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Black Women in Interracial Relationships – Tell Your Story

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Sherwood, OR

#2 May 2, 2009
Information for Black Women Interested in Dating Interracially (Part 2)

One lady on another message board said that 90% of the non-black men on the general dating websites say they are not looking for black women when they complete their profile questionnaires. Well, that leaves 10% of the non-black men for black women and that’s plenty. There are way more non-black men compared to black women in American since black folks are a minority; 10% of the huge number of non-black men out there isn’t anything to sneeze at. As interracial relationships that include black women become more accepted in the society, more of the non-black men will participate, just like they do in Europe. In Britain, over 33% of black women are in interracial relationships, mostly with white men. In many other Western European and Scandinavian countries, black women are highly sought after. It’s not all men in these countries that like black women, but plenty do. I remember one Scandinavian guy really sweating me at a party many years ago and one professor from Germany who kept checking me out so intently that I became uncomfortable—fortunately, I was not taking a class with him. See the following link to read about an American white woman’s surprise that British white men were chasing after black women as much as white women when she traveled all over Europe with her friends:;_ylt=...

Also, don’t believe those that say all these non-black men are just after sex from black women. Some are and some aren’t—same thing with black guys. These blogs I mentioned above have many black women who participate who are married to non-black men and some of the blogs have pictures of black women at their weddings to non-black men. I have a distant cousin who is married to a white man. I met this black guy many years ago and his female cousin had just married into the British aristocracy (the groom was the son of a Duke or an Earl). A German prince, Prince Maximilian of Liechtenstein, married a black woman and he’s from one of the wealthiest royal families in Europe. The CEO of Symantec (makers of Norton Anti-virus) is married to a black woman. Count Ferdinand von Habsburg of Austria, who is a descendant of British royalty, married a black woman, Countess Mary. Go to these blogs and see for yourselves. One of the sites even interviews non-celebrity black women in interracial marriages:
(to be continued…)

Sherwood, OR

#3 May 2, 2009
Information for Black Women Interested in Dating Interracially (Part 3)

Unless you live in a city like Los Angeles where black women in interracial relationships is an extremely common occurrence, then it’s probably best to be flexible as far as the location of the person you’re dating. My cousin and her husband (he’s black) were in a long distance relationship when they were dating, so even though long distance relationships are not as convenient as local ones, they can still work. The blogs I listed below are a good place for people to start. On Evia’s blog (Black Female Interracial Marriage Ezine), there is a book on interracial dating for black women that is available for download; on Halima’s blog (Black Women’s Interracial Relationship Circle), another book on the same topic is available.

Also, we need to work on our attitudes. Many black women do have a bad attitude, even though we seem to always be denying or justifying it. I, myself, am a former attitude queen. If we consider the history of black women in America and the current situation, the attitude is understandable, but it’s still not acceptable for us to be this way. We need to regularly spend time in prayer with God asking Him to heal us of this character flaw. For me, the results have been gradual, so I’m no longer an attitude queen, but I wouldn’t say I have arrived either. One white guy who is madly in love with his black girlfriend has started a blog on interracial relationships. He wrote that, compared to Asian women, black women tend to be much tougher on a guy when they are blowing him off. He said that, in general, if an Asian women isn’t interested when a guy approaches her, she will rebuff him very politely and sweetly. According to him, white women are not as polite as Asians when blowing off a guy, but they aren’t as tough as black women.

Anyway, I hope all my single sisters out there find their soul mates, regardless of what color his skin is. The journey can be rough sometimes, but don’t give up because when you find The One, it’s worth it.

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