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“dreams”

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#1 Jun 19, 2013
Diahann Caroll...

Saw her when I was younger on the hit series "Dallas" and just fell in love with her style and grace (although she was a bytch on the show- lol).

In a recent interview, she spoke of her life and what she's learned. This is a lady whose lived so many lifetimes in one life. Racial incidents which had direct impacts on her life, choosing the wrong man over and over again, fear of loneliness, temporary abandonment and the resentments she had until a friend told her to let it go. Just her all around approach to life is to be admired.

In her story, she shared her heartbreaks but what I really loved is that she ended her story by saying forgiveness is freeing.

Feel free to post your thoughts on forgiveness and what it means to you. If you are in the process of forgiving, please share.
ASC

Castle Rock, CO

#2 Jun 19, 2013
She's absolutely right. Forgiveness is freeing. I am firm believer in forgiving those who have harmed me, not for them but for myself more. If I hold on to all the anger or hate towards that individual, then it will consume my every being so it's best to let go. Forgive but don't forget. Forgiveness really does give you peace and happiness. Forgiveness is key to my happiness for me. It cleanses my mind and soul whenever I am able to forgive someone.
ASC

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#3 Jun 19, 2013
Great thread by the way OP.

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#4 Jun 19, 2013
berriesgalore wrote:
Diahann Caroll...
Saw her when I was younger on the hit series "Dallas" and just fell in love with her style and grace (although she was a bytch on the show- lol).
In a recent interview, she spoke of her life and what she's learned. This is a lady whose lived so many lifetimes in one life. Racial incidents which had direct impacts on her life, choosing the wrong man over and over again, fear of loneliness, temporary abandonment and the resentments she had until a friend told her to let it go. Just her all around approach to life is to be admired.
In her story, she shared her heartbreaks but what I really loved is that she ended her story by saying forgiveness is freeing.
Feel free to post your thoughts on forgiveness and what it means to you. If you are in the process of forgiving, please share.
This could be a thought provoking thread. I hope it works.
Nimrod

Jacksonville, FL

#6 Jun 19, 2013
Forgiving others is the right thing to do, I'll admit.
But understand that it's not easy, at all, to forgive.
To this day, I still hold grudges against many people.
ASC

Castle Rock, CO

#7 Jun 19, 2013
Nimrod wrote:
Forgiving others is the right thing to do, I'll admit.
But understand that it's not easy, at all, to forgive.
To this day, I still hold grudges against many people.
I remember you once saying that. I really hope someday you learn to forgive and understand why you are forgiving those who harmed you. Since you are holding grudges against many of those people, I'm curious...do you feel that your life is truly whole like you're truly happy? Do you think that sometimes you get angry inside to the point of turning red but can't pinpoint the reason?
Nimrod

Jacksonville, FL

#8 Jun 19, 2013
Forgiveness, to me, is letting go of something someone may have did to you.
Forgiving others would be the right thing to do, because holding a grudge only hurts you.

“dreams”

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#9 Jun 19, 2013
berriesgalore wrote:
Diahann Caroll...
Saw her when I was younger on the hit series "Dallas" and just fell in love with her style and grace (although she was a bytch on the show- lol).
In a recent interview, she spoke of her life and what she's learned. This is a lady whose lived so many lifetimes in one life. Racial incidents which had direct impacts on her life, choosing the wrong man over and over again, fear of loneliness, temporary abandonment and the resentments she had until a friend told her to let it go. Just her all around approach to life is to be admired.
In her story, she shared her heartbreaks but what I really loved is that she ended her story by saying forgiveness is freeing.
Feel free to post your thoughts on forgiveness and what it means to you. If you are in the process of forgiving, please share.
Well now I must ask for forgiveness..lol.

The show is actually "Dynasty." I've always called the show Dallas because of the cowboy hats and the city it was in..lol..Please forgive me!!

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#10 Jun 19, 2013
Savant wrote:
<quoted text>This could be a thought provoking thread. I hope it works.
Thank you.

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#11 Jun 19, 2013
ASC wrote:
Great thread by the way OP.
Thank you.
ASC

Castle Rock, CO

#12 Jun 19, 2013
berriesgalore,

You are forgiven lol.

