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Sadbuttrue

Chantilly, VA

#1 Feb 28, 2013
Reader Sound Off: Ten Reasons Black Women Prefer White Men -
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Yesterday, Twitter was up in arms when a guy (@OfficiallyIce) wrote an article on In Flex, We Trust titled 10 Reasons Black Guys Prefer White Girls*. With a few people finding the article funny and others thinking that the article was crass, opinions were divided like sh*t.

In steps Trishy (@MeanGirlTrishy), who decided that it’s only fair to write a counter to Ice’s blog post. Prepare yourself, boys and girls. This one is going to be a doozy!
*Before reading Ice or Trishy’s blog posts, you HAVE to know that SOMEBODY in this world does love Black women!

I decided to write this blog after a blog link Cupid Shuffled it’s way across my timeline on Twitter. I immediately rolled my eyes after noticing the post was titled “Officially Ice’s 10 Reasons Black Guys Prefer White Girls”. This is a topic that’s discussed on Twitter damn near every day; why Black men feel White women are superior to…“other races”. After reading the blog, I decided to write a response. I thought to myself,“I wonder how Black men would react if the tables were turned?”, so here goes. Feelings will be hurt, feathers will be ruffled, fucks will not be given.

10. White men take care of their women. Not just emotionally, but financially, too. A lot of Black men come from broken homes and were raised by single mothers. They never saw a man helping their mother out financially, so they don’t see why they should help their woman out financially. To them, seeing a woman struggle is normal. They have that “my mother worked fifteen jobs to make ends meet, why can’t you?” mentality. White men on the other hand are more generous. Nine times out of ten, their woman doesn’t even have to ask for help, they just do it because that’s what real men do.

9. White men have family values. It’s not often that you’ll see White men with eleventeen “baby mamas” all over the place, unlike “other races”… oh, fuck it, unlike BLACK MEN. White men usually come from two parent homes. They grew up seeing their parents in loving marriages and with siblings that all have the same mother and father, and that’s what they one day hope to have.

8. White men know how to manage money. White men aren’t flashy. If you’re looking for a man with fantastic money management skills, get you a White man. White men believe in creating a nest egg or a cushion to fall back on. A White man will save, invest and grow his money. Most Black men don’t even have a savings account… but they got them J’s, though.

7. White men prefer that their woman stays home and will do anything to create a comfortable life for her. A White man will work hard to provide for his lady and his family so that they never want or need for anything. Black men aren’t having that. Again, you’re dealing with men who grew up seeing their mothers busting her ass to make ends meet. They never saw their mother as the “homemaker” or housewife… even if ever became a Wife, she probably didn’t have the luxury of not working and just taking care of home. With a White man, you have options. They love women that are ambitious and want to make her own money, so if she wants to work, she can… if not, that’s cool too. A White man can usually provide for himself and his woman, so her not wanting to work is never a problem. Also, White men are generous. They love to spoil their woman with anything her heart desires, unlike Black men who are usually asking their woman for money to get the latest sneakers.
Sadbuttrue

Chantilly, VA

#2 Feb 28, 2013
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6. White men know that there are ways to make a lot of money legally. You won’t catch a White man hugging the block or in the “trap”, unlike Black men who only aspire to become a rapper, ball player or drug dealer because those are the only occupations the men they admire have. White men go and get an education for themselves and eventually go on to pursue six figure careers. CAREERS. Not jobs, not hustles, CAREERS.

5. White men are very easy going and laid back. You won’t have to worry about getting smacked down to the ground because you two have a disagreement. You won’t be called out of your name or belittled for having a backbone.

4. White men are gentlemen. These days, Black men meet a woman and within a week, they’re trying to invite themselves over to her house (because they can’t have company at their mama’s house) and fuck. White men court the woman they desire. They will come to your door with flowers instead of texting you “come outside”, they will open the car door for you, take you out for a night on the town, bring you back home and will be satisfied with just that. They usually date to find their Wives and aren’t just trying to get a nut, so there’s no rush to get into your panties.

