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Why do so many black men repeat negative stereotypes about black women? SMH!

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“True Love Sees No Color”

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#1 Jan 24, 2012
Article: If What Black Men Say is True, I’m A White Woman…
“I think that is true, white women are much easier to get along with,” a long time friend said to me over lunch.“White women will stick with the man they love, they know how to hang in there while he builds. A black woman will pull the plug in a minute. White women,” he said looking me straight in the eye,“understand the power of perseverance.”
Chances are you have heard this argument before, and if you are a black woman, chances are you have been in this situation. Normally, I would have immediately pointed out the flawed and stereotypical remarks for what they are,… baloney. However, this time was different. This time I wasn’t listening to some guy on television go on about how great white women are and how black women are worthless. This time I was face to face with a friend of mine, a man I was interested in – up until that day at least. This was not an unintelligent man, quite the contrary. He is successful, competent, hard-working, handsome, well-read and not at all someone I thought would believe such a thing much less say it to a black woman’s face. As we used to say in my youth, those are fighting words. I allowed him to continue uninterrupted, I had to see where he was going with this argument and just how far.
“Black women don’t understand what it means to let a man be a man and take control. They don’t treat a black man like a king. White women understand when to keep their mouths shut and let a man do what he has to do. Black women are difficult to get along with and they always have to have the last word.”
I actually considered his statement for a moment, almost doubting myself, wondering who he was talking about. He could not possibly be speaking to me about me-right?
He was speaking to me. He was speaking to me from his experiences and drawing a conclusion based on his self-image and all the women he had dealings with, including his mother. Yes, I said it, his mother. His mother, sister, lover, ex-girlfriends, the mother of his children, led him to believe that the way he was degrading black women was not only OK, it was true.
He went further, but I had heard enough. My mind began to drift away as I visualized the faces of hundreds of black women who treat their men like kings. I personally know an awful lot of black women who hung in their with their men while they were building a legacy, including the current First Lady of the United States. The fact remained that even with numerous examples of elegant, intelligent, classy, committed, dedicated and gorgeous black women on earth, this conversation was all too familiar. Why? Why is this argument so prevalent, and more specifically why do so many black men believe and repeat these negative stereotypes about black women? What can be done to make this black man and many others see the light in women with black skin? The jury is still out on that matter. What I do know is this: the “white woman” men like my friend speak of is not white or a woman. The white woman they describe is an “it,” or “a concept.” Those that proclaim “it” as characteristic of white women, choose to see “it” only in her. When black men describe the white woman as more “submissive” and “tolerant” than her angry, difficult and arrogant black sister, the intent is usually to degrade black women rather than to compliment white women.(The stereotypes that black women are angry and difficult to deal with are ironically the same stereotypes that are often used to label black men). Just like most stereotypes, these comments about black and white women were constructed in the minds of (some) black men, perpetuated by mass media, and, unfortunately, are too often accepted as fact.
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“True Love Sees No Color”

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#3 Jan 24, 2012
Patsy wrote:
I think that some Black men will use any excuse because they want to be with a White woman to elevate himself in the society. Thanks God that we have Obama to prove that this way of thinking is false. In addition, it is funny how some of our brothers think it is difficult to be with a Black woman and they see nothing wrong to be with a White woman who has a family who doesn’t except him. I even know White women who didn’t introduce their Black boyfriends to their families and guess what some of our brothers accept this. So, as the author wrote, their excuse is baloney!!!

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#4 Jan 24, 2012
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It is so sad to hear my brother speak of me in such a demeaning manner, but it is true. Black men relate black women to hard times. Everything in his life that is not good is because of the black woman. With that being said, it is not so much that he hates the black woman, than the fact that he hates being black. With all the hard times I have faced, never in a million years would I blame being black for all my hardships. It is just unfortunate that the black man sees the answer to his hatred for his race is the white woman. Not his mother or father or the lack of love that he experienced as a child, but the black woman. Why, because we represent everything that he has come to hate. Oh so sad for it is within the black woman that the answers lie, but the black man has put down the black woman so bad, that finding the answers to all that he hates is buried so deep inside of the black woman that he doesn’t have the ability to find so he will continue on this path destroying the cloth from which he was cut!!!
Bolo

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#5 Jan 24, 2012
He told u that cause its true bw have no respect.

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#6 Jan 24, 2012
Brandi8 wrote:
Deliah davis wrote:
It is so sad to hear my brother speak of me in such a demeaning manner, but it is true. Black men relate black women to hard times. Everything in his life that is not good is because of the black woman. With that being said, it is not so much that he hates the black woman, than the fact that he hates being black. With all the hard times I have faced, never in a million years would I blame being black for all my hardships. It is just unfortunate that the black man sees the answer to his hatred for his race is the white woman. Not his mother or father or the lack of love that he experienced as a child, but the black woman. Why, because we represent everything that he has come to hate. Oh so sad for it is within the black woman that the answers lie, but the black man has put down the black woman so bad, that finding the answers to all that he hates is buried so deep inside of the black woman that he doesn’t have the ability to find so he will continue on this path destroying the cloth from which he was cut!!!
I wonder if she believes this to be gender specific. Because I kind of agree with her. But some Black women are equally guilty of disguising their self hatred at being Black. With their so-called disappointment in Black men.
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#7 Jan 24, 2012
I can relate to this title. Because i was saying this to someone last week. That you have some black men who stereotype their own women or why do some black men perpetuate the stereotype about black women.

And some of it was coming from some black men that are in interracial relationships.(And Ex of mine, my brother, and cousin). To sit there and listen to their issues about black women, and then make it about race, and compare a non black woman against a black woman. I could not believe what i was hearing.

