A NEW TWIST! Can you be honest?

So let's be real about something here for just a moment. Here lies Topix AA forum. A gathering place of our people, their people (you know who you are) and many strange and controversial visitors. In this forum, on a daily basis we proclaim our greatness!

"Black is Beautiful", "Black Power", and a host of other sometimes meaningless "slogans." But if for one moment you will allow me to, I'd like to challenge. This question will upset some, warm others while utterly infuriating the weaker of our residents. That being said, I will preface no more.

It was once said by a seemingly wise old man (Doby) "My greatest strength is that I recognize, accept and make "arrangements" for my weaknesses" (use that answer in an interview and you WILL get hired! LOL)

So I ask you Black Brother or Sister, now what is your strength,(I already know how strong you are!) but what is your greatest weakness?

Now before you trip, remember this. If in fact we were everything that we proclaimed to be and lacked any weaknesses, then we would not be here defending the actions, situations, or reputations of ourselves or our people. So be easy....be real!

I will start by listing a few of mine.

1. Procrastinate: I simply wait too long to do things that are important. I need to get better at that.

2. YES MAN: In my efforts to "help" people, I often accept far too many tasks. More than I can actually accomplish which means something doesn't get done, which means upsetting or inconveniencing someone I set out to help.

3. Temper: I could stand to keep a "chill pill" in my pocket for emergencies.

I could keep going, but I think you get the idea. So, who will be honest and take a step towards being all that we "say" we are? Perhaps in discussion, we can here from someone who once shared a similar weakness and that person can show us how he or she overcame it. See where this is going?

Or perhaps we can just skip this whole thread and spend another few months of our time trying to figure who's Patty C.....?

Man, Me and you are alike.

I PROCRASTINATE Way too much. Like I'm just so damn sure I can wait til the last minute. However I'm trying to work on that-Really.

I also have a problem with buying books. I mean I LOVE to read and sometimes I buy too many books. Im also working on that.

I'm a person that wears his heart on his sleeve. I care about people so much that I would actually sacrifice my well being for my friends. Especially when it comes to the ladies.

I tend to lose my temper at times and need to work on it some more. My temper sometimes gets the best of me. Darn Scotch/Irish and German blood.

I can't call it a weakness, but I tell the truth even when it is not appropriate. I would call it a fault. I'm goody two shoes.

Need to think of some more. I'll let you know.

DobyTheDoggy wrote:

So let's be real about something here for just a moment. Here lies Topix AA forum. A gathering place of our people, their people (you know who you are) and many strange and controversial visitors. In this forum, on a daily basis we proclaim our greatness!
"Black is Beautiful", "Black Power", and a host of other sometimes meaningless "slogans." But if for one moment you will allow me to, I'd like to challenge. This question will upset some, warm others while utterly infuriating the weaker of our residents. That being said, I will preface no more.
It was once said by a seemingly wise old man (Doby) "My greatest strength is that I recognize, accept and make "arrangements" for my weaknesses" (use that answer in an interview and you WILL get hired! LOL)
So I ask you Black Brother or Sister, now what is your strength,(I already know how strong you are!) but what is your greatest weakness?
Now before you trip, remember this. If in fact we were everything that we proclaimed to be and lacked any weaknesses, then we would not be here defending the actions, situations, or reputations of ourselves or our people. So be easy....be real!
I will start by listing a few of mine.
1. Procrastinate: I simply wait too long to do things that are important. I need to get better at that.
2. YES MAN: In my efforts to "help" people, I often accept far too many tasks. More than I can actually accomplish which means something doesn't get done, which means upsetting or inconveniencing someone I set out to help.
3. Temper: I could stand to keep a "chill pill" in my pocket for emergencies.
I could keep going, but I think you get the idea. So, who will be honest and take a step towards being all that we "say" we are? Perhaps in discussion, we can here from someone who once shared a similar weakness and that person can show us how he or she overcame it. See where this is going?
Or perhaps we can just skip this whole thread and spend another few months of our time trying to figure who's Patty C.....?

I sometimes wear my heart on my sleeve. I have no patience for nerve racking folks. I am willing to finish anything once started, even if it is bad..and will wait to go in for the KILL. Time matters, not. People think I forgot something...when in fact..I have only lost respect for them. It can happen in degrees, but when I am done with you..I am done. The good: I believe in completion. I have strong faith and really think I can move mountains. I am the little engine that could...no...that WILL!

Jari-ankamun wrote:

Man, Me and you are alike.
I PROCRASTINATE Way too much. Like I'm just so damn sure I can wait til the last minute. However I'm trying to work on that-Really.
I also have a problem with buying books. I mean I LOVE to read and sometimes I buy too many books. Im also working on that.

LOL...my daughter told me not to bring any more books into this house! So I went to barnes and noble to vent! But I am addicted and need a 12 step program. Hello, my name is wolf and I am a bookaholic!