“dreams”

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#13 Jun 19, 2013
ASC wrote:
She's absolutely right. Forgiveness is freeing. I am firm believer in forgiving those who have harmed me, not for them but for myself more. If I hold on to all the anger or hate towards that individual, then it will consume my every being so it's best to let go. Forgive but don't forget. Forgiveness really does give you peace and happiness. Forgiveness is key to my happiness for me. It cleanses my mind and soul whenever I am able to forgive someone.
Thank you for sharing. How long did it take it to get to the point where you could simply forgive?

The betrayal is so difficult to climb over but I do believe we all want to be free of the burdens of it.

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#14 Jun 19, 2013
Nimrod wrote:
Forgiveness, to me, is letting go of something someone may have did to you.
Forgiving others would be the right thing to do, because holding a grudge only hurts you.
I hope this helps.... Oprah has said that forgiveness is letting go of the belief that the past could have been any different. Repeat this to yourself in the morning, once throughout the day and at night for a week.

It's a great re-centering tool.
Jule

Bristol, UK

#15 Jun 19, 2013
pangh wrote:
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ASC

Castle Rock, CO

#16 Jun 19, 2013
berriesgalore wrote:
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Thank you for sharing. How long did it take it to get to the point where you could simply forgive?
The betrayal is so difficult to climb over but I do believe we all want to be free of the burdens of it.
You're very welcome. Oh it ultimately took at least a good 3 years for me to forgive those who have done me harm. For some people it takes their whole lives until they are on their death beds. I didn't want to become one of those people. Many on this forum need to learn how to forgive so that they can move on from the past and learn to care more about their futures because it's a dwindling one for anyone who can't learn the greatness of forgiveness. Do you have anyone to forgive that you haven't yet?
Rebellious Nimrod

Jacksonville, FL

#17 Jun 19, 2013
ASC wrote:
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I remember you once saying that. I really hope someday you learn to forgive and understand why you are forgiving those who harmed you. Since you are holding grudges against many of those people, I'm curious...do you feel that your life is truly whole like you're truly happy? Do you think that sometimes you get angry inside to the point of turning red but can't pinpoint the reason?
"I remember you once saying that. I really hope someday you learn to forgive and understand why you are forgiving those who harmed you. Since you are holding grudges against many of those people, I'm curious...do you feel that your life is truly whole like you're truly happy?"

No, not at all, to be honest...

"Do you think that sometimes you get angry inside to the point of turning red but can't pinpoint the reason?"

The answer to this question is no.
ASC

Castle Rock, CO

#19 Jun 19, 2013
Rebellious Nimrod wrote:
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"I remember you once saying that. I really hope someday you learn to forgive and understand why you are forgiving those who harmed you. Since you are holding grudges against many of those people, I'm curious...do you feel that your life is truly whole like you're truly happy?"
No, not at all, to be honest...
"Do you think that sometimes you get angry inside to the point of turning red but can't pinpoint the reason?"
The answer to this question is no.
Well that's good the answer is no to the second question. To the first one though, that's sad to hear. What do you think is keeping you from being more happy at this point?
Rebellious Nimrod

Jacksonville, FL

#20 Jun 19, 2013
berriesgalore wrote:
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I hope this helps.... Oprah has said that forgiveness is letting go of the belief that the past could have been any different. Repeat this to yourself in the morning, once throughout the day and at night for a week.
It's a great re-centering tool.
Thanks, berriesgalore.... but why only repeat this message for a week?
Rebellious Nimrod

Jacksonville, FL

#21 Jun 19, 2013
ASC wrote:
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Well that's good the answer is no to the second question. To the first one though, that's sad to hear. What do you think is keeping you from being more happy at this point?
Because, well, everyday I have to live with the fact that my race (that I love and care about, dearly) is slowly dying out. I have to witness members of own my race tear each other down, seek validation from other races, place other races on the pedestal over their own, etc. I have to live with the fact that all the problems plaguing my race will most likely worsen. And believe me, all of this keeps me very, very angry, and not to mention, depressed. You'd actually be one of the few people that I've told all of this to.

“dreams”

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#22 Jun 19, 2013
ASC wrote:
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You're very welcome. Oh it ultimately took at least a good 3 years for me to forgive those who have done me harm. For some people it takes their whole lives until they are on their death beds. I didn't want to become one of those people. Many on this forum need to learn how to forgive so that they can move on from the past and learn to care more about their futures because it's a dwindling one for anyone who can't learn the greatness of forgiveness. Do you have anyone to forgive that you haven't yet?
I'm in the process of forgiveness. This person has been very instrumental in my life.

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