Are some African American women destr...

Are some African American women destroying the AA family without knowing it?

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“"Class, the #1 Motivator"”

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#1 Oct 23, 2013
I personally feel some of them are. Its a shame that traditions of African American women in some families were Jezebel's and lived the mentality that resulted in them being concubines.

It is up to all of us to do more than make a physical appearance. As Maya Angelou put it, there is plenty of information out here to make people's lives better and one must seek the necessary information to be the best person they can be. That the person does not have to be taught it, but they have to learn it.

From a man's perspective...women should concentrate on more than hair color, facial make-up and clothes that define their body. They should look for more in a man that a tight body and pretty smile.

One of my favorite books is "As A Man Thinketh"..So Shall He Live. I compare that to a woman...As She Thinketh, So Shall She Live.

So if a woman is on Topix arguing and talking smack to men. How is she living in real life compared to the same communications with men. If she is on Topix putting men down, how is her life going in the relationship department? The same exact opposite for men.

I admire women who see things from more than a "narcissistic perspective". Look the word up. The same for men. Most men and women do not know what it means to have the character necessary to build a family. They were never taught anything about raising kids, and some see that as an obligation that would prohibit them from being involved with family. They want to experience all of life for themselves and then complain they are alone. I know women who bring their sons back to the home when they are financially strapped to help them with bills, but not cook dinner for him at all saying, "He is grown and can fix his own dinner". Really?

Some women today are selfish and narcissistic and despise any man that does not go along with the program as she knows where some are with their nose open. This is where the curse comes in. She gets burned by messing with that man thinking she has it under control.

Women know this: No matter how much smack you talk and think you are "Winning" in the world of the union of man and woman. THERE IS NO WINNING IN THIS SITUATION. ITS A COVENANT AND YOU WILL NOT EVER CHANGE THE RULES! That's a fact! Learn how to be better women. stop acting like men. Make better choices of the men you come in contact with. Learn to nurture your family. De-Program yourselves. GET BACK IN THERE AND FIGHT DAMMIT FOR YOUR HERITAGE...OR YOUR CHILDREN WILL PAY.That's a fact! When you go to risky places looking for a good man...that's the same sh*t that got you in trouble in the first place. Risky place, risky man or woman...plain and simple. Like thugs? Then learn to get thugged out and take it! YOU signed up for it. Its your choices ladies and gentlemen. Men like sexy women? She knows that and is going to be sexy for more men than you. EXPECT IT! Now what's your view about this....

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#2 Oct 23, 2013
tl;dr To answer the topic question... YES!!! Simply by having the notion that they don't need men to have a family. And the notion that they can be the "momma and the daddy" <--- LMAO I'm sorry I have to laugh I hear that.

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#3 Oct 23, 2013
BlackRonin wrote:
tl;dr To answer the topic question... YES!!! Simply by having the notion that they don't need men to have a family. And the notion that they can be the "momma and the daddy" <--- LMAO I'm sorry I have to laugh I hear that.
Unfortunately that is the stigma that was indoctrinated into them years ago and reinforced down through generations. Some of them have no idea what is happening. Its even worse when some women who will never have long term relationships reinforce that idea. I have to say sometimes I see how some of them act and its really sad because there is not a chance in hell you can tell them anything. I've seen women who were convinced by their so-called favorite girlfriend that their man is cheating when he isn't....and no good. The girl will break up with their man over what their friend says...and the friend is laying in the cut waiting for the man to be free so she can get with him.Women will listen to other cut throat woman but will not take advice from a man that sees them in a good way and knows what it looks like. In my opinion....a lot of women are going the wrong way and that is starting to be picked up by women like Maya Angelou and Angela Davis. Its a shame but a lot of African American women have fell for a lot of "verbal poison" and do not know how to function well other than being by themselves.
Blacks Are Worthless

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#4 Oct 23, 2013
Blacks, what a bunch.

“"Class, the #1 Motivator"”

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#5 Oct 23, 2013
Blacks Are Worthless wrote:
Blacks, what a bunch.
What a lame azz response. Ethiopian women run to Caucasian men because yall treat them so bad. They hop over men of color all together only to gamble with a crew with a background that does not give a sh*t about her. What a bunch!