3. White men cater to their women. Waking up to breakfast in bed is nothing out of the ordinary. And while we’re on the subject of food, White men have no problem cooking for their woman. If she’s tired and says “Baby, can you please make dinner tonight?”, it’s not a problem. Men of “other races” are used to being babied, especially since most of them don’t leave the nest until they’re almost thirty. They don’t care if you had a long day, you better get in there and fry him the big piece of chicken.

2. White men live longer. They take care of themselves, eat right, exercise and GO TO THE DOCTOR regularly, so you won’t have to worry about your husband dying at the age of forty. Let’s talk about going to the doctor for a second, which is something that Black men don’t do often enough. Not only can you trust a White man to take his health seriously, you can trust him to take YOUR health seriously. By that, I mean that it isn’t as scary to sleep with White men as it is with Black men. Most Black men don’t know that they have an STD until they pass it on to their woman. Having unprotected sex with numerous women will not get a White man a gold star next to his name, like it would a Black man.

1. Your children will be half White, with lighter skin and a better grade of hair, which is what most Black men wish they had. Black men usually date outside of their race not because that is their preference, but because they hate the fact that they’re Black. Black men find mixed children (and people in general) to be more attractive. This is why they usually pursue women of other races, not knowing how genetics work and that even if they procreate with a woman of another race, their child can still be black as night with the kinkiest hair. In my opinion, it’s better to marry and procreate with a White man than it is to procreate with a Black man. Why? Well, I don’t have any children, but I can imagine how it feels to watch your son grow up loathing his dark skin, coarse hair, degrading Black women and resenting you, the Black woman who gave him life.

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MaceoTheDon

London, UK

#3 Feb 28, 2013
Sadbuttrue wrote:
Reader Sound Off: Ten Reasons Black Women
account…
Desperate = SBT
A Traitor = SBT
Culturally Insecure = as a result of Sadbutrues' Absent BLACK father
Sadbuttrue

Chantilly, VA

#5 Feb 28, 2013
MaceoTheSCoffer wrote:
<quoted text>
Desperate = SBT
A Traitor = SBT
Culturally Insecure = as a result of Sadbutrues' Absent BLACK father
http://youtu.be/u12_c7RRtCc

White women & black men

http://youtu.be/u12_c7RRtCc

You have White women complaining about Black men behaviors and how they live off White women and leave them with Biracial Babies!

Good Video and its true!

http://youtu.be/u12_c7RRtCc
MaceoTheDon

London, UK

#6 Feb 28, 2013
Sadbuttrue wrote:
<quoted text>
http://youtu.be/u12_c7RRtCc
White women & black men
http://youtu.be/u12_c7RRtCc
You have White women complaining about Black men behaviors and how they live off White women and leave them with Biracial Babies!
Good Video and its true!
http://youtu.be/u12_c7RRtCc
Aaaah about time video "evidence" smh
MaceoTheDon

London, UK

#7 Feb 28, 2013
Sadbuttrue wrote:
Continue:
children, but I can imagine how it feels to watch your son grow up loathing his dark skin, coarse hair, degrading Black women and resenting
Sadbutrue I understand your pain and past trauma i will send you my email address for 1:1 counselling but i truely believe your mental health problems stem from your BLACK FATHER, and in order for you to heal honey you need to let go and forgive your BLACK FATHER.

"Girls that grow up with fathers tend to do better in school, have higher self-esteem and become more independent than their fatherless counterparts. The less fortunate girls who grow up without a father figure in their lives often go into the adult world with a specific set of psychological wounds that can create some serious struggles in their lives.
Depression

When a father leaves a daughter or becomes absent in her life, her natural reaction is often to blame herself and become fixated on her shortcomings that she believes resulted in him leaving. This can cause the daughter to have low self-esteem, which then affects many aspects of her life. This could mean lower performance in school and a general sense that she is unworthy. This negative sense of self often results in depression that may come and go throughout her life.