Weakness: I tend to hold crap "in" too long. I will take enormous amounts of unfair criticism, then I will explode with almost inhuman rage when pushed too far, which will lead one to believe that I have gone insane.

2) In man/woman relationships, I tend to be a bit clingy and needy.(a real turn off)

Strengths:1) I am an excellent provider and protector of my family.

2) I am a loyal friend and will take secrets those have shared with me to the grave.

DobyTheDoggy wrote:

So let's be real about something here for just a moment. Here lies Topix AA forum. A gathering place of our people, their people (you know who you are) and many strange and controversial visitors. In this forum, on a daily basis we proclaim our greatness!
"Black is Beautiful", "Black Power", and a host of other sometimes meaningless "slogans." But if for one moment you will allow me to, I'd like to challenge. This question will upset some, warm others while utterly infuriating the weaker of our residents. That being said, I will preface no more.
It was once said by a seemingly wise old man (Doby) "My greatest strength is that I recognize, accept and make "arrangements" for my weaknesses" (use that answer in an interview and you WILL get hired! LOL)
So I ask you Black Brother or Sister, now what is your strength,(I already know how strong you are!) but what is your greatest weakness?
Now before you trip, remember this. If in fact we were everything that we proclaimed to be and lacked any weaknesses, then we would not be here defending the actions, situations, or reputations of ourselves or our people. So be easy....be real!
I will start by listing a few of mine.
1. Procrastinate: I simply wait too long to do things that are important. I need to get better at that.
2. YES MAN: In my efforts to "help" people, I often accept far too many tasks. More than I can actually accomplish which means something doesn't get done, which means upsetting or inconveniencing someone I set out to help.
3. Temper: I could stand to keep a "chill pill" in my pocket for emergencies.
I could keep going, but I think you get the idea. So, who will be honest and take a step towards being all that we "say" we are? Perhaps in discussion, we can here from someone who once shared a similar weakness and that person can show us how he or she overcame it. See where this is going?
Or perhaps we can just skip this whole thread and spend another few months of our time trying to figure who's Patty C.....?

I think we have figured that one out already, Doby.(smiles)

Ok people...I love you all but no listing of strengths.

Let's discuss things we need to improve on. Also feel free to comment with a "helpful" suggestion os story about how you overcame a listed weakness or a suggestion as to how that person may overcome.

1) Like everyone said I already, I procrastinate too. Wait to the last second to do things and then have to work 10 times harder to complete it.
2) I'm too sensative and get offended easily
3)I'm not that detail orientated and be moving so quickly that i don't notice things until its too late
4) I have a little bit of a big mouth, I have accidentally told someone's secret to one person and everybody end up finding out. Not a lot but a few times.
I got strengths too ofcourse to balance out my faults

Doby, I know you wanted to hear just from blacks, so I hope you don't mind me popping in.

I take things too seriously.
I like everything to be just right.
I get mad easy.
I am anti-social.

I have no answer to solve these problems of mine, except to deal with it and try to control it.

By the way, do you have any more of those riddles we were doing the other night?

DobyTheDoggy wrote:

Ok people...I love you all but no listing of strengths.
Let's discuss things we need to improve on. Also feel free to comment with a "helpful" suggestion os story about how you overcame a listed weakness or a suggestion as to how that person may overcome.

O.K. babes - cool. Thank you for this thread, Doby; on-line self-improvement class, so to speak. Excellent.

Ticked wrote:

Doby, I know you wanted to hear just from blacks, so I hope you don't mind me popping in.
I take things too seriously.
I like everything to be just right.
I get mad easy.
I am anti-social.
I have no answer to solve these problems of mine, except to deal with it and try to control it.
By the way, do you have any more of those riddles we were doing the other night?

I am not a racist. All are welcome, especially since the subject is focusing on being a better person.

This is beautiful. People telling things about themselves. Doby, this is a hit. Excellent work my man. Or in your words, CLASSIC!!

OK, I've got another

I'm always so focused on what I want to achieve,(the big goal) that I tend to give too little focus to the "small" things that need to take place in order to get there.

Effect: Nothing get's done!

DobyTheDoggy wrote:

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I am not a racist. All are welcome, especially since the subject is focusing on being a better person.

I didn't mean to imply you were a racist. In your original post, you said "my black brothers and sisters", something to that extent. I was just trying to be polite because I try to avoid threads with just black issues that I can't relate to. I hope that sounded right.