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#6 Oct 23, 2013
Now this woman...compares a man and a woman with a scenario that definitely has to be something from a reason to dislike men. It bleeds..."convoluted "...see for yourself...lets see what YOU THINK....her story about what a woman expects of herself is so imaginative it sounds like her goals...and she complains that women have more on them in these days? Really? Listen to what she has on her...in the form of her career, stress for a size 6 body...etc..and she wants someone to feel ideas that put her in that way...really? Is she serious? Is this woman the EXAMPLE....or the RULE...you tell me.

http://www.theblaze.com/stories/2013/10/23/ar...

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#7 Oct 23, 2013
What is the use of working to get a size 6 figure if no one will ever see it because you are at work and focused on your career instead of having a family? How much sense does that make? Is there a psychological problem here? Whats going on with this problem lady?

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#12 Oct 24, 2013
The previous post from numbers 8,10,11 are from a little young azz punk stuck on stupid and who is addicted to Topix. If Topix shut down tomorrow his sister would be in a helluva state because he would have nothing to pour all that energy into. There's no denying he is jealous of African Americans and will try to belittle them every chance he gets, and thinks he can successfully live off the U.S. government for free since coming to the United States. Please ignore his posts and lets address our own problem as he is only a troll on the stroll so he can try and forget his own birth hole. Where we live and what we deal with is paradise compared to what he dealt with before escaping and coming to the U.S. He wouldn't go back to his country or let you throw his azz back to his country. He's an immigrant with no life and sees Topix as what he does everyday. He has no life outside of Topix. He is addicted to Topix. Thats says enough about him.

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#13 Oct 24, 2013
Yep I Said It wrote:
SOME?
72% of AA children from single parent homes is not "some". That's almost 3/4 of all AA children and to say "some" AA children would minimize the severity of this problem.
SOME?
That's a rat hole that allows all the rats to escape from being responsible.
SOME?
This affects all AA's one way or another.
Yep...I said it...

http://ethnomed.org/culture/ethiopian/copy_of...

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#14 Oct 24, 2013
Yep I Said It wrote:
SOME?
72% of AA children from single parent homes is not "some". That's almost 3/4 of all AA children and to say "some" AA children would minimize the severity of this problem.
SOME?
That's a rat hole that allows all the rats to escape from being responsible.
SOME?
This affects all AA's one way or another.
How about FGM in Ethiopia?

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#16 Oct 24, 2013
I am black woman and I am not really into marriage because black men are not what they use to be. I am in my early 20s and so far. I wouldn't marry/commit to not one black man that I have went out on a date with. I’ll admit that I am very picky. The reason why I am picky is because I am very ambitious and I am successful at everything that I complete in life. My fear is letting a black man who wants to be the KING of the castle, but doesn't have the great qualities to be king. Men like that can easily destroy everything I worked for. Its like skating on thin ice with men… I am not going to be a old black woman waiting for a good black man. lol

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#17 Oct 24, 2013
No party is innocent. Both Black women or Black men are at fault and has dropped the ball completely. The blame game is old and tiring. And so are many of peoples excuses.

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#18 Oct 24, 2013
MszNubian wrote:
I am black woman and I am not really into marriage because black men are not what they use to be. I am in my early 20s and so far. I wouldn't marry/commit to not one black man that I have went out on a date with. I’ll admit that I am very picky. The reason why I am picky is because I am very ambitious and I am successful at everything that I complete in life. My fear is letting a black man who wants to be the KING of the castle, but doesn't have the great qualities to be king. Men like that can easily destroy everything I worked for. Its like skating on thin ice with men… I am not going to be a old black woman waiting for a good black man. lol
While you are high fiving yourself and adoring all the accolades you have endowed on yourself, please keep in mind that not all men look at you like you are a prize either. I too am a picky man, and just from your post I can see into a couple of things that would turn me off about you. One would be your aurra of arrogance to think that your opportunity for a man is open only to you. Second thing is probably your appearance. Your post sounds like you are either not as good looking as you think, or you think your good looks is overshadowed by a snobby attitude. there is one other alternative. You're a bullsh*t post that comes to these threads from time time time by a person I call baby-bi*ch who thinks he is fooling someone with these scenarios that are convenient to a bullsh*t idea. I'll go for the latter since your post sounds like you're full of sh*t. The very best of luck....you'll need it!