Promiscuity

Girls who did not get to fully experience the love of a father figure as a child may find themselves desperately seeking to connect with males in their teenage years to try to heal the wound. During these years and into adulthood, they may hope that physical closeness and sex can replace and satisfy the sense of connection that they seek. When they are not appreciated or valued by the males they become involved with, it can reinforce the belief that they are not worthy."
Sadbuttrue

Chantilly, VA

#8 Feb 28, 2013
MaceoTheScoffer wrote:
<quoted text>
Sadbutrue I understand your pain and past trauma i will send you my email address for 1:1 counselling but i truely believe your mental health problems stem from your BLACK FATHER, and in order for you tity
MACEO

I'm sure it effects Black women but my Father was present at least until 14-15 years old as well as my Father was not a Black man!

You show "No Involvement from any male" from any of your response nor how you carry yourself!

You can't hide it because its YOU! You had no males interested in you or helped raise you and it shows!

You whine, your effeminate, act childish, insecure and immature!

The only traits is you blame women for not doing the Man's job! LMAo

Was your white wife desperate?
Sadbuttrue

Chantilly, VA

#9 Feb 28, 2013
MaceoTheDon wrote:
<quoted text>

Depression
When a father leaves a daughter or becomes absent in her life, her natural reaction is often to blame herself and become fixated on her shortcomings that she believes resulted in him leaving. This can cause the daughter to have low self-esteem, which then affects many aspects of her life. This could mean lower performance in school and a general sense that she is unworthy. This negative sense of self often results in depression that may come and go throughout her life.
Promiscuity
Girls who did not get to fully experience the love of a father figure as a child may find themselves desperately seeking to connect with males in their teenage years to try to heal the wound. During these years and into adulthood, they may hope that physical closeness and sex can replace and satisfy the sense of connection that they seek. When they are not appreciated or valued by the males they become involved with, it can reinforce the belief that they are not worthy."
MACEO

You haven't learned this by now? I don't need a man! Do you see me accepting everything and anything?

LMAO!
the unknown

Detroit, MI

#10 Feb 28, 2013
sadbuttrue must be a uncle tom
Sadbuttrue

Chantilly, VA

#11 Feb 28, 2013
the unknown wrote:
sadbuttrue must be a uncle tom
MACEO

Your a Tomsina! lMAO

Your effeminate! lMAO
Sadbuttrue

Chantilly, VA

#12 Feb 28, 2013
the unknown wrote:
sadbuttrue must be a uncle tom
maceo

MACEO

I'm sure it effects Black women but my Father was present at least until 14-15 years old as well as my Father was not a Black man!

You show "No Involvement from any male" from any of your response nor how you carry yourself!

You can't hide it because its YOU! You had no males interested in you or helped raise you and it shows!

You whine, your effeminate, act childish, insecure and immature!

The only traits is you blame women for not doing the Man's job! LMAo

Was your white wife desperate?
the unknown

Detroit, MI

#13 Feb 28, 2013
look here you uncle tom. my father is dead so don't you say anything about him.p.s im 21 so i don't even have a wife. i also love black women.
Mandy

Jamaica Plain, MA

#14 May 20, 2013
So so true black women in the U.S. need to wake up and face reality black men don't want us, plus everything that was posted above is the truth. White men are always nice to me. Black men call me names & hate on me. I don't need that! My advice go to Europe and get yourself a nice man. I did!
RNS843

Ruffin, SC

#15 May 20, 2013
WTF is this what the world comeing to who cares wat a person likes me myself is probaly the only black man in amercia that don't like white women and for someone to say we treat our women bad is some bull u got white men dat do the same shit but its cool because their white. Is u ain't shit u gonna get a ain't shit compaion black are white shit is shit no matter what color it is. Get ur shit together most women and men dun sexed everybody da knw and can and once dat happens who want u so its dike are another race
Deej

