NOW as we speak. I am in school. I have my own apartment, car is paid for, and all of the black woman I see around me have got OOW babies--by both black and non-black men--they are galavanting with thugs, they are getting screwed by both thugs and non-black guys, and here I am, an honest dude, totally by my damn self bruh. I ain't got shit to choose from when it comes to black women. It's sad. Even the black women that have something going for themselves choose BUMS.

These women can say you are full of it all they want, but deep down inside, they KNOW you are telling the truth; and many of them are GUILTY of the stuff you speak of.

I am handsome too; that is the weird thing about it. I am not a reject at all. Everything you say, I am EXPERIENCING. I only have a damn year of school left; and when I make it bruh, if I don't find me a sister by then, their asses are history to me bruh. It makes no sense for a damn good black man to have to be alone for trying to walk the straight and narrow path. WE should be the type of black men black women are AFTER. Nah, we are nothing but caveats of last resort. These women must be freaking crazy.

I live in Oakland, CA. I must admit too, the things that I see, bother the living shit out of me; because it seems like many black women are just stuck on damn stupid. It angers me that when a black man takes the damn high road, everybody wants to try to make his ass fail. For all the shit that many black women say about good black man this, and good black man that, none of their asses really want one; until it is too damn late for their asses.
I have had older women come on to me, and I don't want that. Women with kids, they are all nice...NOW. I don't want NONE of these used up women. I am still CLEAN, no mileage at all; and I will be damned if I let one of these hoes ruin my life.

Everything you said was on point; and I was thinking about this very subject when you wrote about. I am a Computer Science Major, and this coming up semester, I am going to Calculus III. It's a damn shame that a black woman can't even get my while I am on my ascent upward.
The ones who do try, have already ruined themselves, an they are no good for a good black man.

Many black women think that they can do whatever the hell they want and then come back to black men in any type of condition; and they got it WRONG. They think so little of us, that they don't even SAVE themselves for the best of us; because they feel like we don't DESERVE a good black woman. All the ones that are good, think that they are too damn good for a regular black man.

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#10 Sep 16, 2007
SI, I can relate as far as getting clowned for getting your study on and working towards something other than thuggery. As you may have figured out, I'm a meteorologist by trade, and you don't become one by carrying yourself in an ig'nant manner. So I understand all too well what a black man who falls outside the ghetto/thug stereotype has to endure.

However, having dated across racial lines, I can say that immaturity is certainly not exclusive to black women, and that assertion is an unfair one. Ok, yeah, we had bad experiences in high school, but remember....that was "high school". Not exactly a hotbed of maturity women there.

Although, you're certainly not wrong if you don't want to deal with a woman who has issues, drama, attitude, baggage from a previous relationship, self-esteem issues and insecurity, but again, black women don't hold an exclusive patent on these things.

I'd say date whomever respects and accepts you for who you are, regardless of the color of her skin. Good luck.
Its reciprocated

Urbana, IL

#11 Sep 16, 2007
I say the same things abut black men lol. As a successful black woman I was labeled as a sell out was talked about, put down for acting white etc..and so forth. I gave up mon black men and am strictly interracial myself. i could never approach a black man and haven't met a decent one. The ONLY decent men I have encountered were non-black males. I hope more reason realize that there are more more men then black men and these men are MUCH better than black men lol. Also, i would never date my enemy because black males in All aspects of my societal perspective are my enemy.

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“Try some common sense.”

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#12 Sep 16, 2007
Oh please. I personally know several young black professional female churchgoing virgins who can't get a black guy to look at them to save their lives. One is a Ph.D and the other two have Master's degrees. You can give up black women if you want to but you can't say that there aren't any good ones out there.

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“Be Ready to Enjoy Everyday!”

Since: May 07

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#14 Sep 16, 2007
Okay...just a woman's point of view.

Personally, I have no problem if you never date black women. I'd just prefer not to be generalized.

Anyway, what you say definitely goes both ways. I'm in college. I speak proper English. I dress classy, and I come from a well educated middle-upperclass family. I live in Orange County, CA (yes, I'm a suburban girl). And, my experience with black guys has been this...a lot of wannabe rappers(they wouldn't get the time of day from me)...guys who say "you're too white"...guys who call me OREO, guys who only date white girls, guys who don't know how to open a door or compliment a woman when they're on a date. I mean, come on. I don't want to treated like that. Yet, I catch hell from these same disrespectful black men if I date a non-black man?!?!?!?!

So, things go both ways. Black men treat black women(like me) with just as much disrespect. And, frankly, that's not the way that I want to be treated by any man.

