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Why are there so many single mothers on dating websites

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ONO
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#1 Sep 6, 2013
As a single bm, trying to hold a telephone conversation with a single mother is impossible. Between every other word, the kids are yelling and the woman is yelling back at the kids.

That's too much drama and who wants to get involved with that?
candayamz

Wichita, KS

#3 Sep 6, 2013
there are alot of single black fathers on their too they just ain't taking care of their kids like they should

“What do the stars say......”

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#4 Sep 6, 2013
I find it funny how men expect women to accept them being single fathers, but men are hard to accept single mothers.

If you don't have any children, then don't date anyone who has them. Plain and simple. Let those who have children and are single seek each other out.
reminiscent

UK

#5 Sep 6, 2013
For Just Cause wrote:
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Steer clear of single black mothers as they are not worth it, just find a decent clean pretty woman of any other race & you'll be well rewarded with happiness.
Why does he have to find a "decent clean pretty woman of any other race" you racist!

You say to him stay clear of "clear of single black mothers" but then encourage him to date single women of any other race, not even date a single, child free black woman? Incredible levels of hatred displayed right here through you.

Absolute disgrace you are, smh

ONO
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#6 Sep 6, 2013
reminiscent wrote:
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Why does he have to find a "decent clean pretty woman of any other race" you racist!
You say to him stay clear of "clear of single black mothers" but then encourage him to date single women of any other race, not even date a single, child free black woman? Incredible levels of hatred displayed right here through you.
Absolute disgrace you are, smh
Good response.
reminiscent

UK

#7 Sep 7, 2013
ONO wrote:
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Good response.
Thankyou. The thing is you didn't even bring race into it, you made no mention of the women in question colour!

As for me I don't date men with kids. A mans kids should be his first priority, and I think a woman with kids or a woman who can't have kids would be a better match for him than me.

ONO
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#8 Sep 7, 2013
reminiscent wrote:
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Thankyou. The thing is you didn't even bring race into it, you made no mention of the women in question colour!
As for me I don't date men with kids. A mans kids should be his first priority, and I think a woman with kids or a woman who can't have kids would be a better match for him than me.
No, I deliberately omitted any reference to any particular women.

Times have changed. It used to be if two people had a baby, they got married and made the baby their top priority.

One baby and that was it.
reminiscent

UK

#9 Sep 7, 2013
ONO wrote:
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No, I deliberately omitted any reference to any particular women.
Times have changed. It used to be if two people had a baby, they got married and made the baby their top priority.
One baby and that was it.
I agree with this. But like you said times have changed, and a lot of people nowadays through caution to the wind. For most women and men as soon as they feel a flutter down below they are in the sack and then an "accident" occurs, the accident being the baby. Next, reality sits in when the baby comes and they often realise they didn't get to know the person BEFORE and the lazy solution is to just break up.

What is shocking is that a large number of these women continue to play this game and end up with 3+ kids and often multiple fathers of the kids. I target the women because often their the ones left holding the baby whilst the father leaves and makes a new life for himself. Fortunately a lot more men are playing an active role in their childs life whether they are with the mother or not.

Women who were married and have kids but are now divorced are exempt from my opinion above.

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#10 Sep 7, 2013
reminiscent wrote:
<quoted text>...Women who were married and have kids but are now divorced are exempt from my opinion above.
Yes, but they can have their own issues as well. I've dated a couple of them now.

Not impressed with the relationship skills I saw on display. Found myself thinking "No wonder you are divorced!"

Of course, they could say the same about me since I am divorced. Here is the difference though: I didn't break up a family when my spouse and I decided to part ways. I honestly think a broken family is a catastrophe.
reminiscent

UK

#11 Sep 7, 2013
Harrisson wrote:
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Yes, but they can have their own issues as well. I've dated a couple of them now.
Not impressed with the relationship skills I saw on display. Found myself thinking "No wonder you are divorced!"
Of course, they could say the same about me since I am divorced. Here is the difference though: I didn't break up a family when my spouse and I decided to part ways. I honestly think a broken family is a catastrophe.
Lol Harisson I don't doubt that for a second. When I referred to the married women I was just saying that its not their fault that when they were married they had 3+ kids, for she was a married woman, but now divorced. I hope that's understood.

As for their issues, I can believe that because people often getting twisted that age means maturity. This couldn't be further from the truth, I see and know plenty women who are 40+ and have the emotional intelligence of a teen in heat. The same I say for men too. Age has no relevance to whether someone is a woman, a man or a child when it comes to emotional maturity and intelligence

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#12 Sep 7, 2013
reminiscent wrote:
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Lol Harisson I don't doubt that for a second. When I referred to the married women I was just saying that its not their fault that when they were married they had 3+ kids, for she was a married woman, but now divorced. I hope that's understood.

As for their issues, I can believe that because people often getting twisted that age means maturity. This couldn't be further from the truth, I see and know plenty women who are 40+ and have the emotional intelligence of a teen in heat. The same I say for men too. Age has no relevance to whether someone is a woman, a man or a child when it comes to emotional maturity and intelligence
Understood!

You're very perceptive to notice that there is often a disconnect between age and maturity. When I encounter a single Mom who can't give an honest self-critical assessment of her role in creating a failed marriage, to me that's a silent "Red Flag." It signals the possibility of low EQ... or narcissism... or maybe someone who's just simple.