I get that you are going to have issue in a relationship. Does not matter the woman's race. But when you turn it into white women are better than black women and this is why........

That's crazy!

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#8 Jan 24, 2012
Because black men don't love black women. African american black men that is.

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#9 Jan 24, 2012
MumRa wrote:
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I wonder if she believes this to be gender specific. Because I kind of agree with her. But some Black women are equally guilty of disguising their self hatred at being Black. With their so-called disappointment in Black men.
There are far more black men who sugar coat their hate for being black with black women than the other way around. And you know its true.

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#10 Jan 24, 2012
HelloWorld3 wrote:
<quoted text> There are far more black men who sugar coat their hate for being black with black women than the other way around. And you know its true.
Yea there are guys like that. I never would try to deny that. But there are also a lot of Black women that do the exact same thing.

The only difference I personally see between Black men and Black women. Is that Black women seem to be more organized, and made a movement. Out of their self hatred. Black men seem to be bitter lone wolves.
Cooldude17

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#11 Jan 24, 2012
Blah,blah,blah I personally dont judge bw like that but dang I have never been treated like a king except by Kimmy and were just friends. Bm arent treated like kings for the most part. Ms Syree and Married with children treat their men like kings. I refuse to stereotype bw but dxmn it isnt easy these young thangs arent ideal.

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#12 Jan 24, 2012
MumRa wrote:
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Yea there are guys like that. I never would try to deny that. But there are also a lot of Black women that do the exact same thing.
The only difference I personally see between Black men and Black women. Is that Black women seem to be more organized, and made a movement. Out of their self hatred. Black men seem to be bitter lone wolves.
What movement ? And don't talk about that feminist bs that isn't an excuse. I'm tired of hearing about that shit.
Carol

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#13 Jan 24, 2012
HelloWorld3 wrote:
Because black men don't love black women. African american black men that is.
It's clear that you're jealous of black women. No wonder your viciousness towards me offline.

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#14 Jan 24, 2012
HelloWorld3 wrote:
Because black men don't love black women. African american black men that is.
Where is our loyalty to black men when you have openly said that BM carry more STD's than any other race of men. You went as far to statte that you wouldn't give a black man oral sex but you would do to non-black men.
You have also stated openly that you prefer non-black men ( which is your choice). So clearly this thread shouldn't bother you.

Why would black men like / love you we you hate them?

Give me one good reason, based on all the outrageous and unintelligible comments you have made on here.

Every that comes out of your mouth towards black men on this forum is NEGATIVE.
I have NEVER AND NEVER READ one POSITIVE COMMENT from you about BLACK MEN.

GTFOH.

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#15 Jan 24, 2012
imo many women in america dont respect manhood; worse amongst us....

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#16 Jan 24, 2012
"Why do so many black men repeat negative stereotypes about black women? SMH!"

New title,

Why do so many black women repeat negative stereotypes about black men? SMH!....

same old ish...
Carol

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#17 Jan 24, 2012
J-Architect wrote:
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Where is our loyalty to black men when you have openly said that BM carry more STD's than any other race of men. You went as far to statte that you wouldn't give a black man oral sex but you would do to non-black men.
You have also stated openly that you prefer non-black men ( which is your choice). So clearly this thread shouldn't bother you.
Why would black men like / love you we you hate them?
Give me one good reason, based on all the outrageous and unintelligible comments you have made on here.
Every that comes out of your mouth towards black men on this forum is NEGATIVE.
I have NEVER AND NEVER READ one POSITIVE COMMENT from you about BLACK MEN.
GTFOH.
Phoney clown know he's responding to a white woman.
Cooldude17

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#18 Jan 24, 2012
RoLuke wrote:
"Why do so many black men repeat negative stereotypes about black women? SMH!"
New title,
Why do so many black women repeat negative stereotypes about black men? SMH!....
same old ish...
You keep it real another female must judge these os they think they shxt dont stank!

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#19 Jan 24, 2012
HelloWorld3 wrote:
<quoted text> What movement ? And don't talk about that feminist bs that isn't an excuse. I'm tired of hearing about that shit.
You and me both. Doesn't mean that they don't exist.

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#20 Jan 24, 2012
As usual another BW who doesn't know how to listen. BM are trying to tell BW something, the way you are acting does not cut it. This is not something from television,media, or the internet. This is real live interaction with BW. And he wasn't talking about "all" BW, he was speaking in general terms. My exerience also is that WW are better wives, I wish it was different because BW can be wonderful wives in general. But just like relationships you have to work at it, and LISTEN to the other party. This guy that was speaking you was not listening to him you was only hearing him. That means it was going through one ear and out the other. You was not "processing" what he was saying. If BM didn't care about BW we would not even tell you what you are doing wrong. But we care enough to tell you that BW in general have attitude issues.

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#21 Jan 24, 2012
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imo many women in america dont respect manhood; worse amongst us....
What makes you think that ? And for black women , black women in general have never been taught to "respect" manhood because black women in general don't know what a real man is. And let's face it, its not like black men respect "manhood" themselves let alone uplift it. Most bm respect being downlow thugs and bw have been programmed to respect it too. I don't though. But ask yourself this, when have hard working, educated and respectful BROTHAAS been in the spot light in the black community ? Never. So why would someone expect a bw to respect those men when she was taught to respect the downlow thugs ? Educated, hard working SISTAHHS have been in the spotlight but guess who took them out ? Bw didn't take them out. Bm respected the women who wanted to be baby mamas, hoes, strippers, uneducated attitude having bitches. If you ever notice bm have a big influence on bw. First big butts, then being lightskin and now being mixed. If a bm says he likes natural bw imagine how many bw would be going natural . I'm not saying its all the bms fault but bm can't complain about the women they turned bw into.

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