DobyTheDoggy wrote:

So let's be real about something here for just a moment. Here lies Topix AA forum. A gathering place of our people, their people (you know who you are) and many strange and controversial visitors. In this forum, on a daily basis we proclaim our greatness!
"Black is Beautiful", "Black Power", and a host of other sometimes meaningless "slogans." But if for one moment you will allow me to, I'd like to challenge. This question will upset some, warm others while utterly infuriating the weaker of our residents. That being said, I will preface no more.
It was once said by a seemingly wise old man (Doby) "My greatest strength is that I recognize, accept and make "arrangements" for my weaknesses" (use that answer in an interview and you WILL get hired! LOL)
So I ask you Black Brother or Sister, now what is your strength,(I already know how strong you are!) but what is your greatest weakness?
Now before you trip, remember this. If in fact we were everything that we proclaimed to be and lacked any weaknesses, then we would not be here defending the actions, situations, or reputations of ourselves or our people. So be easy....be real!
I will start by listing a few of mine.
1. Procrastinate: I simply wait too long to do things that are important. I need to get better at that.
2. YES MAN: In my efforts to "help" people, I often accept far too many tasks. More than I can actually accomplish which means something doesn't get done, which means upsetting or inconveniencing someone I set out to help.
3. Temper: I could stand to keep a "chill pill" in my pocket for emergencies.
I could keep going, but I think you get the idea. So, who will be honest and take a step towards being all that we "say" we are? Perhaps in discussion, we can here from someone who once shared a similar weakness and that person can show us how he or she overcame it. See where this is going?
Or perhaps we can just skip this whole thread and spend another few months of our time trying to figure who's Patty C.....?

I have the same weaknesses as you Doby and really have a hard time overcoming them.
My greatest strength is that I see the good in every one no matter what their background or their past crime. I recognise that no one can truly be evil itself, only follow it.

i do have snobbish tendencies...workin on that. my hubby is down to earth..that is one of the things i love about him. and comin from my folks...i think i have progressed quite a bit with relinquishing elitism. what is kinda ironic is that here the Chinese culture is very class based. sigh.

i have a temper that lies in wait. it takes a long while to stoke it...but...it is not pretty. thank goodness i don't get upset that often.

i don't give folks in my life too many chances to mess up. after a second chance, i am done and will right off folk rather easily. i can forgive easily and harbor no ill will...i just do not tend to care afterwards. apathy is not a good trait.

i have met many folk here in Macau, but i am just not ready to invest in yet another group of friends to just leave again. i make friendly acquaintances rather easily, but this time because i am getting older and am ready to have kids, i am being incredibly selective with whom i befriend. i just rather keep things formal for now.

DobyTheDoggy wrote:

So let's be real about something here for just a moment. Here lies Topix AA forum. A gathering place of our people, their people (you know who you are) and many strange and controversial visitors. In this forum, on a daily basis we proclaim our greatness!
"Black is Beautiful", "Black Power", and a host of other sometimes meaningless "slogans." But if for one moment you will allow me to, I'd like to challenge. This question will upset some, warm others while utterly infuriating the weaker of our residents. That being said, I will preface no more.
It was once said by a seemingly wise old man (Doby) "My greatest strength is that I recognize, accept and make "arrangements" for my weaknesses" (use that answer in an interview and you WILL get hired! LOL)
So I ask you Black Brother or Sister, now what is your strength,(I already know how strong you are!) but what is your greatest weakness?
Now before you trip, remember this. If in fact we were everything that we proclaimed to be and lacked any weaknesses, then we would not be here defending the actions, situations, or reputations of ourselves or our people. So be easy....be real!
I will start by listing a few of mine.
1. Procrastinate: I simply wait too long to do things that are important. I need to get better at that.
2. YES MAN: In my efforts to "help" people, I often accept far too many tasks. More than I can actually accomplish which means something doesn't get done, which means upsetting or inconveniencing someone I set out to help.
3. Temper: I could stand to keep a "chill pill" in my pocket for emergencies.
I could keep going, but I think you get the idea. So, who will be honest and take a step towards being all that we "say" we are? Perhaps in discussion, we can here from someone who once shared a similar weakness and that person can show us how he or she overcame it. See where this is going?
Or perhaps we can just skip this whole thread and spend another few months of our time trying to figure who's Patty C.....?

..so confusing to me since you came back...a little difrent so to speak....I have the same madnesses as other humans are willing to admit....it's all human trait, I think...eveything we admit to so easily are the honorable sounding things...but of course, we all have our real demons, we won't even admit to ourselves, let alone others( like I would really say, less lone others)

Ticked wrote:

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I didn't mean to imply you were a racist. In your original post, you said "my black brothers and sisters", something to that extent. I was just trying to be polite because I try to avoid threads with just black issues that I can't relate to. I hope that sounded right.

You're right Ticked, and I should have phrased that a bit differently. We ALL can stand to take an honest look at ourselves and understand what it will take to be better more successful people. Welcome to the thread!

NOW SPILL YOUR GUTS! LOL!

SANCHNETTE wrote:

.so confusing to me since you came back...a little difrent so to speak....)

What's different about me?