In rare cases, it might really, truly be entirely (or 95%) the man's fault that the marriage failed. But I think those situations are rare.

I will give you an example of what I suspect is a woman with acute lack of self-awareness. An ex-gf who was extremely obese complained to me that her ex-husband had a raging porn addiction during their marriage. I gently tried to inquire if this had emerged after she had put on more weight... and her response was something to the effect that no, she didn't think that mattered because he had always been "really into" big women.

That strikes me as poor emotional intelligence to not "get" that a major change (for the worse) in one's physical appearance and health can impact a partner's psychology and sexual mood... even as they are having sex with you and saying "I love you."

“Israel uses Jim Crow Terrorism”

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#13 Sep 7, 2013
well, when 10 black have a bunch of kids by one guy what do expect?

“Israel uses Jim Crow Terrorism”

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#14 Sep 7, 2013
Carmiana wrote:
I find it funny how men expect women to accept them being single fathers, but men are hard to accept single mothers.

If you don't have any children, then don't date anyone who has them. Plain and simple. Let those who have children and are single seek each other out.
no worst than what happens to short black men...
Big Smoke

Newville, PA

#15 Sep 7, 2013
If you're a single male it is best to avoid single mother's at all costs. They simply have way too many miles on their odometers plus they come with tons of baggage. Not to mention that their vaginas are stretched to their maximum limits already. Just pass on them.
reminiscent

UK

#16 Sep 7, 2013
Harrisson wrote:
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Understood!
You're very perceptive to notice that there is often a disconnect between age and maturity. When I encounter a single Mom who can't give an honest self-critical assessment of her role in creating a failed marriage, to me that's a silent "Red Flag." It signals the possibility of low EQ... or narcissism... or maybe someone who's just simple.
In rare cases, it might really, truly be entirely (or 95%) the man's fault that the marriage failed. But I think those situations are rare.
I will give you an example of what I suspect is a woman with acute lack of self-awareness. An ex-gf who was extremely obese complained to me that her ex-husband had a raging porn addiction during their marriage. I gently tried to inquire if this had emerged after she had put on more weight... and her response was something to the effect that no, she didn't think that mattered because he had always been "really into" big women.
That strikes me as poor emotional intelligence to not "get" that a major change (for the worse) in one's physical appearance and health can impact a partner's psychology and sexual mood... even as they are having sex with you and saying "I love you."
We live in a workd of vitim mentality, people don't often hold up ther hands to when they have been or what they had done wrong in a situation.
This is why change is so hard amongst people because accountability and maturity of the mind and self is just not there.

Its like when women say "I want a man who wants me for me" the question I ask them is this "who are you, do you want you for you? Are you comfortable with you?"

It often draws a bleak response, because they don't even know themselves, so if they don't know or or are comfortable with themselves let alone allow themselves to be seen in all entirety, howw can you ask that of a man.

Simpleness is rampant nowadays lol its about ticking boxes and that's it.

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#17 Sep 7, 2013
Big Smoke wrote:
If you're a single male it is best to avoid single mother's at all costs. They simply have way too many miles on their odometers plus they come with tons of baggage. Not to mention that their vaginas are stretched to their maximum limits already. Just pass on them.
LOL! I've had this experience too, Big Smoke.

That doesn't mean they're ALL undesirable mates. It's just that the ones I chose turned out to not be a good option - although their vaginas worked just fine and I was satisfied in that department.

My new gf is childless, sweet, a great lover and the intensity of our feelings for one another is marvelous.

ONO
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#18 Sep 7, 2013
reminiscent wrote:
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I agree with this. But like you said times have changed, and a lot of people nowadays through caution to the wind. For most women and men as soon as they feel a flutter down below they are in the sack and then an "accident" occurs, the accident being the baby. Next, reality sits in when the baby comes and they often realise they didn't get to know the person BEFORE and the lazy solution is to just break up.
What is shocking is that a large number of these women continue to play this game and end up with 3+ kids and often multiple fathers of the kids. I target the women because often their the ones left holding the baby whilst the father leaves and makes a new life for himself. Fortunately a lot more men are playing an active role in their childs life whether they are with the mother or not.
Women who were married and have kids but are now divorced are exempt from my opinion above.
Monarch Beta Level Mind Control....strips morality from a target or targets and the target reverts back to basic animalistic behavior. Increased sexual immorality = increased unwanted pregnancies.

Google it.

Both, men and women are targets.
reminiscent

UK

#19 Sep 7, 2013
ONO wrote:
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Monarch Beta Level Mind Control....strips morality from a target or targets and the target reverts back to basic animalistic behavior. Increased sexual immorality = increased unwanted pregnancies.
Google it.
Both, men and women are targets.
WOW never knew this. That is amazing. Thank you for this

ONO
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#21 Sep 7, 2013
reminiscent wrote:
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WOW never knew this. That is amazing. Thank you for this
Subliminal messages....most people think they have a strong mind and feel as though they can not be programmed or influenced by psych-ops. Subliminal messages never knock at the minds door and ask permission to enter, it kicks the door in without the individual's knowledge.

Monarch Mind Control...Alpha, Beta, Delta, Gamma, etc. are used by the media to shape perceptions and influence the target.

ONO
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#22 Sep 7, 2013
Imagine how easy it is to program a target to act immorally, act violently, lose respect for life.

Psychosexual
Psychosocial
Psychochemical
Psychobiological

Most people think they have choice and don't know they are programmed.

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