Black men its time to take accountablity

[NYNY]

black gem wrote:

<quoted text> black men are affraid to step up to the plate and be a man, this is why i prefer white men.

based on your picture I am surprised many white guys would step to you.

[Soothsayer]

daking wrote:

<quoted text>
As I posted before, I do what I need to do, so I ain't pathetic. My daughter, who I live with, is well cared for. My only child. My wife is loved, and well cared for. My only woman. So black women need to check themselves, becasue me, a black man is handling his. And a majority of us are, i cant be blamed for the next mans shortfalls and that is what you pathetic, bitter women are doing. blamming the good men for bad man sh!t, that is pathetic. Not accepting that peopel make bad decisions, and black men aren't the only race of men that are absent fathers. It is called individual accoutablility.

All I see is something about me, me, me. Are you so mad that bad Black men are making you, a so called good Black man, look bad? If thats the case, THEN DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!! When we tell you to do something about it you cower and say "thats not my responsibility to correct other men I see doing bad". Well if it ain't then be prepared to keep hearing the same sh1t over and over again. Guess what...I'm not one of those brothers either! But I been getting cast in the same boat as them my whole life. And I used to be like you clowns in here, talking about the woman and what they need to do until I realized it ain't the women who out here making us look bad. Its us! And it ain't just a few Black men cause no matter where I go, whether I'm in the hood or when I was in the university or if I was in the work place I saw the same type of pathetic dudes doing the same foul sh1t everywhere. They was just dressed different. So don't give me that its just a few crap. It ain't just a few, its the majority because the majority of them have never been corrected.

Like I said I wish I had been born in a different generation so I didn't have to associate with you clowns or have to bear the effects of your cowardice. Look to God and become a man.

[daking]

black gem wrote:

<quoted text> black men are affraid to step up to the plate and be a man, this is why i prefer white men.

And black women make acusations like that, that is why i prefer my white wife

[Flycity]

Kennyinbmore wrote:

<quoted text>
With all due respect, not everyone believes in God

Kenny, I respect that you do not believe in
God but try to respect your fellow human being.

Thank you!

[Captn]

Another bright woman.

http://www.youtube.com/watch...

[daking]

Soothsayer wrote:

<quoted text>
All I see is something about me, me, me. Are you so mad that bad Black men are making you, a so called good Black man, look bad? If thats the case, THEN DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!! When we tell you to do something about it you cower and say "thats not my responsibility to correct other men I see doing bad". Well if it ain't then be prepared to keep hearing the same sh1t over and over again. Guess what...I'm not one of those brothers either! But I been getting cast in the same boat as them my whole life. And I used to be like you clowns in here, talking about the woman and what they need to do until I realized it ain't the women who out here making us look bad. Its us! And it ain't just a few Black men cause no matter where I go, whether I'm in the hood or when I was in the university or if I was in the work place I saw the same type of pathetic dudes doing the same foul sh1t everywhere. They was just dressed different. So don't give me that its just a few crap. It ain't just a few, its the majority because the majority of them have never been corrected.
Like I said I wish I had been born in a different generation so I didn't have to associate with you clowns or have to bear the effects of your cowardice. Look to God and become a man.

Youre right, It isn't my responsibility, and it isn't your responsibility. If we take care of our own home then everything will fall into place. U ever play sports. Take care of the little things and the little things will take care of themselves. That is why like I said. It ain't my responsibility. Ido what i naeed to and my family is fine. If you want to complain about what the other men are doing you do that. It is about me me me me, I am not my brothers keeper. but you r so keep fighting sister

[Flycity]

Captn wrote:

A good video about wanting it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch...

Rooooarrrrrrrrrrr! Now that's what I'm talking about!!!!!

My kind of man!

[black gem]

Captn wrote:

Another bright woman.
http://www.youtube.com/watch...

save your vidios my brother, i watch the national news and the world news, you have been brainwashed

[Flycity]

NYNY wrote:

<quoted text>based on your picture I am surprised many white guys would step to you.

NYNY you are mean, LOL!

[Captn]

black gem wrote:

<quoted text> save your vidios my brother, i watch the national news and the world news, you have been brainwashed

and your not a black woman.

brother.

[TYRANT]

black gem wrote:

<quoted text> save your vidios my brother, i watch the national news and the world news, you have been brainwashed

From what I've read so far I would have to say that you're the one who's been brainwashed.

[WOW i live here]

daking wrote:

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Thank you. That was all I wanted. Someone to acknowledge that there are black men out there doing the right thing. And I would say a majority of black men are out there doing the right thing. Just check the enrollment numbers for college. We are trying and it would be helpful to have support instead of climbing a mountain with people throwing boulders down at you. Thank you. I 100% cosign

no problem! i know pleanty of brothas who work hard every day

[NYNY]

Flycity wrote:

<quoted text>
NYNY you are mean, LOL!

hey fly how are you? I am being honest most white guys don't have the ummm ok nerve to step to a beautiful black girl. Of course there are many that would myself included but most WM stick to their own which makes things much more abundant for a man like myself that goes for anything but white. Maybe in England its different but here in NYC the white suits are too conservative and stuffy to step over to the dark side. LOL

[Flycity]

Captn wrote:

Another bright woman.
http://www.youtube.com/watch...