London, UK

#16 Jul 14, 2013
When I was growing up, I was made to feel like I had to stick with black men. I knew that my brothers would be mad at me if they saw me dating some white guy and I became very depressed because all I wanted was a nice white man that spoke well and dressed smart. Last summer I whent on vacation to LA. I had my first experience with a white guy, he was dressed all gangster and walked with a bop, but some-how he fealt more real than any-one else. We had fun and he fucked me on the first date but didn't make me feel like a whore because it was chemistry nor pressure. The next day he asked if I wanted to come to the beach with his friends, all his friends where white, the girls where nice enough to me but in a fake way. There was this guy there who started talking to me straight away, he was older than the others because he was a big brother to one of the friends. Every time he came near me I started to shake inside with excitement. No black guys ever have this effect on me. We got together that night (which was probibly a mistake) but it fealt so amazing. I'm still in contact with him on email but he has a whole life in California including a son that he had when he was really young. I want to go back and see him again. One thing I know for sure from all this, I personally preffer white men. I look at black men as brothers not lovers x

“Out of the US back in France”

Level 5

Since: May 13

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#17 Jul 15, 2013
I won't say ALL white men, but I definitely prefer MY white man. He is perfectly tailor made for me... :)
Lily

Saint Paul, MN

#18 Jul 15, 2013
Deej wrote:
When I was growing up, I was made to feel like I had to stick with black men. I knew that my brothers would be mad at me if they saw me dating some white guy and I became very depressed because all I wanted was a nice white man that spoke well and dressed smart. Last summer I whent on vacation to LA. I had my first experience with a white guy, he was dressed all gangster and walked with a bop, but some-how he fealt more real than any-one else. We had fun and he fucked me on the first date but didn't make me feel like a whore because it was chemistry nor pressure. The next day he asked if I wanted to come to the beach with his friends, all his friends where white, the girls where nice enough to me but in a fake way. There was this guy there who started talking to me straight away, he was older than the others because he was a big brother to one of the friends. Every time he came near me I started to shake inside with excitement. No black guys ever have this effect on me. We got together that night (which was probibly a mistake) but it fealt so amazing. I'm still in contact with him on email but he has a whole life in California including a son that he had when he was really young. I want to go back and see him again. One thing I know for sure from all this, I personally preffer white men. I look at black men as brothers not lovers x
Good for you. Most black man prefer any race than their own. They only want a black woman to cool his sexual urge and make baby the need to support him. Most black men love to demean their women by calling them all kind of names. Good for you to enjoy what you really want to do. As you know, most of these black men are either in jail or gay.
hahaha

Houston, TX

#19 Jul 19, 2013
this is a mental illness that lost blackwomen carry around. Black women in America are control freaks and want to wear the pants and because smart cultured educated and real strong blackmen arent having that they bounce around from man to man til they find a weak sucka trick to take care of them..Women of other cultures love and admire blackmen because they understand blackmen struggles..Its sad that sellout blackwomen try to hide from reality

“me! chee hoo! LOL!”

Level 6

Since: Oct 09

Apia, Samoa

#20 Jul 19, 2013
U forgot.. The real reasoan.. So ur kids dont have to put up.. With all the negative sterotypes.. U.. As a bw went through. So being half with is alright
Back Seat Driver

London, South Africa

#21 Aug 14, 2013
I dnt knw what goes on in the USA but the mentality and movies coming from there are affecting our girls. In all honesty my black unproud sisters, very few of these "superior white people" will ever love you and will infact see you as a sex tool...its the "jungle fetish" baby. Ive seen many black girls going for white guys and belittling theire own race..hell my cousin dated a white guy and boasted about it. That is until he got tired of the experiment and went and found himself a nice white girl to get engaged to.., honestly I thought it was funny. But we have to face it, many white people will never tolerate us. My sister has a white man and they have a baby together and he abuses her emotionally, she basically supports the kid, looks after the kid. I remember sleeping over at theire house the 1 day and when he woke up and my sister had gone to the shops she came back and he was going all crazy that he wont tolerate this shit and he shouldnt be waking up to it..that is infact changing the baby's nappy. I wanted to kick the shit out of him but I love her too much to be ruining things that way. I advised her though. LOOK FOR A MAN WHO LOVES YOU not colour.

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