BUT, ON ANOTHER NOTE...A COUPLE BLACK MEN WHO HAVE ALREADY POSTED HERE ARE EXCEPTIONS TO MY EXPERIENCES (I'm talking about the successful, independent black men on this thread)....BUT, AT THE SAME TIME I HOPE THAT YOU ALL SEE THAT THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS TO THE TYPE OF BLACK WOMAN THAT YOU'VE MENTIONED....I am an exception to the traits you've all listed...I don't sleep around, I don't have children, I don't date thugs, I don't prefer uneducated men, I don't reject black men for speaking proper English...and, I don't even reject black men for dating non-black women. SO, THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS.

“Be Ready to Enjoy Everyday!”

Since: May 07

Southern California

#15 Sep 16, 2007
KayMo wrote:
Oh please. I personally know several young black professional female churchgoing virgins who can't get a black guy to look at them to save their lives. One is a Ph.D and the other two have Master's degrees. You can give up black women if you want to but you can't say that there aren't any good ones out there.
I, myself, am one of those educated respectful virgins who can't get the attention of a proper black guy to save my life. I keep my dating options open...hoping that one day an educated, successful black man will wise up and realize that I'm not worthless. But, just in case that day never comes...I've learned to ignore color and date interracially as well. I never feel ugly or worthless when I date non-black men. But, the black men that have given me the time of day have had a way of tearing me apart from my looks, to my family background, to my education. And, I love my spirit too much to settle for that crap.
Jay

Huntsville, AL

#17 Sep 16, 2007
HA!! Who wants to even give a bitch like that a chance even if she is still single!?!? Hey, fellas, I'm tired of screaming this, so its gonna be the last time. Take it from an old soldier. From the military, to the streets to the corporate boardrooms, black females today are like computer viruses with multiple Trojan horse and worm applications, they are programmed to destroy, even if they profess to desire a "good" black man.
Stop putting all these frigging conditions on your acceptance of them. "Unless" "Until" "When" You dudes have got me F'D up with that line of logic. Don't you get it?!? Black females don't need you, and they don't want to see you surpass them in any field of endeavor!!! Okay!?! An empowered black man/men for them is like a target package for a cluster bomb, she may instinctively seek you out, but it is NOT to build you up, it is to BLOW YOU OFF OF THE MAP!!! All over these threads,guys keep sending half-hearted love letters to these black girl bombs, before they go off, like you can disarm and defuse them with sad, soulful confessions of unrequited love or rejection as hard-pecker teenagers, or high school Romeos. Pathetic. No matter what your situation is right now, realize one thing, these bitches DO NOT RESPECT you. That is the real foundation for any hope of a relationship. What does a black bitch really want from you today? To be a drone, a servant, or a supplier, but all for her needs, and her needs alone. That isn't love, that's usury, and you need to wake up to that reality. Stop being the slave/buck and make yourself into a man for the 21st century, that's the thing you should be concentrating on!! Upgrade!! Only when you have punched through all of the shit that America hands you as a black man, and gained respect, recognition and fear as a force to be reckoned with, will your true helpmate emerge!!! Easy?? NOT AT ALL!! Worth it?!? NO QUESTION!!! STOP strumming your guitar and singing your lyrics to her dude, you're only a source of amusement.STAND UP and be a real man!! When you do that, black broads fall back and fall off like a scab on an old wound. I've said enough. There it is.

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#19 Sep 16, 2007
Destiny85 wrote:
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My sister earns $250,000 per year and she is absolutely gorgeous. She was molested and almost raped by a black man. She is currently married to a black man she fell in love with.
My life has been threatened, and I was held at gun point by a black man. I've been molested by black guys my whole life. I was told I was ugly by *some* black guys, but I know DAMN well that's not true because I look just like the beautiful Kd Aubert, and she's not ugly...
Maybe my sister and I just see black men as INDIVIDUALS and don't judge them ALL by a FEW...
P.S. No offense. I'm originally from the south. I live in California now. I have taken notice that the black women here are NOTHING like the ones in the south. Maybe it's just your region. Have you ever been to other parts of the country where there are black women?
Note: white, latina, and Asian women are no different from the Black women in California. From my experiences here, they are worse. GOOD LUCK!!!
It's true. White, Asian, and Latina women are no better at all in Cali. Many of them are racist too; especially the Asian women.

I just need to get my black ass out of this place altogether.