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#19 Oct 24, 2013
MszNubian wrote:
I am black woman and I am not really into marriage because black men are not what they use to be. I am in my early 20s and so far. I wouldn't marry/commit to not one black man that I have went out on a date with. I’ll admit that I am very picky. The reason why I am picky is because I am very ambitious and I am successful at everything that I complete in life. My fear is letting a black man who wants to be the KING of the castle, but doesn't have the great qualities to be king. Men like that can easily destroy everything I worked for. Its like skating on thin ice with men… I am not going to be a old black woman waiting for a good black man. lol
One last thing...if thats your photo which I think it isn't, I wouldn't find you attractive. You look more to me like someone that would get on my nerves...honestly. Straight up...I don't mess with girls who look like you. They can be annoying, selfish,mouthy, and self-centered. If that's not you, I wouldn't know that so I guess I would lose out by thinking you're not my type anyway. No matter how you slice it, its a two way street with your post.

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#20 Oct 24, 2013
Brngthtrth2u wrote:
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While you are high fiving yourself and adoring all the accolades you have endowed on yourself, please keep in mind that not all men look at you like you are a prize either. I too am a picky man, and just from your post I can see into a couple of things that would turn me off about you. One would be your aurra of arrogance to think that your opportunity for a man is open only to you. Second thing is probably your appearance. Your post sounds like you are either not as good looking as you think, or you think your good looks is overshadowed by a snobby attitude. there is one other alternative. You're a bullsh*t post that comes to these threads from time time time by a person I call baby-bi*ch who thinks he is fooling someone with these scenarios that are convenient to a bullsh*t idea. I'll go for the latter since your post sounds like you're full of sh*t. The very best of luck....you'll need it!
I think you are very confused and intimated by a successful woman like most black men are. I am not arrogant but I am confident from all that I have achieved. Please, I wouldnt even take the time to know you from what I seen on topix. You are very insecure and have a lloooottt of hate. I am just stating my problem and you judge me on what? A small paragraph? LOL Please stop.

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#21 Oct 24, 2013
Brngthtrth2u wrote:
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One last thing...if thats your photo which I think it isn't, I wouldn't find you attractive. You look more to me like someone that would get on my nerves...honestly. Straight up...I don't mess with girls who look like you. They can be annoying, selfish,mouthy, and self-centered. If that's not you, I wouldn't know that so I guess I would lose out by thinking you're not my type anyway. No matter how you slice it, its a two way street with your post.
You think I am going to over power you or know I am not going to take your sh*t?
Which one is it?
BUT ANWAY
Please do not flatter yourself. I know you do not like beautiful, confident, intelligent and successful women.:) Its okay. Some men are different.
Bridgette

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#22 Oct 24, 2013
Brngthtrth2u wrote:
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One last thing...if thats your photo which I think it isn't, I wouldn't find you attractive. You look more to me like someone that would get on my nerves...honestly. Straight up...I don't mess with girls who look like you. They can be annoying, selfish,mouthy, and self-centered. If that's not you, I wouldn't know that so I guess I would lose out by thinking you're not my type anyway. No matter how you slice it, its a two way street with your post.
Why are you attacking? She responded with a legitimate answer in stating she (not all bw) is simply not interested in starting a family. She is not alone either.

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#23 Oct 24, 2013
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I think you are very confused and intimated by a successful woman like most black men are. I am not arrogant but I am confident from all that I have achieved. Please, I wouldnt even take the time to know you from what I seen on topix. You are very insecure and have a lloooottt of hate. I am just stating my problem and you judge me on what? A small paragraph? LOL Please stop.
No...what you hear is I don't have patience for chewing gum baby. I am surrounded by successful business women, and I am willing to bet you...they are more successful than you are. I consider myself successful. Successful as in paying off my $27,000.00 car in 7 months. Could have paid for it when I picked it up really. You're talking to the wrong guy to try and shine on. My car was three years old with low miles when I bought it because I liked that particular style. As for hate, I hate talking to liars, fronters, and people who try to get over by talking. So since you have decided you don't like the way I come across, just stop posting to me. I'm not enjoying you either Ms. One Way Street. Much later for ya!
well

Hamilton, Canada

#24 Oct 24, 2013
AA are chimps. From a chimp comes another chimp.

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#25 Oct 24, 2013
Bridgette wrote:
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Why are you attacking? She responded with a legitimate answer in stating she (not all bw) is simply not interested in starting a family. She is not alone either.
He has issues. smh

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