The Problem With Marriage is Black P...

The Problem With Marriage is Black People

There are 14 comments on the www.womanist-musings.com story from Jul 21, 2009, titled The Problem With Marriage is Black People. In it, www.womanist-musings.com reports that:

The media is forever speaking about the break down of the Black family. It came as no surprise when I came across yet another article attempting to save this archaic patriarchal institution.

But black women are told that the problem is that as a community, our issues with marriage are race based and not founded in gender. The anti-racist movement has staunchly privileged the concerns of Black men while Black women have been sent off to make coffee and bake cookies. Any reading of the Civil Rights movement will privilege the sacrifices of Black men, while ignoring the contributions of Black women. We have continually defended Black men when they have been assaulted by racism, only to be subjected to sexism rather than a legitimate defence of our person.

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“Just my opinions......”

Since: Aug 08

Houston, Texas

#1 Jul 22, 2009
Marry a Nigerian...

“Just my opinions......”

Since: Aug 08

Houston, Texas

#2 Jul 22, 2009
Or a fat Black American Man...

“Happily Married To The Best”

Level 1

Since: Sep 07

Sacramento, Ca

#3 Jul 22, 2009
My parents are both black and have been happily married for 40 years.

Race has nothing to do with how long a marriage lasts.

“Be You”

Level 1

Since: Apr 08

Wash, Pa

#5 Jul 22, 2009
Unhappy marriages have to do with unhappy people. Before you get married you have to look at the trend of behavior on both sides. Its no wonder the article is slanted in the way it is presented, it is writen by a woman for women. So one sides complaints and problems get over reported while the other side is under reported. The author is right about one thing, it has little to nothing to do with race, and more to do with sex(gender).
Hello SAD, I am sure you will be on this board within the next 24 hrs.
well

Chestnut Hill, MA

#6 Jul 23, 2009
this is a issue in the AA community, if you want a good black marriage try non-AA black men for a start.

“Be You”

Level 1

Since: Apr 08

Wash, Pa

#7 Jul 23, 2009
well wrote:
this is a issue in the AA community, if you want a good black marriage try non-AA black men for a start.
Knew that wouldnt take long, troll

“I think ur all crazy!!!!!!!”

Level 1

Since: May 09

Location hidden

#8 Jul 23, 2009
daking wrote:
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Knew that wouldnt take long, troll
it never takes long, but they'll promote it before dating african men or hispanic men, or being gay...lol

“Be You”

Level 1

Since: Apr 08

Wash, Pa

#9 Jul 26, 2009
shutup if you can help it wrote:
<quoted text>
it never takes long, but they'll promote it before dating african men or hispanic men, or being gay...lol
yep, its a shame.

“This was so much FUN!”

Since: Sep 08

Thomasville, GA

#10 Jul 26, 2009
Tina916 wrote:
My parents are both black and have been happily married for 40 years.
Race has nothing to do with how long a marriage lasts.
i know right? Mine are still married and they are both black. LOL. So what are they talking about

Since: Mar 08

Minneapolis, MN

#11 Jul 26, 2009
Kristen_08 wrote:
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i know right? Mine are still married and they are both black. LOL. So what are they talking about
The younger black generation. The one with no morals or value systems. The one's having baby after baby after baby with multiple daddies. To the point they have even coined names for them..Baby Mammas and Baby daddys not husband and wive.

That is what they are talking about here. Any more stupid questions about this issue?

Btw..I have been married to the same black man for 37 years and I am a white woman.

Since: Mar 08

Minneapolis, MN

#12 Jul 26, 2009
^^^Wife^^^^

“This was so much FUN!”

Since: Sep 08

Thomasville, GA

#13 Jul 26, 2009
Can We Talk wrote:
<quoted text>The younger black generation. The one with no morals or value systems. The one's having baby after baby after baby with multiple daddies. To the point they have even coined names for them..Baby Mammas and Baby daddys not husband and wive.
That is what they are talking about here. Any more stupid questions about this issue?
Btw..I have been married to the same black man for 37 years and I am a white woman.
Do i care and was I talking to you?

Since: Mar 08

Minneapolis, MN

#14 Jul 26, 2009
Kristen_08 wrote:
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Do i care and was I talking to you?
No BUTTTTT..I was talking to your ass now wasn't I?

Since: Mar 08

Minneapolis, MN

#15 Jul 26, 2009
Btw..just for your info and so you can get a grasp of where you are and what we all are doing here. I see you are obviously a bit slow in understanding the concept of being on Topix..LOL&(((((SMHB&F ))))

http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-an-open-forum...
Kristen_08 wrote:
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Do i care and was I talking to you?

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