ABSOLUTE TRUTH!

Thank you Captn!

[Soothsayer]

daking wrote:

<quoted text>
Youre right, It isn't my responsibility, and it isn't your responsibility. If we take care of our own home then everything will fall into place. U ever play sports. Take care of the little things and the little things will take care of themselves. That is why like I said. It ain't my responsibility. Ido what i naeed to and my family is fine. If you want to complain about what the other men are doing you do that. It is about me me me me, I am not my brothers keeper. but you r so keep fighting sister

Then don't complain being lumped in with them coward. If you're going to sit back on your hands and let them destroy the community then you're no better than them. At that point you may as well be one of them cause you definitely aren't helping to stop them.

[Chill out again]

Flycity wrote:

At Chill out again.

A wise man once said when you can sit and take the heat for your actions without trying to shift or share blame, then and only then are you ready for a transformation.

Thank you.

Sorry for the late response, but you miss MY point. I am not going to take the heat for SOMEONE ELSE'S action. When it comes to treatment of black women, I don't share the "blame" with anyone. I have always respected black women and demanded that friends and others I know do the same. When I found out a friend was physiclaly abusing the woman he was living with (and had a child with), rather than be scared to confront, him I did. But I am not going to be the watchdog for the entire black race nor share the blame for everything that another black person does, and neither should you. I stand by what I said: If each of us exercises personal responsiblity, there would be no need for threads like this in the first place. The answer, and ONLY answer, is personal responsibility. We all know right from wrong. Especially those old enough to date and have a family with a man or a woman. Thank you

[daking]

Soothsayer wrote:

<quoted text>
Then don't complain being lumped in with them coward. If you're going to sit back on your hands and let them destroy the community then you're no better than them. At that point you may as well be one of them cause you definitely aren't helping to stop them.

Go forth my cowardly brother and destroy the balck community. Rain chaos on the black community leave women pregnant and your seeds with no father. Then kill people and sell drugs so you can live in the penthouse at levensworth. Anything else I can do to help destroy the black community

[Chill out again]

NoName wrote:

http://www.realmencook.com/
Just one group of positive brothas changing the negative image of BM. More positive Brothas should join a group(s) of their choice.

I work for a state agency and we interact with them all the time. In fact, we recently participated in their annual "Real Men Cook" event. It was GREAT.

[Chill out again]

WOW i live here wrote:

I am glad someone started this thread. I do think its time for black men to step up their game as far as having a job and taking care of your family. A lot of the men on the streets are out there to “make money” what the fail to realize is they are just adding to the drama in our communities. If they aren’t on the streets trying to make a dolla then they are trying to get it from a female. I am young and am realizing that I want more out of a man than what I have been accepting. I have been single because I refuse to accept this b.s out here. I grew up with no father, my mother raised me and my sister by herself and was NEVER on welfare so I have to give props to all of the hard working black women out there, this sh*t aint easy for them. I am 27 with no kids, and I don’t plan on having any until I find a good man who will be there for me and my family.
On the other hand I know a lot of brothers who are hard working caring men who are trying to do something different with their lives. I mean, it’s getting better for sure but we still have a long way to go as a people, we will get there for sure. We are very strong minded people and together we will make this a better place to live. Life is too short to dwell on the past we need to get over it, but never forget it. We need to stop passing down our weaknesses to our children and let them all know they will be somebody in this world no matter what color they are. I just think we all need more confidence in our race. Let’s look at Obama and try to learn something from this historical experience. When I saw all those people, of all colors downtown to hear him speak, I was speechless, it was amazing, and we are amazing.

Great post! I love the part where YOU made the decision to withhold from having children or getting involved with men that can do you no good. Congratulations. Personal responsibility in action! That is the key. Again, great post.

[TYRANT]

Chill out again wrote:

<quoted text>
Sorry for the late response, but you miss MY point. I am not going to take the heat for SOMEONE ELSE'S action. When it comes to treatment of black women, I don't share the "blame" with anyone. I have always respected black women and demanded that friends and others I know do the same. When I found out a friend was physiclaly abusing the woman he was living with (and had a child with), rather than be scared to confront, him I did. But I am not going to be the watchdog for the entire black race nor share the blame for everything that another black person does, and neither should you. I stand by what I said: If each of us exercises personal responsiblity, there would be no need for threads like this in the first place. The answer, and ONLY answer, is personal responsibility. We all know right from wrong. Especially those old enough to date and have a family with a man or a woman. Thank you

TYRANT cosigns.