You're right that some of these responses are basic and just plain silly however this should point to our problem with our attitudes.<quoted text>
You raised good points. I still largely disagree.
The basic nature in which blacks choose to engage in relationship topics is very nauseating. Stating obvious things such as "I'm not getting with an ugly woman" or "Lose weight" is ignorant, crass, unintelligent and boring. One lady even posted that the key to a good relationship is having her man have his way with her. Ya know, just stupid and basic things. Why do bp have so many basic conversations?
It's not difficult to be with someone who moves you. If you respect the person, you aren't going to stop respecting them just because one day they don't have sex with you or some other silly stuff I've heard some post.
And I actually don't find it strange that bm and bw are having relationship issues. They've both publicly bashed each other to high hell. Made complete fools of themselves to the point where I'm surprised even one black couple still exists in the country at all. So, sad to say, I'm not surprised that bm/bw aren't together. I'd actually be shocked if they were. If blacks want to work as a community to restore what seems to be natural for everyone else, they need to start with respecting themselves and imposing boundaries (which they refuse to do so **shruggs**).
Answers like "she needs to stay in shape" or "she needs to be a dime" are what not in touch with what it really takes to make a relationship work. So, say they meet a woman who is in shape, she has their children and gets big...they are going to leave her and their family because "she isn't in shape anymore" ??? Sounds pretty ridiculous to me and in my opinion, shows a flaw in the thinking of some black men.
I'm not saying that people date who they are not attracted to but the problem I see with a lot of single black men and women today is that they have lost touch with the reality of what it takes to make a relationship work and that is why they are not marriage material. That is also why talks like these are necessary because these basic answers need to be called out for the shallowness that they are.
These people need to wake up. None of them are supermodels and if some are, they are not going to stay supermodels for ever. Life happens and if people don't have something more concrete to value about their partner other than looks and material goods, they had better prepare for a long single life or a loveless marriage for years to come.