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#21 Sep 16, 2007
BreeCheese wrote:
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I, myself, am one of those educated respectful virgins who can't get the attention of a proper black guy to save my life. I keep my dating options open...hoping that one day an educated, successful black man will wise up and realize that I'm not worthless. But, just in case that day never comes...I've learned to ignore color and date interracially as well. I never feel ugly or worthless when I date non-black men. But, the black men that have given me the time of day have had a way of tearing me apart from my looks, to my family background, to my education. And, I love my spirit too much to settle for that crap.
Yawnn...I have heard that before. It's bullshit. I bet you a damn bag of greenbacks that you are probably going for the same black men that other women want. E.G. over 6ft, etc., etc.,

You all typically ONLY like certain types of black guys. If you can't get that certain black dude, you all don't deal with black men at all.

I know your type.
Celes

Baltimore, MD

#22 Sep 16, 2007
This thing will never die. Okay, without any shameless self- promotion (which wouldn't matter, because I would still be lumped in this big, steaming pile of generalization that EVERY SINGLE BLACK WOMAN mysteriously ends up in?WTF??) I regard myself as a good, decent black LADY. I am not a member of the Messed Up Black Chick Society (MUCS, to you acronym lovers.) And judging from the comments I have read, neither are most of the other black women here. Yet, time and again, black men say that there are no good black women around. Huh. Nothing we ever do is good enough, we're already dismissed as garbage before we even get a chance. That is why I learned how to stop trying to prove myself to anyone, because if they won't listen to you and choose to categorize you instead, put them on your waste of time list.I believe that there are good black men around, see, I haven't given up like you already have. I also believe (hold on, this is might start a fight) that any man that says that all black women are no good, NEVER, EVER WANTED A BLACK WOMAN IN THE FIRST PLACE. It's just a whiny excuse to date away from black, which is your preference, which I honestly don't care about. What I do care about is putting down me and all the other black women who are getting through life the best they can, with very little support from their own kind. That in and of itself puts us in the good black woman category, not your short list of unfounded reasons why we all suck. And if you don't need us, we sure don't need you. Heard it all before. It's not like we've never been put down by black men before, what you're saying is not brand new. Just stupid.
Celes

Baltimore, MD

#23 Sep 16, 2007
MUBCS

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#24 Sep 16, 2007
Jay wrote:
HA!! Who wants to even give a bitch like that a chance even if she is still single!?!? Hey, fellas, I'm tired of screaming this, so its gonna be the last time. Take it from an old soldier. From the military, to the streets to the corporate boardrooms, black females today are like computer viruses with multiple Trojan horse and worm applications, they are programmed to destroy, even if they profess to desire a "good" black man.
Stop putting all these frigging conditions on your acceptance of them. "Unless" "Until" "When" You dudes have got me F'D up with that line of logic. Don't you get it?!? Black females don't need you, and they don't want to see you surpass them in any field of endeavor!!! Okay!?! An empowered black man/men for them is like a target package for a cluster bomb, she may instinctively seek you out, but it is NOT to build you up, it is to BLOW YOU OFF OF THE MAP!!! All over these threads,guys keep sending half-hearted love letters to these black girl bombs, before they go off, like you can disarm and defuse them with sad, soulful confessions of unrequited love or rejection as hard-pecker teenagers, or high school Romeos. Pathetic. No matter what your situation is right now, realize one thing, these bitches DO NOT RESPECT you. That is the real foundation for any hope of a relationship. What does a black bitch really want from you today? To be a drone, a servant, or a supplier, but all for her needs, and her needs alone. That isn't love, that's usury, and you need to wake up to that reality. Stop being the slave/buck and make yourself into a man for the 21st century, that's the thing you should be concentrating on!! Upgrade!! Only when you have punched through all of the shit that America hands you as a black man, and gained respect, recognition and fear as a force to be reckoned with, will your true helpmate emerge!!! Easy?? NOT AT ALL!! Worth it?!? NO QUESTION!!! STOP strumming your guitar and singing your lyrics to her dude, you're only a source of amusement.STAND UP and be a real man!! When you do that, black broads fall back and fall off like a scab on an old wound. I've said enough. There it is.
Lol...LMFAO...oh wait...you're serious?

Since: Apr 07

Honolulu, HI

#25 Sep 16, 2007
Truth seeker wrote:
Well I have to admit one thing, black men are tire of black women always trying to challenge them and their decisions, which is by the way a definite no no. White women do not dare try to challenge their husbands in any way and they know who the leader in the relationship is, as oppose to black women who will back talk the shit out of you and think that they wear the pants. And they wonder why black men cross over, well let see could it be that even white women appreciate black men more than sisters and they show it. Hey sisters guess what its not about you. Grow up and learn some things in life and stop chasing the dollar get some values and class and I guarantee you brother will not be able to resist you. But not until.
That's about the dumbest thing I've ever heard. White women founded the feminism movement.

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