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Jul 9, 2009 | Posted by: Inisa Love

Hill Harper: Lessons on Love

Full story: www.essence.com

" The Conversation," shares with ESSENCE.com the secret to strong relationships in the Black community and whether men and women can really just be friends. ESSENCE.COM: You have traveled the country during President Obama's and your own book tours. What's the biggest thing sisters aren't clued into about men? HILL HARPER: I've gotten a firsthand view at the destruction that Black men and Black women not being able to stay and build healthy relationships has had on the Black family and Black children. I couldn't sit by silently. My whole next book is about relationships. I'm not saying I have all the answers, I just hope to start the conversation. The biggest issue I have learned is when it comes to Black men and Black women, we are not communicating. ESSENCE.COM: So what will it take for us to open the dialogue? HARPER: It takes really opening up and being willing to be vulnerable. We have to ask the questions we really want answers to, instead of manipulating. For the most part, we see Black women talking to Black women and Black men talking to Black men. Are we really even friends anymore? Obviously, we as men have a lot of cover we put on are very resistant. At the same time, sisters put on a lot of cover, but act as if they are knowledgable in relationships because they talk about them all the time. But they talk amongst themselves and not to men, so it's not cross gender.

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Jul 10, 2009
 
I may purchase this book. Itis very interesting the topic he talks about. Brothas and sistas are not communicating properly

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Jul 10, 2009
 
Hill is very positive brotha

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Jul 10, 2009
 
I like Hill Harper too, he is a good brotha.

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Jul 12, 2009
 
daking wrote:
I may purchase this book. Itis very interesting the topic he talks about. Brothas and sistas are not communicating properly
It's been that way for years and gone on far too long. A black man is not going to feel like his life has a true meaning unless he grabs hold to the black woman, the black family, the black purpose! And the black woman is never going to feel the sense of security, love and respect without the black man upholding her in his presence.
We need each other.
It's time to turn off the "HellaVision" and start paying more attention to the beauty right in front of us.
Society is telling the black man what is suppose to be beautiful, society is telling the black woman she aint beautiful enough if she don't have make up, weaves and wigs on, it's a shame!

Black men, I say, get hold of your black woman, kiss her like she's never been kissed, hold her like she's never been held, tell her you love and look deep into those dark brown eyes and let her know, you need her just as well as she needs you!

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Jul 12, 2009
 
JustdroppedIN wrote:
<quoted text>It's been that way for years and gone on far too long. A black man is not going to feel like his life has a true meaning unless he grabs hold to the black woman, the black family, the black purpose! And the black woman is never going to feel the sense of security, love and respect without the black man upholding her in his presence.
We need each other.
It's time to turn off the "HellaVision" and start paying more attention to the beauty right in front of us.
Society is telling the black man what is suppose to be beautiful, society is telling the black woman she aint beautiful enough if she don't have make up, weaves and wigs on, it's a shame!
Black men, I say, get hold of your black woman, kiss her like she's never been kissed, hold her like she's never been held, tell her you love and look deep into those dark brown eyes and let her know, you need her just as well as she needs you!
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Come and tune into the Weekend Soul show on Every Sunday at 5 am Eastern time on www.generationradio.co.uk , it will be nice and some new tunes will be played this morning from a jazz perspective and fusion and soul tunes too and a blast of soulful house.

Your all welcome

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Soul Brother in London wrote:
<quoted text>Come and tune into the Weekend Soul show on Every Sunday at 5 am Eastern time on www.generationradio.co.uk , it will be nice and some new tunes will be played this morning from a jazz perspective and fusion and soul tunes too and a blast of soulful house.
Your all welcome
Soul Brother in London
Soul brother in London

Sweetest brotha I know! I'm getting ready to get back on the floor to pass, so I gotta run, but if you can Play: No woman No cry: Bob Marly.un kay!

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JustdroppedIN wrote:
<quoted text>It's been that way for years and gone on far too long. A black man is not going to feel like his life has a true meaning unless he grabs hold to the black woman, the black family, the black purpose! And the black woman is never going to feel the sense of security, love and respect without the black man upholding her in his presence.
We need each other.
It's time to turn off the "HellaVision" and start paying more attention to the beauty right in front of us.
Society is telling the black man what is suppose to be beautiful, society is telling the black woman she aint beautiful enough if she don't have make up, weaves and wigs on, it's a shame!
Black men, I say, get hold of your black woman, kiss her like she's never been kissed, hold her like she's never been held, tell her you love and look deep into those dark brown eyes and let her know, you need her just as well as she needs you!
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JDI 09'
As I read this post,

It make a whole lot of sense.

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Jul 12, 2009
 
AlwaysOnPoint wrote:
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As I read this post,
It make a whole lot of sense.
Without you, there'd be no me!

Black love is real, strong and intimidating to the ones outside looking in, that's why in their eyes WE can't be together!

What's happening AOP, miss talking to you.

I'm out this piece but I'll be back later this evening.

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Jul 12, 2009
 
I've embrace that with love we can win, but that's not just with the black people, thats with anyone that will love you for you, I don't like when men say that they can do without a woman, because what's their mother then, a woman, and when women say that they can do without a man, and they have a father, we have to both realise that we need each other and without each other, we all fail. If we want our children to think and act differently it starts and ends with us, it would be fantastic to be in a world where gender warfare don't matter and love does, in regards to every one of us. Let's love is the motto, without love we all lose, with love, we will sure win. There is no fear in love.

Let just love each other, brothers and sisters

A concerned brother and friend

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JustdroppedIN wrote:
<quoted text>Without you, there'd be no me!
Black love is real, strong and intimidating to the ones outside looking in, that's why in their eyes WE can't be together!
What's happening AOP, miss talking to you.
I'm out this piece but I'll be back later this evening.
Peace
JDI 09'
All the time.

I been good.

Just been busy working and all.

Whats been up with you?

I miss talking to you as well.

Holla at cha boy,
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JustdroppedIN wrote:
<quoted text>It's been that way for years and gone on far too long. A black man is not going to feel like his life has a true meaning unless he grabs hold to the black woman, the black family, the black purpose! And the black woman is never going to feel the sense of security, love and respect without the black man upholding her in his presence.
We need each other.
It's time to turn off the "HellaVision" and start paying more attention to the beauty right in front of us.
Society is telling the black man what is suppose to be beautiful, society is telling the black woman she aint beautiful enough if she don't have make up, weaves and wigs on, it's a shame!
Black men, I say, get hold of your black woman, kiss her like she's never been kissed, hold her like she's never been held, tell her you love and look deep into those dark brown eyes and let her know, you need her just as well as she needs you!
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Very Nice and Well Said.
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Jul 12, 2009
 
I guess I need to start reading who be posting articles before I post in em from now on.

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Nice thread! Communication, edifying and rebuilding each other
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Jul 12, 2009
 
good article. sounds like he is talking about the elephant in the bedroom of most relationships and potential friendships between AA men and women.

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AlwaysOnPoint wrote:
I guess I need to start reading who be posting articles before I post in em from now on.
Grow the hell up will you!!! Aren't you too old to be acting like that?

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#16
Jul 12, 2009
 
NOt just communication, appropriate communication and respectful communication. HEALTHY communication. With facts, not stereotypes of either group, that is the fastest way to end communication.
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Hey! im vanessa and im famous!
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